Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
My husband was diagnosed with MCI in 2019. He is pretty independent, just forgetful of time, dates, location of places, anything electronic & events from our life together (we’ve been married 52 years). It’s all just getting to me. I find myself wanting to be alone so I’m not continuously reminded of these changes. Because my friends/family are out of state, working, or involved with their own families, I really have no one to talk to so I’m seeing a therapist twice a week to deal with the sadness, anger, grief I have over his condition. I just wonder if other women find themselves in this position & how they are dealing with it.
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Are there any Habit programs in New England?
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1 ReactionUnfortunately since it is a Mayo program is only at the Mayo campuses in Minnesota, Florida, and Arizona, but check the web, maybe they have a virtual class!
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1 Reaction@annie1946, good for you to make the effort to set up social engagements. I bet that is hard when all you want to do is be alone. Do you find that your spouse is less negative when you are with others? How are you doing today?
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2 Reactions@colleenyoung Well, I love the social connections as well. And I know now for myself how important and meaningful they are!
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4 Reactions@valjo Welcome to MayoClinicConnect! This forum is for folks to share their experiences and to ask for, and give, help. The group cannot diagnose or treat since we are not medical professionals, just people helping each other. Again, welcome!
@2me I just had the MRI and getting ready for the Pet scan soon hopefully. Was pretty sure I'd go with Leqembi but now I'm thinking there's a chance the other infusion may only be 6 months or so if everything goes well. (I'm an optimist). With Leqembi, it seems like a forever drug...any thoughts.\?
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2 Reactions@midnightwalker There are others on this forum who are more experienced to help you with this question. In our case, it was the neurologist who steered the ship toward Lequembi…maybe from the scan results, or individual patient? IDK. I had hoped for the Kinsula for the same reason you mention. Best to you!
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1 ReactionI'm going through this everyday. My stepchildren know this about there father but know he won't do anything about it. If they would just come to visit it would be good. My health is not good. I start seeing a therapist next week. I hope it helps.
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5 ReactionsI hope the therapy helps as I know how kids can be in denial or just simply don't want or know what to do. I have one son and one step daughter. They both see some of the issues but not sure what to offer themselves. I think therapy is your best bet.
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2 Reactions@2me I agree. Our doc will steer me towards one drug or the other or my pet scan results will do the same. Thanks for the note. Nice to know I'm not the only one on the boat...
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