I was recently writing back and forth with @jenniferhunter and we got to talking about doctor patient relationships. And this got me thinking about the many complaints that people have, especially that some doctors really don't listen or acknowledge that you know your own body, or listen to suggestions or read articles that you suggest.
When is was much younger l had a huge need to be loved and accepted, someone with a huge amount of sympathy for me. But that didn't really do me much good medically.
Now validation, trust, respect and empathy are what is most important to me next to knowledge and qualifications. I've learned that my doctors don't have to love me but they damn better listen to me, offer me sound, truthful medical advice, options and enough information that I am comfortable knowing that I can go to my computer and know what I am searching for.
I don't think that's too much to ask for do you?
For the doctors who see me regularly it would be difficult not to establish a close relationship. And in this example that's what I want and what I have. For doctors who I see occasionally I do have a friendly relationship because I am very personable. I feel that if I hold back they can't do their jobs.
As Jennifer Hunter stated doctors have a tough job and if cooperating means a better doctor than I'm all for it. Doctors work under an incredible amount of stress but they also have an ethical code of behavior that they must abide by. I was once molested by a doctor and after that it took a very long time for me to trust another. I was lucky as it only happened once.
I certainly don't want to know my doctor's health or mental problems. The focus of an appointment need to be me me me.
I also expect my doctors to reply to emails and phone calls within a rational amount of time and let me know immediately about important tests and scans.
So is that too much to ask? l don't think so because doctors have a huge responsibility to their patients.You should never feel intimidated nor put down in any manner whatsoever.
One time a new doctor, who I had never met walked into my room and without an acknowledgment said to me, "you are an interesting case." I can tell you that I was and am but not one of hers.
What do you expect from your doctor both personally and medically? What do you find is fair treatment and what do you think that a doctor should expect of you?