Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?
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Sure do not want be a burden either . Know what you mean.
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Ok folks field trip!!! Chocolate factory anyone ?
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It definitely irritates me too. They assume you sit around and mope and complain all the time! They assume you don’t do anything but I would assume most of us do get out, volunteer or try to do something. Depression is due to a chemical imbalance so taking a walk isn’t the cure, nor is reading a book! I’m truly trying, I just need some compassion and help.
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We are quite an intelligent group so hang in there and chat when the gravy needs stirring.
REPLY@kdo0827 I can understand in many ways how it can feel frustrating when you are trying. I don’t believe anyone is invalidating your efforts. I hear you on needing some help. Being presented with a long list of suggestions can be overwhelming. I have times I just cannot get motivated. I ponder things I enjoy, things I need to do-still nothing inspires me to do anything. I am not lazy and get upset with myself when I lack the energy to find even one teeny-tiny reason to move. This is where I want to scream because nothing seems to work. We are here to share the good, the bad and the ugly and lend a hand where we can. You are here telling us about how it is and that is a start. At times nothing seems to help and it is NOT because we are wallowing in self pity. I hope I made some sense.
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@becsbuddy And all other chocolate lovers-Ghiradelli 100% Cocoa definitely helps.
REPLYWilly Wonka here I come!!
REPLYLove it ! This has been a wonderful day . Fun and helpful . Thanks for getting it started Parus.
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@afrobin When you talk about not being a burden, I know exactly what you mean. I feel that I can be a burden on my husband who already does so much for me. I then ask some of the women in the dog park if they would drop me off at the doctors office. Some have even volunteered! I do small things for them when I can , so it sort of evens out.
I used to tell my oldest som, when he would drive an hour out of his way after work to visit his grandfather in the hospital, that he could look back and have no regrets-he had done the right thing. Don’t worry about asking your kids! Do something in return if you can. Let them know you’d never ask if you could do for yourself.
My sisters have asked why I don’t use Uber—maybe I should!
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