I’m 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I’m just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don’t have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there’s not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there’s enough), and my son sends me money each month. I’m sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I’m thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I’d have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they’re all on line now), and legally they’re not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college …. well, it doesn’t take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I’m so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby
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@marjou, Wondering if your prairie dogs in New Mexico immigrated to TX or vice-versa? vbg We even have a "visitors" area" next to a large recreational facility and park that is designated: "Prairie Dog Town". It is well tended and supervised. No fees but children and visitors are allowed to "feed" the little guys whose antics can be comical. I know they can become a problem for some of our farmers but this designated area is another activity my grands enjoyed when visiting. Of course that was immediately followed up by the exciting rides for the boys at the park.
Bless you karen00 …. Your situation sounds rough too. It seems that we get to a certain point in life, unless we endlessly wealthy, there are no "golden years." I know that's whining, but to me that term is a farse. Do take care with everything you're dealing with … fibro and RA are no picnic, for sure. I also will be praying for you.
abby
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Hi Karen ….. I was just going to say the same thing you did ….. this is not a political forum …. that only leads to disagreeable disagreements as everyone has their own opinion. Yes, I saw my Psychologist in MD for 12-14 years – weekly, until I had a breakdown and then it was 3x a week. I still go up monthly to see him. He has been of immeasureable help to me. I also have a Psychiatrist down here whom I see every 3-4 weeks ….. he's very good and seems excellent with my meds., but we only get 10 min. with him. He is the only Psychiatrist in my county……amazing. I will see him this week. I know some days are blacker than others due to the Bipolar 2. Thank the Lord it's not Bipolar 1 or I'd probably be running down the street naked!
abby
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I absolutely love rock walkways …. they are beautiful. I know they take a lot of time and work ….. my SIL put one in from his parking space to the house (they live on the Blue Ridge Mtns.) and it is beautiful. I admire your efforts to do this. It sure wouldn't be something I'd ever attempt, but then ….. I can't even put together the simplest of puzzles! Go for it …. finish it and send us a picture if you can.
abby (the harp player)
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@georgette12 Good for you to standing up for yourself Im a retired LPN and refused a 12hour job went same day and got hired that same day .Agencies same way Did that too so stand up for what you want
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Keep reaching out. To Senior Help line. To AARP. To your local Congress person. Use your local food shelf and Meals on Wheels. Each will give you more groups who will help you. Best yet, making those calls will reduce your fear. Just making the calls empower us. Moreover, all of the knowledge you gain you can pass along to others in your spot. More empowerment.
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Right now I live in a low-income apartment – no place for gardening. I will be moving to the Senior building which is cheaper and about half the size of this one (also no place to garden). I am trying really hard to get used to living down here, but I think all I can do is just resign myself that it's a fact. I recognize it was a mistake to move from my home in MD, but done is done and I absolutely must adjust, hard though it is. I've seen more confederate flags than I care to even think about. If I had the money I would move back, but …. that's not reality. I'm 75, in excellent health, looking for a job. My 2 grown daughters live down here, and my son lives outside of D.C. I see one of my daughters maybe once a week and that's OK for them as they have families. I hate the thought of moving into the Senior Building as most of them, from what I've observed, just sit and gossip about other residents. It's too easy for a woman to get caught up in that, and I don't want to. I've not found a church yet, but I've got 2 I'm interested in.
abby
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This is a medical question and I'm not sure where it should go, so I'll put it here to start. I have got plantar fasciitis in my right heel. I've been wearing all my shoes with those rubber things you get at the drug store, and that helps as long as I keep shoes on. I'm a "barefoot runner or sock runner" in the apartment and I'm sure this is how I did it. Anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to heal this besides the shoe inserts? Thanks much.
abby
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@jimhd and @lioness, An entirely new specie to me. Thanks for the information!