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To begin means there will be sn end. Who knows what the end will be. I won't get a dog, mainly for the reason I will love it, and probably outlive it(?). I don't want that sadness. Or if it outlives me. I'd have to say goodbye, wonder who will take care of it, and feel like I "Let him down" by leaving. So, no dog
But you can't apply this to a life. We commit. We invest. We enjoy. We connect. We love. We LIVE.
Living takes courage because (we know) things will end. (Painful things too) . The Hero's Journey.
A few things: If we have not thrown ouselves into Life, our Life, we haven't lived. We'd have no memories (which also fade and disappear to yhr default state of glorious nothingness (A blank page or canvass).
Life would miss the MEANING we bring to it, and the meaning it gives back to us.
But we have the gift of NOW. Embrace it. Relish it, because as Monty Python says "It's not now. It's gone. Oh wait! NOW? No that's gone too."
If I am with the person I love, or not love, this is our now. It may not be what my ego wants, but it is what it is.
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@shmerdloff
As I have privately shared with you, I have been married three times. A colleague once remarrked to me about my second husband, a retired: "He's a prince-of-a man. He's a judge's judge." My response: I am a three-car garage.
I have loved. I have lived. I do not fear death.
Caring for someone like George numbs me at best and creates resentment at worst, but being a part of this community rekindles the feeling of warmth and tenderness that makes live worth living. Thank you, @shmerdloff, and thank the rest of the members of our special community.
George's Wife
P.S. I don't need my biological family (my sister said she didn't want to help Declan's family because "they are financially well-off")--but I need this community. People like you restore my faith is humanity. Thanks for contributing to cancer research on behalf of Declan, and for being moved and inspired by his life. I post this only to help others develop a better mindset, not to solicit contributions:
https://www.mibagents.org/family-funds/declan