My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

Posted by maone @maone, Jul 30, 2019

He left his wife and family three months ago.

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@lioness

@maone I haven't been posting to you for awhile but have read all the post from people here . Have you thought back in his life as if there was any problems that he may have gone into a witness protection program like @hopeful33250 suggested ? Did he witness anything in the past that might have been the problem why he disappeared? Ask his wife if she knows anything about why this may have happened but I'm sure the whole family is wracking there brain to figure this out . Sorry to say this but maybe it is something you never will find out now but there is always hope someday you will find him . You are in my prayers

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Thanks so much for your concerns. He did have problems from the past that he could have wanted just to try to disappear from. They were still continuing. This is not the way to solve them but I feel this is what he has done. It’s left us all so heartbroken and empty. I’ve been sick lately with food poisoning and it really hit hard. Trying to get through one day at a time. Thanks so much to those that care.

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The only new thing is we don’t think we’ll hear from him. We know that God knows where he is and we have Him. Seems like he did a good job of disappearing from everyone. No contact with anything from his past at all. One day at a time Sweet Jesus ❤️

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@maone Hello. Your son's disappearance must be very worrisome. I hope he will contact you soon and let you know that he is ok. Do you think he possibly left to start a new life? Or do you think something could have happened to him?

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We think he had been planning it. He only left a note. Then nothing else. Left the ones who love him the most. As far as we know hasn’t contacted anyone he ever knew. He had been reading a book about leaving without a trace. He never had a crime record of any kind. But had on going problems from a first wife. I think he thought there was no solution but this. He wasn’t thinking about how devastated we all would be. Thanks for your concern ❤️

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I had posted on the group called Just wanting to talk. I think it was called. They suggested this group.

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@maone

The only new thing is we don’t think we’ll hear from him. We know that God knows where he is and we have Him. Seems like he did a good job of disappearing from everyone. No contact with anything from his past at all. One day at a time Sweet Jesus ❤️

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Hello @maone, When you say, "The only new thing is we don’t think we’ll hear from him," I think that this idea represents acceptance of this unfortunate situation. If so, acceptance is a good place to start. I'm sure in time, you will adjust to this "new normal" and be able to rebuild your family around those who are left for you to love and care for. I have a feeling that your son misses you as much as you miss him and thinks about you with fondness.

You show incredible strength and determination as you face this difficulty. Blessings and prayers are going your way.

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@hopeful33250

Hello @maone, When you say, "The only new thing is we don’t think we’ll hear from him," I think that this idea represents acceptance of this unfortunate situation. If so, acceptance is a good place to start. I'm sure in time, you will adjust to this "new normal" and be able to rebuild your family around those who are left for you to love and care for. I have a feeling that your son misses you as much as you miss him and thinks about you with fondness.

You show incredible strength and determination as you face this difficulty. Blessings and prayers are going your way.

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Thanks so much for your input. Thanks for your prayers also. Blessings to you also ❤️

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@maone As @hopeful33250 commented, I too am impressed with your strength. This must be terribly difficult for you. I hope at some point that he will feel more at peace and return to those who love him. Until then, I hope you and the others in the family can be supportive of each other.
Hugs, JK

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@contentandwell

@maone As @hopeful33250 commented, I too am impressed with your strength. This must be terribly difficult for you. I hope at some point that he will feel more at peace and return to those who love him. Until then, I hope you and the others in the family can be supportive of each other.
Hugs, JK

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Thanks so much. I’m taking each day at a time. First thing when I wake up is that this couldn’t have happened. I know nothing. I’m alone a lot but then that gives me time for prayer. How blessed to have Jesus ! I’m clinging to Him. My comfort,my strength. Thank you for caring. It helps ❤️

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@maone

Thanks so much. I’m taking each day at a time. First thing when I wake up is that this couldn’t have happened. I know nothing. I’m alone a lot but then that gives me time for prayer. How blessed to have Jesus ! I’m clinging to Him. My comfort,my strength. Thank you for caring. It helps ❤️

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@maone You are a strong woman, and being held up as an example by others, no doubt. It sounds like you have exhausted your resources. I hope your son may hear about your efforts, somehow, and understand how deeply his actions were felt by everyone. We're here for you. We care.
Ginger

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@maone Your are a strong women to go through this torture you are in . I pray you find solace in reading the Bible there are a lot of comforting words in it and prayer just talking to our Lord will help you God bless

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I am reading these posts while trying to get through this anniversary of my son's suicide from which there cannot ever be closure. So I understand the anguish of a son disappearing without saying goodbye. I can only say that continued support from people who understand, and frequent discussions with God, are the only things that help. And grief counseling. Blessings.

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