Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Jan 23, 2021
I find that when our cat sleeps on the bed, she is "glued" to me, usually somewhere between knee and ankle. The comfort and weight of feeling her helps me rest. And this time of year, there is a heavy blanket on the bed, which also lends to "cocooning".
Ginger
I find that when our cat sleeps on the bed, she is "glued" to me, usually somewhere between knee and ankle. The comfort and weight of feeling her helps me rest. And this time of year, there is a heavy blanket on the bed, which also lends to "cocooning".
Ginger
..ah Ginger so comforting... we cant have cat as adult daughter highly allergic although doesnt live here, even a visit sets her off after a few minutes: we got our first pup after 30 yrs of marriage, when I retired.... she slept at the foot of my bed for about 5 or more years... we moved and then she got sore hip - had my husband lower the bed frame and she continued for about a year to jump up...then no longer wanted to climb up the 8 stairs or jump up to sleep with with me. It's odd but even after all these years, often when I now get up in the morning, my eyes still go to the foot of the bed to see her! She is now 11 and weights 75lbs...have had to substitute with a small teddy bear!!!
..ah Ginger so comforting... we cant have cat as adult daughter highly allergic although doesnt live here, even a visit sets her off after a few minutes: we got our first pup after 30 yrs of marriage, when I retired.... she slept at the foot of my bed for about 5 or more years... we moved and then she got sore hip - had my husband lower the bed frame and she continued for about a year to jump up...then no longer wanted to climb up the 8 stairs or jump up to sleep with with me. It's odd but even after all these years, often when I now get up in the morning, my eyes still go to the foot of the bed to see her! She is now 11 and weights 75lbs...have had to substitute with a small teddy bear!!!
Lacy, Animals are very comforting! I sleep in a King size bed! My two 50lb healers take up two thirds of the bed! I get the other third! I have a leg pillow that is between us. My old dog used to sleep below my feet. He weighed about 75lbs. I sleep on my side, so I think that may have been what caused my bursitis in my right hip.
So they are on the other half now! Really Great when you have a tough time sleeping and one of them knows it and gives you a big kiss in the middle of the night!
Sundance(RB)
ah. that's nice Sundance. Well we get along well but second marriage and five years into our marriage i had cancer of cervix and treated out of town , 4 hours each way, and had issues and was away 2 and half months without a visit home.... we couldn't afford to have him visit me except at beginning and end... price of gas and accommodation and meals etc. When back home things were not quite the same... believe it or not we both snored; having 3 bedrooms in a small house we then each took our own bedroom. So it would be over fifteen years own rooms and when we got puppy we bought a large cage, left open . mattress and blankets etc as vet said dog would like its own space but first night at 3am the pup came into my room and i lifted her into bed with me.... it was so nice to have a living creature with me, emotionally. However as I say, after about five years and with her hip problem etc. she now stays downstairs on her own bed ... its kind of funny because before we adopted her I used to think having a dog in the bedroom was a terrible idea... germs and all, but love won over the sometimes not too clean paws (we were at cottage on lake) although I was constantly washing the bedspread! . I still feel that it might not have been the most sanitary situation given that she roamed outdoors all day, but I sure miss having her share my nest !!!
ah. that's nice Sundance. Well we get along well but second marriage and five years into our marriage i had cancer of cervix and treated out of town , 4 hours each way, and had issues and was away 2 and half months without a visit home.... we couldn't afford to have him visit me except at beginning and end... price of gas and accommodation and meals etc. When back home things were not quite the same... believe it or not we both snored; having 3 bedrooms in a small house we then each took our own bedroom. So it would be over fifteen years own rooms and when we got puppy we bought a large cage, left open . mattress and blankets etc as vet said dog would like its own space but first night at 3am the pup came into my room and i lifted her into bed with me.... it was so nice to have a living creature with me, emotionally. However as I say, after about five years and with her hip problem etc. she now stays downstairs on her own bed ... its kind of funny because before we adopted her I used to think having a dog in the bedroom was a terrible idea... germs and all, but love won over the sometimes not too clean paws (we were at cottage on lake) although I was constantly washing the bedspread! . I still feel that it might not have been the most sanitary situation given that she roamed outdoors all day, but I sure miss having her share my nest !!!
Lacy, I can understand where you are coming from on both the marriage and the animals! My wife and I have been married for 45 years. Somewhere along the line we grew apart for a number of reasons. We can't be in the same house together more than 48 hours. I know it takes two ! She lives up in the Northern part of New Mexico with my daughter and grandson, 9 years old, we talk by text every day. Just better this way! The dogs and I have less stress!
I wash my spread every week or so. I live in a gated community with a very small backyard, so all their germs are our own!
Likewise, I'm understanding what stress I was living with! Doing better now!
Sundance(RB)
Lacy, I can understand where you are coming from on both the marriage and the animals! My wife and I have been married for 45 years. Somewhere along the line we grew apart for a number of reasons. We can't be in the same house together more than 48 hours. I know it takes two ! She lives up in the Northern part of New Mexico with my daughter and grandson, 9 years old, we talk by text every day. Just better this way! The dogs and I have less stress!
I wash my spread every week or so. I live in a gated community with a very small backyard, so all their germs are our own!
Likewise, I'm understanding what stress I was living with! Doing better now!
Sundance(RB)
@sundance Glad you are doing better now... well the common interests we have when younger or when we meet someone can change a little or a lot over the years. We had the typical male/female roles for many years which I was OK with... me cooking, cleaning, working, buying the family gifts etc and he looking after the yard, vehicles, working, fixing etc. When I got sick last episode I spent most of the time in my bedroom and he was bringing me sandwiches, coffee and such; this went on for more than I hoped... then 2 months ago he had major surgery and away from home, and I had to get up and about and look after the dog. etc. again... albeit by the skin of my teeth. Now, he thinks he knows more about cooking etc. than me, lol.... we have to end up laughing about it and look at each other and say: we deserve each other! Seriously, I feel "illness" in all its shapes and forms has affected our relationship/partnership which used to run like clockwork... and I am sure if it got to that point, living apart could be the only choice....however, it hasnt reached that point yet. I feel its nice to hear you keep in touch though, especially for your daughter and grandson... wish I had grandchldren! My first (abusive) marriage lasted nine years, so being together for 40 years these days is, I think, an achievement of sorts..... take care... it's so cold here today too cold even for the dog to go out for long -
minus 20 celsius this morning colder with wind chill..brrrr
So Lacy, I just did this 1,000-word essay on relationships, life and kindness! So it's probably best I accidentally erased it! I might have gotten lectured on deviating from the original subject of this thread!
Anyway, as we grow our mind and bodies seem to change! What we were at one time we aren't that same now!
What I have learned, after 74 years, is the most important thing in Life and Relationships is Communication, Compassion and Gratitude! (Easier said than done sometimes!) Because we may grow apart it doesn't mean either of us is a Bad Person! We just change!
If in my case my wife and I can't live together it doesn't mean we can't still just be friends! That's how we started out over 40 years ago!
Talk to each other! Be open and be truthful! If what either one of you says the other can't handle then maybe it is time to change directions!
Minus 20 there, huh! BBBUUUUURRR! I complain that it was 20 here this morning! It's up to 56 now at 4 PM, MDT!
We have two storms coming through the Southwest this week which will be Great! We are so dry! But Hey, that's why they call this a desert!
We may get 2" here in ABQ, the mountains should get a couple of feet! I know that sounds like flurries to you all!
As for sleeping someone mentioned a hospital type bed that goes up and down! No, Thank You! I guess if I'm in a coma it may be ok, other than that it is not natural for me.
I have found that some big fluffy bed covers under your bottom sheet works Great!
From, The Land of Enchantment!
Sundance(RB)
So Lacy, I just did this 1,000-word essay on relationships, life and kindness! So it's probably best I accidentally erased it! I might have gotten lectured on deviating from the original subject of this thread!
Anyway, as we grow our mind and bodies seem to change! What we were at one time we aren't that same now!
What I have learned, after 74 years, is the most important thing in Life and Relationships is Communication, Compassion and Gratitude! (Easier said than done sometimes!) Because we may grow apart it doesn't mean either of us is a Bad Person! We just change!
If in my case my wife and I can't live together it doesn't mean we can't still just be friends! That's how we started out over 40 years ago!
Talk to each other! Be open and be truthful! If what either one of you says the other can't handle then maybe it is time to change directions!
Minus 20 there, huh! BBBUUUUURRR! I complain that it was 20 here this morning! It's up to 56 now at 4 PM, MDT!
We have two storms coming through the Southwest this week which will be Great! We are so dry! But Hey, that's why they call this a desert!
We may get 2" here in ABQ, the mountains should get a couple of feet! I know that sounds like flurries to you all!
As for sleeping someone mentioned a hospital type bed that goes up and down! No, Thank You! I guess if I'm in a coma it may be ok, other than that it is not natural for me.
I have found that some big fluffy bed covers under your bottom sheet works Great!
From, The Land of Enchantment!
Sundance(RB)
Oh dear I do have a habit of changing subjects during a conversation. The counsellor who phones me (as no office visits) lets me ramble on.. then I say, ooops, now your turn to talk. Think back to the days of yore when we were so tired and fell into bed and slept all night. Am afraid I have to take a pill at bedtime now but its the lesser of two evils. I do have my ipad on bed all ready to listen to a relaxation tape or such either with speaker low or with headphones and the combination helps with sleep. One thing, our gas fired hot air furnace is in the basement right under my bed!!! So sometimes when we wake up it's because of a noise we hear... its so cold out and the newer furnaces bring in cold air, heat it up, then blow it through to each room...but as I contend: its bringing in air that is minus 20 !! Takes a long time to heat up that air. So for those who suddenly wake up, wondered if possible its because of a noisy car going by or such... when I used to go back to visit my Mum in UK the birds used to wake me up and I was ticked off... but now with cognitive thinking therapy I try and say to myself: Ahhh, nice little birdies waking me up! (grrrr... lol)
Oh dear I do have a habit of changing subjects during a conversation. The counsellor who phones me (as no office visits) lets me ramble on.. then I say, ooops, now your turn to talk. Think back to the days of yore when we were so tired and fell into bed and slept all night. Am afraid I have to take a pill at bedtime now but its the lesser of two evils. I do have my ipad on bed all ready to listen to a relaxation tape or such either with speaker low or with headphones and the combination helps with sleep. One thing, our gas fired hot air furnace is in the basement right under my bed!!! So sometimes when we wake up it's because of a noise we hear... its so cold out and the newer furnaces bring in cold air, heat it up, then blow it through to each room...but as I contend: its bringing in air that is minus 20 !! Takes a long time to heat up that air. So for those who suddenly wake up, wondered if possible its because of a noisy car going by or such... when I used to go back to visit my Mum in UK the birds used to wake me up and I was ticked off... but now with cognitive thinking therapy I try and say to myself: Ahhh, nice little birdies waking me up! (grrrr... lol)
Lacy, That is too funny! Since I was born with a speech impediment and was not able to hold a conversation until I was over 18 I have the same tendency to talk too much! I have to stop myself and listen to the other person! As far as going to sleep, I have taken Ambiem for over 10 years! Is it habit-forming? Yes! Is it maybe more psychological? Probably! But does it help me sleep?
YES!! Sleep and liquids are the two most important things we cannot live without!
I get tired of how the media makes these things like a danger to human life!
Go down any pharmacy aisle and there are 8 feet of sleep medications.
It's a universal problem !
For a long time when I traveled for 30 weeks a year and slept in different hotels and places that I had to turn the AC on in order to block out the noise!
I'm lucky that my furnace is down the hall, so I don't hear it kick on! I do have a room AC that I have that will kick on and off, but I'm used to the noise! Must be old age!
From, The Land of Enchantment I want to pass along a beautiful start of a sunset! The mountains to our east at 10,340' have snow on the top and the sun is making them sparkle!
Sundance(RB)
Lacy, That is too funny! Since I was born with a speech impediment and was not able to hold a conversation until I was over 18 I have the same tendency to talk too much! I have to stop myself and listen to the other person! As far as going to sleep, I have taken Ambiem for over 10 years! Is it habit-forming? Yes! Is it maybe more psychological? Probably! But does it help me sleep?
YES!! Sleep and liquids are the two most important things we cannot live without!
I get tired of how the media makes these things like a danger to human life!
Go down any pharmacy aisle and there are 8 feet of sleep medications.
It's a universal problem !
For a long time when I traveled for 30 weeks a year and slept in different hotels and places that I had to turn the AC on in order to block out the noise!
I'm lucky that my furnace is down the hall, so I don't hear it kick on! I do have a room AC that I have that will kick on and off, but I'm used to the noise! Must be old age!
From, The Land of Enchantment I want to pass along a beautiful start of a sunset! The mountains to our east at 10,340' have snow on the top and the sun is making them sparkle!
Sundance(RB)
...ha just deleted my l-o-n-g reply.
I was given Clonazepam for almost 20 yrs for sleep, along with Zoloft which is another story. Yes now government and Colleges of Physicians and Surgeons are telling doctors to get their patients off "Benzos"... taken by patients who by now usually are Seniors and NO HELP with withdrawal symptoms. And they are cutting off people "cold turkey"... it's disgraceful. My ex GP gave me them - 90 pills every 3 months without question, never even asked if I was taking them. As you say there are so many OTC drugs can be purchased which are habit-forming. Honestly, I would rather take no medications at all.... but I just cannot cope at the best of times, let alone when I have not had much sleep. and after all these years and at age 77 why not just let me continue to take them..... but if I want to buy marijuana etc. I can get it legally, as much as I want (I don't want)... its mind boggling. My spouse does not sleep well, nor my adult children .... actually I can't think of anyone I know who says they sleep well these days: pain, stress, and some meds even cause insomnia: but my dog is flat out right now dreaming of ? looks so peaceful: ... maybe in my next life????
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I find that when our cat sleeps on the bed, she is "glued" to me, usually somewhere between knee and ankle. The comfort and weight of feeling her helps me rest. And this time of year, there is a heavy blanket on the bed, which also lends to "cocooning".
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4 Reactions..ah Ginger so comforting... we cant have cat as adult daughter highly allergic although doesnt live here, even a visit sets her off after a few minutes: we got our first pup after 30 yrs of marriage, when I retired.... she slept at the foot of my bed for about 5 or more years... we moved and then she got sore hip - had my husband lower the bed frame and she continued for about a year to jump up...then no longer wanted to climb up the 8 stairs or jump up to sleep with with me. It's odd but even after all these years, often when I now get up in the morning, my eyes still go to the foot of the bed to see her! She is now 11 and weights 75lbs...have had to substitute with a small teddy bear!!!
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4 ReactionsLacy, Animals are very comforting! I sleep in a King size bed! My two 50lb healers take up two thirds of the bed! I get the other third! I have a leg pillow that is between us. My old dog used to sleep below my feet. He weighed about 75lbs. I sleep on my side, so I think that may have been what caused my bursitis in my right hip.
So they are on the other half now! Really Great when you have a tough time sleeping and one of them knows it and gives you a big kiss in the middle of the night!
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3 Reactionsah. that's nice Sundance. Well we get along well but second marriage and five years into our marriage i had cancer of cervix and treated out of town , 4 hours each way, and had issues and was away 2 and half months without a visit home.... we couldn't afford to have him visit me except at beginning and end... price of gas and accommodation and meals etc. When back home things were not quite the same... believe it or not we both snored; having 3 bedrooms in a small house we then each took our own bedroom. So it would be over fifteen years own rooms and when we got puppy we bought a large cage, left open . mattress and blankets etc as vet said dog would like its own space but first night at 3am the pup came into my room and i lifted her into bed with me.... it was so nice to have a living creature with me, emotionally. However as I say, after about five years and with her hip problem etc. she now stays downstairs on her own bed ... its kind of funny because before we adopted her I used to think having a dog in the bedroom was a terrible idea... germs and all, but love won over the sometimes not too clean paws (we were at cottage on lake) although I was constantly washing the bedspread! . I still feel that it might not have been the most sanitary situation given that she roamed outdoors all day, but I sure miss having her share my nest !!!
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4 ReactionsLacy, I can understand where you are coming from on both the marriage and the animals! My wife and I have been married for 45 years. Somewhere along the line we grew apart for a number of reasons. We can't be in the same house together more than 48 hours. I know it takes two ! She lives up in the Northern part of New Mexico with my daughter and grandson, 9 years old, we talk by text every day. Just better this way! The dogs and I have less stress!
I wash my spread every week or so. I live in a gated community with a very small backyard, so all their germs are our own!
Likewise, I'm understanding what stress I was living with! Doing better now!
Sundance(RB)
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1 Reaction@sundance Glad you are doing better now... well the common interests we have when younger or when we meet someone can change a little or a lot over the years. We had the typical male/female roles for many years which I was OK with... me cooking, cleaning, working, buying the family gifts etc and he looking after the yard, vehicles, working, fixing etc. When I got sick last episode I spent most of the time in my bedroom and he was bringing me sandwiches, coffee and such; this went on for more than I hoped... then 2 months ago he had major surgery and away from home, and I had to get up and about and look after the dog. etc. again... albeit by the skin of my teeth. Now, he thinks he knows more about cooking etc. than me, lol.... we have to end up laughing about it and look at each other and say: we deserve each other! Seriously, I feel "illness" in all its shapes and forms has affected our relationship/partnership which used to run like clockwork... and I am sure if it got to that point, living apart could be the only choice....however, it hasnt reached that point yet. I feel its nice to hear you keep in touch though, especially for your daughter and grandson... wish I had grandchldren! My first (abusive) marriage lasted nine years, so being together for 40 years these days is, I think, an achievement of sorts..... take care... it's so cold here today too cold even for the dog to go out for long -
minus 20 celsius this morning colder with wind chill..brrrr
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1 ReactionSo Lacy, I just did this 1,000-word essay on relationships, life and kindness! So it's probably best I accidentally erased it! I might have gotten lectured on deviating from the original subject of this thread!
Anyway, as we grow our mind and bodies seem to change! What we were at one time we aren't that same now!
What I have learned, after 74 years, is the most important thing in Life and Relationships is Communication, Compassion and Gratitude! (Easier said than done sometimes!) Because we may grow apart it doesn't mean either of us is a Bad Person! We just change!
If in my case my wife and I can't live together it doesn't mean we can't still just be friends! That's how we started out over 40 years ago!
Talk to each other! Be open and be truthful! If what either one of you says the other can't handle then maybe it is time to change directions!
Minus 20 there, huh! BBBUUUUURRR! I complain that it was 20 here this morning! It's up to 56 now at 4 PM, MDT!
We have two storms coming through the Southwest this week which will be Great! We are so dry! But Hey, that's why they call this a desert!
We may get 2" here in ABQ, the mountains should get a couple of feet! I know that sounds like flurries to you all!
As for sleeping someone mentioned a hospital type bed that goes up and down! No, Thank You! I guess if I'm in a coma it may be ok, other than that it is not natural for me.
I have found that some big fluffy bed covers under your bottom sheet works Great!
From, The Land of Enchantment!
Sundance(RB)
Oh dear I do have a habit of changing subjects during a conversation. The counsellor who phones me (as no office visits) lets me ramble on.. then I say, ooops, now your turn to talk. Think back to the days of yore when we were so tired and fell into bed and slept all night. Am afraid I have to take a pill at bedtime now but its the lesser of two evils. I do have my ipad on bed all ready to listen to a relaxation tape or such either with speaker low or with headphones and the combination helps with sleep. One thing, our gas fired hot air furnace is in the basement right under my bed!!! So sometimes when we wake up it's because of a noise we hear... its so cold out and the newer furnaces bring in cold air, heat it up, then blow it through to each room...but as I contend: its bringing in air that is minus 20 !! Takes a long time to heat up that air. So for those who suddenly wake up, wondered if possible its because of a noisy car going by or such... when I used to go back to visit my Mum in UK the birds used to wake me up and I was ticked off... but now with cognitive thinking therapy I try and say to myself: Ahhh, nice little birdies waking me up! (grrrr... lol)
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2 ReactionsLacy, That is too funny! Since I was born with a speech impediment and was not able to hold a conversation until I was over 18 I have the same tendency to talk too much! I have to stop myself and listen to the other person! As far as going to sleep, I have taken Ambiem for over 10 years! Is it habit-forming? Yes! Is it maybe more psychological? Probably! But does it help me sleep?
YES!! Sleep and liquids are the two most important things we cannot live without!
I get tired of how the media makes these things like a danger to human life!
Go down any pharmacy aisle and there are 8 feet of sleep medications.
It's a universal problem !
For a long time when I traveled for 30 weeks a year and slept in different hotels and places that I had to turn the AC on in order to block out the noise!
I'm lucky that my furnace is down the hall, so I don't hear it kick on! I do have a room AC that I have that will kick on and off, but I'm used to the noise! Must be old age!
From, The Land of Enchantment I want to pass along a beautiful start of a sunset! The mountains to our east at 10,340' have snow on the top and the sun is making them sparkle!
Sundance(RB)
...ha just deleted my l-o-n-g reply.
I was given Clonazepam for almost 20 yrs for sleep, along with Zoloft which is another story. Yes now government and Colleges of Physicians and Surgeons are telling doctors to get their patients off "Benzos"... taken by patients who by now usually are Seniors and NO HELP with withdrawal symptoms. And they are cutting off people "cold turkey"... it's disgraceful. My ex GP gave me them - 90 pills every 3 months without question, never even asked if I was taking them. As you say there are so many OTC drugs can be purchased which are habit-forming. Honestly, I would rather take no medications at all.... but I just cannot cope at the best of times, let alone when I have not had much sleep. and after all these years and at age 77 why not just let me continue to take them..... but if I want to buy marijuana etc. I can get it legally, as much as I want (I don't want)... its mind boggling. My spouse does not sleep well, nor my adult children .... actually I can't think of anyone I know who says they sleep well these days: pain, stress, and some meds even cause insomnia: but my dog is flat out right now dreaming of ? looks so peaceful: ... maybe in my next life????
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