Is it ok to feel angry?

Posted by Gratia @gratia, 1 day ago

Venting. Here it comes again, the anger. It arrives in slow waves. Anger at my mother for not being more proactive about her life choices. Anger at dementia. Anger and frustration at the medical system. Anger that I’m losing sleep and exhausted all the time & above all, angry that I lost my job and the life I built due to her disease and slow decline.

And then I get angry at the deep guilt I experience because I feel angry!

I try to take deep breath and be in the moment. It’s a game of constantly reframing how I see this. I keep repeating to myself the word “acceptance”.

How do you cope if you experience these difficult emotions?

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Hi:
My repeated phrase in my head, when things aren't going well is, 'Be a better person' that I say when I'm feeling bad about blowing up at my husband and losing my temper at some behavior that he can't control.
I try many different things in the moment:
-remind myself of the nuggets I've learned at training, and if a few strategies don't work I...
-walk away after ensuring my husband is in a safe space, if I find myself losing my temper
-find something I like to do, like baking or watching a Rom Com
-journal or read
-go outside and breathe
-pet our dog
All the best to you. 🌺

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@judimahoney Yes, pet the beloved dog and Post, Post, Post, our perils of wisdom to share with others on this site. Now that's comforting. Best, Karla

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