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Long-term depression

Posted by @anniep, Mar 8, 2017

New to the group; would like to ask how others find something to look forward to in life? At my age, there’s nothing to hope for, except death. I am a born-again Christian, so I know there is an escape from the physical pain and limitations brought on by illness, and escape from daily depression and motivation to continue. I try to remain active and do have interests, but sometimes the depression is too much. I have also realized when others say they care, etc., there truly is no one who means what they say. It’s “We care, so long as you just keep doing your job here, but don’t bother me – but we love you!” I’m old enough to know this is not true, but a method to keep a warm body in a position to get a job done. One of my 92 year old neighbors happily moves along, although she tells me almost all her friends are gone, etc. I can’t ask her what motivates her. How do others have hope for anything after their families are gone and there is nothing else?

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@rick807

I’m so tired of pretending everything is ok.Sometimes it feels like my head gonna explode.I really dont know to do.Help

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@rick807

As I mentioned in my last post, anytime you need to talk, I’m here. We can talk here in the group, or you can contact me directly.

Jim, volunteer mentor

@rick807

I’m so tired of pretending everything is ok.Sometimes it feels like my head gonna explode.I really dont know to do.Help

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thank you I might just try it guess first time for everything

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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Hi, @brenda61— glad you have this therapist to talk to.

You mentioned your therapist encourages you to get out of the house more but that that is difficult. What do you think is the biggest barrier to your getting out?

@rick807

I’m so tired of pretending everything is ok.Sometimes it feels like my head gonna explode.I really dont know to do.Help

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I would like to talk to you but not to computer smart dont know if your getting messages.
Rick

@rick807

I’m so tired of pretending everything is ok.Sometimes it feels like my head gonna explode.I really dont know to do.Help

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Hi, @rick807–if you click on Jim’s handle, @jimhd, on any of his messages he’s posted it will take you into his profile. Near the top of his profile you will see the “Send a private message” option. Click on that, and then it will take you into the place where you will create your message. It will already have Jim under “recipients” for your message, so just give your message a subject line in the “Subject” box, type in your message in the “Message” box, and click the blue box at the bottom that says “Send Message.” This will send a message only Jim can see. If by chance you aleady have done all this already, then please disregard this tip. 🙂

@rick807

I’m so tired of pretending everything is ok.Sometimes it feels like my head gonna explode.I really dont know to do.Help

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Thanks, Lisa. I couldn’t have given Rick these clear instructions.

Jim

@rick807

I’m so tired of pretending everything is ok.Sometimes it feels like my head gonna explode.I really dont know to do.Help

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@rick807

Sorry for taking so long to come upon your note. Sometimes my days are too hectic, and I don’t make it to email until late in the day. I’ll be watching for your note to me. I’ll scroll up now and see if you wrote.

Jim

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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Well, I am a very large person. I also have arthritic knees. But, I also do not enjoy being around a lot of people. Driving the car also makes me nervous now. I am just a hot mess.

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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Hi, @brenda61 Do you have any hobbies you enjoy (or used to enjoy)? I have a few that I enjoyed before I crashed at the bottom of a horrible black hole, and I still have the hobbies, but the pleasure isn’t the same. I do a lot of yard work and gardening, play the piano, knit, paint houses, shop at thrift stores and window shop online (more than I should). I think that I do have a level of pleasure doing those things by now, after years of therapy, but not like I used to. Depression does depress pleasure, for sure. I hope you have something you can focus on that takes your mind off the negatives. I know that while I’m gardening, I’m not thinking about how depressed I am. Just a thought.

Jim

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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Hi Jim, @jimhd
You have offered some great thoughts to all who suffer from depression – when you mind and body are active, depression doesn’t have the same “hold” as it does when we are inactive!

For me, exercise programs that are group oriented (even on a DVD) work quite nicely. I have one chair-exercise DVD that also has music and is taped in a group exercise class. It is great to use when the weather is bad and I need to be active without getting outside.

I’m wondering what other activities our group has done to keep depression at bay?

Teresa

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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I know what you mean about not taking as much pleasure in hobbies, and I think it’s great you’re still pursuing them. I begin therapy again in a month and I’m hoping that will help me to do the same. My depression and anxiety seem to keep me from doing much at all (plus physical ailments, and lack of money after being forced to retire). I will keep your message in mind and try and push myself to do more. Thank you for an encouraging post.
Alice

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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@hopeful33250

Our daughter gave us a chair exercise dvd a couple of years ago, but it’s still in the package.

Jim

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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Jim @jimhd
Unwrap it and take a look – it might be something you can do for variety in your exercise program.
Teresa

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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@hopeful33250

Exercise routine. That’s a great joke! I get a lot of exercise working in the yard, 8 months of the year. That’s pretty much it. I don’t walk much because of the burning pain in my feet from peripheral neuropathy. I have a bicycle, but have only ridden it a few times. I’ve rarely exercised for any extended period of time.

Jim

@brenda61

Hi Lisa, She just listens to me talk or cry, then says it is hard. She encourages me to get out more. I do manage to work but getting out of the house for anything else is very difficult.

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Jim, @jimhd

Working in the yard definitely counts as an exercise routine. Good for you!

Teresa

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