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Hi parus …. yes, you’re right …. what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. Reading “info” has different effects on different people …. you find that it does not help you …… but hinders how you feel. I, on the other hand, read like a fanatic and could probably open a used bookstore!!!! I seem to feel better knowing what I’m feeling or thinking has a name and is not that abnormal. For me knowledge helps. I’ve been blessed with a wonderful therapist and also psychiatrist, and truthfully had it not been for my therapist I doubt I’d be here ….. he pulled me “off the ledge” more than once. I love nature and being outside too ….. to me the perfect morning is to sit on a tree stump, cup of tea in hand, with a book, just soaking in the beauty of the world around me. For two years after my divorce, I rented a cabin just outside a national park …… it was called Bear Claw Cabin (the name says it all). It was in the middle of a dense, climactic forest and yes, there were big bear scratches all over the outside walls and door …. you had to ford a small creek to get to it. Except for at night, I often was sitting on the porch, book in hand. I tend to isolate when I’m down, which I know isn’t good, but is the way my psyche seems to be. You’re not alone … believe me. I guess the only difference between you and I is that my interactions with my therapist and psychiatrist have been lifesavers.
Bless you my friend,
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All I can say right now is, “I am a survivor”. A struggling survivor-still, a survivor. So many others suffering. I finally did seek out another therapist-a PHD. Whether this one can clean up messes of others that have bird-seed for brains…? Optimistic.
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I have got to get myself back on track..I am the only one that can do so. The depression is taking over and I don’t want to be around anyone. I cannot find my smiley face for now. This time of the year nearly always catches off guard…42 years ago on 10/26 my dad blew his brains out. I do not fault him for doing so as…no wonder my mental status is at the bottom of the vortex. I am being melodramatic…that was a long time ago. He was always the happy face and everyone loved him. He never appeared sad and helped others so much. Anyway, bummed…Every time I leave home I get scared. Dumb, so dumb to allow PTSD do this so severely.
Thanks as it helps some to come here…Be assured I am not as pathetic as my words express. I am strong…
I surely am not alone.
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Your words are so true…seems the older I become the worse the past abuse and my quality of life has plummeted and physical pain keeps me from life and all I can do is be bashed by the past. The verbal abuse was the most painful. Seems the memories are ruling my existence-rather like there boogie men everywhere. Fear is crippling.
hello i am back again. it seems that i at age 80 who has ptsd, bipolar and other mental and physical problems have come to realize a few important facts. the ptsd will never stop. till the day you die so remember helping others does help you to help yourself. also, as bad as the ptsd is it is somewhat lesser in pain than before AS YOU AGE. to me it seems THERE IS A GREAT LONELINESS WITH PTSD. only another person with ptsd can truly understand the agonies. THERE IS A GREAT NEED TO SHARE BUT THIS CAN REALLY ONLY BE DONE WITH ANOTHER PTSD PERSON. THERE NEEDS TO BE GROUP MEETINGS WITH PTSD PEO[LE. BUT THERE IS TO MY KNOWLEDGE ONLY A ONE PERCENT CHANCE OF FINDING ONE . I WAS LUCKY ENOUGH TO BE IN ONE FOR A WHILE. IT DOES HELP GREATLY.
THERE IS NO EMBARASMENT WHEN YOU SHARE THE SAME SO YOU OPEN UP WITH EASE. IT DOES HELP, IT DOES. OUR GOVERNMENT SHOULD HELP US TO HAVE THESE MEETINGS WITH ACCREDITED PEOPLE. IT DOES HELP THE PAIN WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT IT WITH OTHERS OF THE SAME KIND.
Thanks for sharing with us how you were helped. I’m glad for you!
i really need to add this to my article above. THERE ARE SO MANY, MANY CHURCHES THAT DONATE A ROOM FOR MEETINGS WITH ALCOHOLIC AND DRUG ADDICTED PEOPLE SO PLEASE P L E A S E WY CAN WE NOT DO THIS FOR US THE PTSD AFFLICTED? WHAT IS NEEDED IS A PERSON OR PERSONS TO HEAD THESE MEETINGS. WE NEED PEOPLE VERSED IN THIS FIELD TO HELP US. HOW CAN WE GET THIS STARTED? THANK YOU peachbarbara
dear parus i know that i am not the only one to share in your pain with you. we care for you and your suffering. you are truly not alone. you have become a strong and understanding person. we know you and whatever comes your way be assured you can handle it. i understand for i am ptsd myself. you do not stand a;one WE STAND TOGETHER. love and caring peachbarbara
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iI AM REPLYING TO MYSELF: IMAGINE OUR SOLDIERS RETURNING FROM THE FRONT. EVERY DAY SO MANY ARE COMMITTING SUICIDE. THEY HAVE PTSD WHICH IS WHY WITHOUT PROFESSIONAL HELP THEY WILL CONTINUE TO DIE.
My only concern with this type of group would be whether or not there would be an adequate/appropriate moderator. This could become one huge disaster w/o qualified leaders. A thought.
@parus – I’m not sure what message you are referring to, but I can surely connect with your words, especially about fear. The Bible says that perfect love casts out fear. Over the past years, I’ve been moving past some of my fears, and I know that as I have been learning to love myself, some fears have gone. I must still need to love myself more, because there remain some very real fears. Maybe not all of them are tied into depression and its cohorts. I talked briefly with the therapist last session about my fear of rejection, which I suppose is a fear held by the majority of people. I guess I need to talk more about fear with the therapist.
Stereotypes, notions about morality, cultural expectations, my own self judgment and more feed my fear. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to overcome all of my fears, but I’m working on it.
Is there something in your past that still strikes fear in you? I know too well how that feels. We can keep working with being released from fear, and we can find ways to work around it. Maybe you can share some way you’ve learned to handle a particular fear.
@peach414144 – I was fortunate to be in a PTSD support group, but it was only a short term group, like maybe 6 months. I agree that there’s a huge need, and if trained facilitators could be found, a meeting place would be a very minor issue. If there were one near me, I’d be in it, as well as one for depression and anxiety. I keep asking and hoping. If I can remember to, I’m going to ask my therapist about it, and see if he has any ideas.
good idea, my therapist who is great just did not want to enter into this idea at all. problems are time wise it would enter into after work hours. there would be a need to pay for the persons time. AND ANOTHER VERY VERY BIG ISSUE IS IF SOMEONE IN THE GROUP HAS SERIOUS ISSUES SUCH AS OR ANY OTHER DANGEROUS OR DEADLY CONDITION AND IS NOT TAKING THEIR MEDICATION (SUCH AS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AT A NAMI MEETING) AND THEY FREAK OUT, HOW CAN THIS BE HANDLED SAFELY?
Hi all. I have civilian PTSD. Therapy has been very helpful for me. I used to have really vivid, violent dreams. I would wake up sweating with my heart beating wildly and confused about where I was. I dream in color and feel every emotion. Through therapy, I learned to interrupt my dreams, to be able to tell myself it is just a dream and switch to a better dream. At first I used to wake up and have to try to get back to sleep. But now I can transfer to a better dream. When I am awake, I used to have triggers. They would make me feel enraged or really sad and scared. Sometimes I would lash out and be angry at someone who had nothing to do with the real reason I was feeling angry. Or I would just start sobbing seemingly for no reason anyone could tell. My therapist taught me how to see the trigger as not real and not harmful. Hard to explain. My therapist said it is like a light switch and a light bulb. The “trigger” would switch the light bulb on. I learned that the switch and light bulb would always be there, but a trigger no longer had the power to “flip the switch to on.” I don’t know if that makes sense to anyone, but it really made sense to me. I still have nightmares at times and I still have triggers, but my reaction to them are really different now. I am much more comfortable and confident in my ability to stay calm or not fall apart than I used to be. It takes finding the right therapist. I have been through several therapist. I learned something from all of them. I used things that worked for me and ignored the rest. The one therapist did the most for me. I learned the most from him and found the most peace. It is a shame therapy can be so hard at times. At least for me. I have found that if I don’t feel comfortable or trusting or respectful of the therapist, it does me no good. A few of them I should have moved on from much sooner than I did! At any rate, I am proof to not give up!
hi. @blindeyepug i am responding to your post of 7/24/17. boy do i agree with you about the nightmares. at least now in my twilight years they are not as often. but on the other hand, my heart cannot stand the trauma as well. when i wake from the nightmares i must take the nitroglycerin immediately. sharing the stories is still a good idea for somehow it seems to help. to know i am not the only one experiencing this seems to reassure me that i am not completely insane. there are people like us all over the world. stay as strong as you can i know you will make it. peachbarb
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