My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

Posted by maone @maone, Jul 30, 2019

He left his wife and family three months ago.

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@georgette12

I have a thought on how replies can end up in junk mail. I am thinking it could be the result if the person sending you the reply inadvertently replied by clicking on the wrong icon when replying. Sometimes I wasn't sure how to reply when I first got on the forum. See who's replies are coming through Junk mail. It doesn't make sense that you get some replies and not others

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Oh. Unless ALL replies are coming through junk mail. In that case maybe you inadvertently have mayo clinic forum under a "spam" alert. If so, unblock the forum.

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@georgette12

Oh. Unless ALL replies are coming through junk mail. In that case maybe you inadvertently have mayo clinic forum under a "spam" alert. If so, unblock the forum.

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Good tips, @georgette12
@maone to prevent Connect-related emails from going to your junk mail, add Connect's sender address "@n1.hubapplication.com" to your safe sender list. Here are instructions on how to do this for various email types:
– AOL http://www.subscribermail.com/safe-list/address-book-aol-mail.html
– Gmail, Outlook and Yahoo http://onlinegroups.net/blog/2014/02/25/how-to-whitelist-an-email-address/

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@maone

Thanks so much for your prayers for me. We don’t have any family close at all. Which makes all of this worse but then like I said, I have our Father all the time. I have been comforted with comments from this site. I’m glad I got on it. I am enjoying reading other’s comments and learning more how to use it but still am getting my replies in my junk mail? Not my normal mail. Just don’t know how to fix that. God bless you for your prayers ❤️

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@maone I use yahoo! mail, and find that if there are emails in my spam that shouldn't be, after repeated moving them back to inbox by choosing them then saying "not spam", eventually yahoo! gets the message and they come in to the inbox. Likewise just the opposite for spam mail that ends up in my inbox. Hope this helps you some!
Ginger

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@gingerw

@maone I use yahoo! mail, and find that if there are emails in my spam that shouldn't be, after repeated moving them back to inbox by choosing them then saying "not spam", eventually yahoo! gets the message and they come in to the inbox. Likewise just the opposite for spam mail that ends up in my inbox. Hope this helps you some!
Ginger

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@maone Thinking about you today and hoping you’re ok. What have you been doing to keep yourself positive?

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@sandytoes14

@maone Do you have any other family you are able to share your feelings with? I am so glad to hear you get strength and comfort from God our father. Each day I pray for you and for all of those who are hurting whether it be emotional pain or physical pain such as I suffer from. Blessings to you.

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I want to thank all for prayers and please keep praying. I have news , found out he is ok but does not know I know this. Of course when I say ok, I know he has problems he has to work out. Now I’m hurt and sad and angry that he chose to quit contact with us. I am not going to try to find exactly where he is as I don’t want him running again. I feel like God has told me he is ok to bring some relief. His wife is going forward and so is his Son. They don’t want him back so I’ve decided not to tell them. It would only hurt them more. They need to go forward. Evidently he doesn’t want to go back either. I’m sure there is much I don’t know about. I want to continue to be on this and do need prayer. And want to get to know others and pray for them. God bless all of you who have cared and prayed for me. I believe praying is always answered ❤️

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@maone

I want to thank all for prayers and please keep praying. I have news , found out he is ok but does not know I know this. Of course when I say ok, I know he has problems he has to work out. Now I’m hurt and sad and angry that he chose to quit contact with us. I am not going to try to find exactly where he is as I don’t want him running again. I feel like God has told me he is ok to bring some relief. His wife is going forward and so is his Son. They don’t want him back so I’ve decided not to tell them. It would only hurt them more. They need to go forward. Evidently he doesn’t want to go back either. I’m sure there is much I don’t know about. I want to continue to be on this and do need prayer. And want to get to know others and pray for them. God bless all of you who have cared and prayed for me. I believe praying is always answered ❤️

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@maone I am so glad you have found out part of the puzzle! While it must be confusing as to the reasons he did what he did, finding out he is okay must surely have brightened your day! Accept that he is okay, as in alive, and perhaps with time he will contact you, and realize how his disappearance hurt so many people. Rest well tonight.
Ginger

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@maone

I too am glad to hear that you will have some peace of mind. How difficult it must be for you not to share what you know with his wife and family. It sounds like you made the right decision for now but you may decide to let them know in the future. Don’t let your knowing be a burden to you.

Prayers and all good thoughts to everyone

FL Mary

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@maone

I want to thank all for prayers and please keep praying. I have news , found out he is ok but does not know I know this. Of course when I say ok, I know he has problems he has to work out. Now I’m hurt and sad and angry that he chose to quit contact with us. I am not going to try to find exactly where he is as I don’t want him running again. I feel like God has told me he is ok to bring some relief. His wife is going forward and so is his Son. They don’t want him back so I’ve decided not to tell them. It would only hurt them more. They need to go forward. Evidently he doesn’t want to go back either. I’m sure there is much I don’t know about. I want to continue to be on this and do need prayer. And want to get to know others and pray for them. God bless all of you who have cared and prayed for me. I believe praying is always answered ❤️

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@maone. What a relief it must be to at least know that your son is OK. I think you are very wise to not probe further at this point since he has made it clear that he wants that to not be known. I truly hope that at some point he will resolve whatever is bothering him and come back home.
JK

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@contentandwell

@maone. What a relief it must be to at least know that your son is OK. I think you are very wise to not probe further at this point since he has made it clear that he wants that to not be known. I truly hope that at some point he will resolve whatever is bothering him and come back home.
JK

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Thank you for sharing the news that you found out your son is alive. I too want to say that knowing the truth can become a burden under some circumstances. I support you doing whatever you feel is right in terms of notifying his family . My own experience has been different. When I did not know where he was, it was intolerable. All sorts of images in my head. When my son committed suicide, I then knew where he was. The pain is still intolerable but it's a different kind of pain. If your son's wife and son are going through this kind of hell on earth, as you have just gone through, not knowing if he was alive or dead, I wonder if knowing the truth would help them move on. What's that old saying? "The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know. "

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@maone

I want to thank all for prayers and please keep praying. I have news , found out he is ok but does not know I know this. Of course when I say ok, I know he has problems he has to work out. Now I’m hurt and sad and angry that he chose to quit contact with us. I am not going to try to find exactly where he is as I don’t want him running again. I feel like God has told me he is ok to bring some relief. His wife is going forward and so is his Son. They don’t want him back so I’ve decided not to tell them. It would only hurt them more. They need to go forward. Evidently he doesn’t want to go back either. I’m sure there is much I don’t know about. I want to continue to be on this and do need prayer. And want to get to know others and pray for them. God bless all of you who have cared and prayed for me. I believe praying is always answered ❤️

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Hello @maone
I'm so glad to hear that you have some information about your son, now. I can tell how relieved you are just to know that he is OK. It sounds as if you are making some wise decisions about not seeking out more information about where he is. Keep posting, I'd like to know how you are doing.

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