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Things never change

Posted by kartwk @kartwk, May 25 9:44am

I read here daily and gain strength from what others write and answers. Sadly, nothing is changing.
I finally cried and cried and cried. It was strange as I was out in the sunroom just sitting there and heard this wail sound before I even realized it was coming from me. That is when it all broke loose. I cried so long and hard my stomach had spasms. In fact, I had stomach spasms for 2-3 days after that, but it did release a lot of stress.

Getting nowhere on diagnosis. The latest thing is that H has deiced that he does not need to shower. He has gone as long as 2 weeks without showering, and we DO argue about this. This from a guy who claims any scent bothers his lungs. I change bed linen at least once a week. How I am combatting this Is that I tell him when I change sheets to take a shower or sleep in the sleeping bag on the floor.

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georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | 1 day ago

@kartwk

"It's [our] [']party,['] and [we'll] cry if [we] want to
Cry if [we] want to, cry if [we] want to
[They] would cry too if it happened to [them]."

Here, at this "party," we can cry all we want, and people care.

George's Wife

P.S. Thank God for this Forum because "they" (the Calvary that's not coming) don't care: "It" hasn't happened to them, yet.

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kjc48 | @kjc48 | 3 hours ago
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@kartwk

"It's [our] [']party,['] and [we'll] cry if [we] want to
Cry if [we] want to, cry if [we] want to
[They] would cry too if it happened to [them]."

Here, at this "party," we can cry all we want, and people care.

George's Wife

P.S. Thank God for this Forum because "they" (the Calvary that's not coming) don't care: "It" hasn't happened to them, yet.

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@georgescraftjr Once again, I'm smitten (and chuckling) over the "poetic" melody "It's my party and we'll cry if we want to, cry if I want to" That melody still lingers in my mind......As I sit here on my favorite site posting as part of my daily journal. You're so right, about the Calvary not coming, because it hasn't happened to them yet. Tried calling my son for support...that led to nowhere this morning. So, I'm back posting, and feeling less pain.... this week was a tough week with caregiving, the stress from "edward scissorhands" - aka my husband with MCI - messing up his phone and PC to the point I had to call the PC guy to take over. What a week, one "short" go-to drink last night, a Cape Codder with Kettle One, and this caregiver was knocked out! Not doing that again. For sure. Best, Karla

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