~ Depressed and scared ~

Posted by amberpep @amberpep, Tue, Feb 26 8:00am

I'm 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I'm just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don't have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there's not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there's enough), and my son sends me money each month. I'm sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I'm thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I'd have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they're all on line now), and legally they're not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college …. well, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I'm so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby

@smilie

Hi. It took me a long time to get going but I got up and out of the house. Right now I’m in bed and not ready to get up. It’s 8:12 am in Toronto.

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@smilie Good for you! Can you see me cheering from the sidelines? Repeat that today, please, get up and out of the house. Go to a park, sit outside, go to a library, just be. Don't give yourself a bad time for taking your time, the thing is you're participating in life. We care about your situation, and you.
Ginger

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@smilie

Hi. It took me a long time to get going but I got up and out of the house. Right now I’m in bed and not ready to get up. It’s 8:12 am in Toronto.

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Good morning, @smilie. I hope you have air conditioning. It's looks like a very hot and muggy day in Toronto today. But the sunshine is glorious. This morning I did exactly as @gingerw suggested. I got up, made a cup of tea and watered my house plants. I just recently inherited a few new plants. It's nice to have more plants in the house. Do you have house plants?

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@smilie

Hi, I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Big hugs and prayers.

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Thank you!

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@colleenyoung

Good morning, @smilie. I hope you have air conditioning. It's looks like a very hot and muggy day in Toronto today. But the sunshine is glorious. This morning I did exactly as @gingerw suggested. I got up, made a cup of tea and watered my house plants. I just recently inherited a few new plants. It's nice to have more plants in the house. Do you have house plants?

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Hi. Yes I have a very small collection of plants and the oldest one that I have was started by my Mom in 1965. And fortunately I haven’t killed it!!!! My Mother had a green hand never mind a green thumb. I’m trying to feel good!

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@smilie

Hi. Yes I have a very small collection of plants and the oldest one that I have was started by my Mom in 1965. And fortunately I haven’t killed it!!!! My Mother had a green hand never mind a green thumb. I’m trying to feel good!

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@smilie My mother had a very green thumb/hand also! A couple of my sisters have inherited that green thumb. I can grow most cactus and succulents as long as they are simple. What kind of plant is that, to grow since 1965?I
Ginger

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@gingerw

@smilie My mother had a very green thumb/hand also! A couple of my sisters have inherited that green thumb. I can grow most cactus and succulents as long as they are simple. What kind of plant is that, to grow since 1965?I
Ginger

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It’s called a corn plant. The leaves look like corn on the cob and the middle looks like bamboo.

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@smilie

It’s called a corn plant. The leaves look like corn on the cob and the middle looks like bamboo.

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@smilie You have quite a legacy to keep up then! I looked up the corn plant, and would like to get one, except it isn't friendly to cats. Pretty sure my cat would not leave it alone.
Ginger

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Hi @amberpep , I was depressed and frightened too, I moved back into the community that I grew up in, everyone I knew is gone, my family is now passed away, and I felt frightened and alone.

So, what I did was joined the local Elks club, I'm lucky to have it near my home. Elks are nationwide and I found the Virginia Elks website
https://www.virginiaelks.org/

The Elks are predominantly a group of retired people who party and socialize. I'm an officer now actually, and I attend lodge meetings 2 times a month. But you certainly don't need to become a member right away. I hope there is an Elks near you. We play euchre on Wednesday, we have a 4 table euchre tournament. We have dinners on Friday nights with a band, last night we had hot dogs and burgers. I feel somewhat out of place as I'm younger, but I found it vital to making new friends in my new area. I volunteer alot there, we had a nice car show that made the local news for example and I sold raffle tickets. The Elks sponsors service projects for veterans and youth. The facility is rented each weekend for wedding receptions.

If the Elks isn't near you, perhaps your community has a euchre club? we have a serious group of retirees who meet daily and play tournament euchre. They are always looking for players for euchre around here, it's alot of fun, I win occassionally, winner gets about $20.

my community also has a Center for Active Seniors , or CASI, it's called. There's a euchre game at CASI, and resources for lonely folks like us, I went there one time to ask about Medicare open enrollment, they have activities, lunch, classes. Maybe your community has one, many locals hang out at CASI here:
https://www.casiseniors.org/activities-and-events.php

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@Erinmfs

Hi @amberpep , I was depressed and frightened too, I moved back into the community that I grew up in, everyone I knew is gone, my family is now passed away, and I felt frightened and alone.

So, what I did was joined the local Elks club, I'm lucky to have it near my home. Elks are nationwide and I found the Virginia Elks website
https://www.virginiaelks.org/

The Elks are predominantly a group of retired people who party and socialize. I'm an officer now actually, and I attend lodge meetings 2 times a month. But you certainly don't need to become a member right away. I hope there is an Elks near you. We play euchre on Wednesday, we have a 4 table euchre tournament. We have dinners on Friday nights with a band, last night we had hot dogs and burgers. I feel somewhat out of place as I'm younger, but I found it vital to making new friends in my new area. I volunteer alot there, we had a nice car show that made the local news for example and I sold raffle tickets. The Elks sponsors service projects for veterans and youth. The facility is rented each weekend for wedding receptions.

If the Elks isn't near you, perhaps your community has a euchre club? we have a serious group of retirees who meet daily and play tournament euchre. They are always looking for players for euchre around here, it's alot of fun, I win occassionally, winner gets about $20.

my community also has a Center for Active Seniors , or CASI, it's called. There's a euchre game at CASI, and resources for lonely folks like us, I went there one time to ask about Medicare open enrollment, they have activities, lunch, classes. Maybe your community has one, many locals hang out at CASI here:
https://www.casiseniors.org/activities-and-events.php

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Sounds great Keep it up wish I could have an interest but I do not

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@gingerw

@smilie You have quite a legacy to keep up then! I looked up the corn plant, and would like to get one, except it isn't friendly to cats. Pretty sure my cat would not leave it alone.
Ginger

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Yes I do have, but if only I could be good with plants too!

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@smilie

Yes I do have, but if only I could be good with plants too!

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@smilie Keeping that plant alive for so long shows you have a green thumb for that type, anyway! My cactus plants like me most of the time, because I leave them alone ;)) Keep up the great job! What are you doing today for yourself, to enjoy the day? Will you share with us? We care.
Ginger

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I sure did smile!!

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@Erinmfs

Hi @amberpep , I was depressed and frightened too, I moved back into the community that I grew up in, everyone I knew is gone, my family is now passed away, and I felt frightened and alone.

So, what I did was joined the local Elks club, I'm lucky to have it near my home. Elks are nationwide and I found the Virginia Elks website
https://www.virginiaelks.org/

The Elks are predominantly a group of retired people who party and socialize. I'm an officer now actually, and I attend lodge meetings 2 times a month. But you certainly don't need to become a member right away. I hope there is an Elks near you. We play euchre on Wednesday, we have a 4 table euchre tournament. We have dinners on Friday nights with a band, last night we had hot dogs and burgers. I feel somewhat out of place as I'm younger, but I found it vital to making new friends in my new area. I volunteer alot there, we had a nice car show that made the local news for example and I sold raffle tickets. The Elks sponsors service projects for veterans and youth. The facility is rented each weekend for wedding receptions.

If the Elks isn't near you, perhaps your community has a euchre club? we have a serious group of retirees who meet daily and play tournament euchre. They are always looking for players for euchre around here, it's alot of fun, I win occassionally, winner gets about $20.

my community also has a Center for Active Seniors , or CASI, it's called. There's a euchre game at CASI, and resources for lonely folks like us, I went there one time to ask about Medicare open enrollment, they have activities, lunch, classes. Maybe your community has one, many locals hang out at CASI here:
https://www.casiseniors.org/activities-and-events.php

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My Grandfather was a member of the Elks. Great group. I had fun there as a kid.

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@kdo0827

It can be so frustrating trying to find something that will help. I’ve finally found that a combination of Cymbalta and Adderral help. I still don’t have any desire to get out and go places but some of that is related to my chronic pain. Normally after I do get out I enjoy things but it’s like pulling teeth(I was a dental practice manager) to get me out. The Adderral has made a big difference in my energy level and it makes me feel good to accomplish things during my day. You’ve certainly had a lot to deal with. Have you tried Cymbalta or Adderral?

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Hi, @kdo0827 – thanks for the information on the new combination of medications, the Duloxetine (Cymbalta) and adderall, that is helping you. Have you been able to get out of the house some this past week?

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@gingerw

@smilie You have quite a legacy to keep up then! I looked up the corn plant, and would like to get one, except it isn't friendly to cats. Pretty sure my cat would not leave it alone.
Ginger

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Hi! I’m suffering this morning from depression and anxiety. I had breakfast, I took my pills and just now I took a second Ativan. I’m half dressed and I have things to do, which I did start, like laundry. I’m lying down again and I don’t have the will and energy to move. In fact I want to slam my head into a wall!!!!

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