I am reading these posts while trying to get through this anniversary of my son's suicide from which there cannot ever be closure. So I understand the anguish of a son disappearing without saying goodbye. I can only say that continued support from people who understand, and frequent discussions with God, are the only things that help. And grief counseling. Blessings.
Hello @georgette12,
My heart goes out to you as you recognize the anniversary of your son's death by suicide. I especially appreciate your reaching out at this difficult time. When you feel like it, could you please post as to how you went about finding grief support groups as well as a personal grief counselor?
I am reading these posts while trying to get through this anniversary of my son's suicide from which there cannot ever be closure. So I understand the anguish of a son disappearing without saying goodbye. I can only say that continued support from people who understand, and frequent discussions with God, are the only things that help. And grief counseling. Blessings.
@georgette12 I am so sorry to hear of your son’s suicide. That must be difficult every single day, a niece’s son committed suicide and I think every day of what she must be going through.
I think a strong belief in God is the thing that must be most helpful.
JK
Hello @georgette12,
My heart goes out to you as you recognize the anniversary of your son's death by suicide. I especially appreciate your reaching out at this difficult time. When you feel like it, could you please post as to how you went about finding grief support groups as well as a personal grief counselor?
I looked for a counselor and quite by chance was sent to a therapist specializing on traumatic grief. Such as sudden unexpected loss , murder, suicide, stuff like that. The treatment was different than previous counseling I had.
I looked for a counselor and quite by chance was sent to a therapist specializing on traumatic grief. Such as sudden unexpected loss , murder, suicide, stuff like that. The treatment was different than previous counseling I had.
Then support groups can be found through the hospital or churches or doctors offices and even holistic and massage therapists and chiropractic dr. If you can't get to these then online support from people experiencing loss of your specific nature is definitely available.
I am reading these posts while trying to get through this anniversary of my son's suicide from which there cannot ever be closure. So I understand the anguish of a son disappearing without saying goodbye. I can only say that continued support from people who understand, and frequent discussions with God, are the only things that help. And grief counseling. Blessings.
Thanks so much. I will be praying for you also. Blessings and comfort to you as one who understands. We didn’t want to be here but we are and we can help each other by praying for each other and having compassion. God bless you ❤️
@maone As @hopeful33250 commented, I too am impressed with your strength. This must be terribly difficult for you. I hope at some point that he will feel more at peace and return to those who love him. Until then, I hope you and the others in the family can be supportive of each other.
Hugs, JK
@maone You are a strong woman, and being held up as an example by others, no doubt. It sounds like you have exhausted your resources. I hope your son may hear about your efforts, somehow, and understand how deeply his actions were felt by everyone. We're here for you. We care.
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Thanks so much. I am trying to reply to everyone who has posted and still trying to figure exactly how this posting and replying works. So if I omit anyone, please forgive. I woke up today thinking that this can’t have happened to me but it did. Then I found that there was replies on this site and am feeling somewhat better. People talk about a new normal and I can understand this now. A new normal is not having a phone call asking if I’m ok or being able to call and leave a message saying the weather is bad please pray. Even though he was 100s of miles away I could still reach him. I guess I’ve said enough. I don’t know if there is a limit on how much we can write? God bless those who care and who are hurting also ❤️
Thanks so much. I am trying to reply to everyone who has posted and still trying to figure exactly how this posting and replying works. So if I omit anyone, please forgive. I woke up today thinking that this can’t have happened to me but it did. Then I found that there was replies on this site and am feeling somewhat better. People talk about a new normal and I can understand this now. A new normal is not having a phone call asking if I’m ok or being able to call and leave a message saying the weather is bad please pray. Even though he was 100s of miles away I could still reach him. I guess I’ve said enough. I don’t know if there is a limit on how much we can write? God bless those who care and who are hurting also ❤️
@maone There is no limit to what we may write. I am so glad you found this site, and have felt a measure of comfort as we reach out back to you. I hope you can "feel" our concern for you and your family, what everyone is going through. We do care here, and knowing it has helped you at this time, and beyond, helps us, too.
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I really think that the phrase "new normal " is helpful. The word normal is in itself problematic for me personally and always has been. But in regard to loss and grief, there is and never will be anything like your "previous normal ". Blessings to everyone here who wakes up with the new normal feeling of "this could not have happened. "
I really think that the phrase "new normal " is helpful. The word normal is in itself problematic for me personally and always has been. But in regard to loss and grief, there is and never will be anything like your "previous normal ". Blessings to everyone here who wakes up with the new normal feeling of "this could not have happened. "
Interesting perspective I had not thought of before, @georgette12 When my wife passed away after her war with brain cancer I quit using the word 'normal', because of two things. First, my life was now without the person who had been the most important part of it and second, any concept of normal left our lives the day she got her diagnosis.
I simply use 'life is different'.
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Hello @georgette12,
My heart goes out to you as you recognize the anniversary of your son's death by suicide. I especially appreciate your reaching out at this difficult time. When you feel like it, could you please post as to how you went about finding grief support groups as well as a personal grief counselor?
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4 Reactions@georgette12 I am so sorry to hear of your son’s suicide. That must be difficult every single day, a niece’s son committed suicide and I think every day of what she must be going through.
I think a strong belief in God is the thing that must be most helpful.
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3 ReactionsI looked for a counselor and quite by chance was sent to a therapist specializing on traumatic grief. Such as sudden unexpected loss , murder, suicide, stuff like that. The treatment was different than previous counseling I had.
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6 ReactionsThen support groups can be found through the hospital or churches or doctors offices and even holistic and massage therapists and chiropractic dr. If you can't get to these then online support from people experiencing loss of your specific nature is definitely available.
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5 ReactionsThanks so much. I will be praying for you also. Blessings and comfort to you as one who understands. We didn’t want to be here but we are and we can help each other by praying for each other and having compassion. God bless you ❤️
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6 ReactionsThanks so much ! Comfort to know someone cares in this safe place to write. I’m glad I reached out. Just little words of encouragement help one. ❤️
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6 ReactionsThanks so much. I am trying to reply to everyone who has posted and still trying to figure exactly how this posting and replying works. So if I omit anyone, please forgive. I woke up today thinking that this can’t have happened to me but it did. Then I found that there was replies on this site and am feeling somewhat better. People talk about a new normal and I can understand this now. A new normal is not having a phone call asking if I’m ok or being able to call and leave a message saying the weather is bad please pray. Even though he was 100s of miles away I could still reach him. I guess I’ve said enough. I don’t know if there is a limit on how much we can write? God bless those who care and who are hurting also ❤️
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4 Reactions@maone There is no limit to what we may write. I am so glad you found this site, and have felt a measure of comfort as we reach out back to you. I hope you can "feel" our concern for you and your family, what everyone is going through. We do care here, and knowing it has helped you at this time, and beyond, helps us, too.
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6 ReactionsI really think that the phrase "new normal " is helpful. The word normal is in itself problematic for me personally and always has been. But in regard to loss and grief, there is and never will be anything like your "previous normal ". Blessings to everyone here who wakes up with the new normal feeling of "this could not have happened. "
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7 ReactionsInteresting perspective I had not thought of before, @georgette12 When my wife passed away after her war with brain cancer I quit using the word 'normal', because of two things. First, my life was now without the person who had been the most important part of it and second, any concept of normal left our lives the day she got her diagnosis.
I simply use 'life is different'.
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