Things never change

I read here daily and gain strength from what others write and answers. Sadly, nothing is changing.
I finally cried and cried and cried. It was strange as I was out in the sunroom just sitting there and heard this wail sound before I even realized it was coming from me. That is when it all broke loose. I cried so long and hard my stomach had spasms. In fact, I had stomach spasms for 2-3 days after that, but it did release a lot of stress.

Getting nowhere on diagnosis. The latest thing is that H has deiced that he does not need to shower. He has gone as long as 2 weeks without showering, and we DO argue about this. This from a guy who claims any scent bothers his lungs. I change bed linen at least once a week. How I am combatting this Is that I tell him when I change sheets to take a shower or sleep in the sleeping bag on the floor.