~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~
I'm 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I'm just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don't have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there's not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there's enough), and my son sends me money each month. I'm sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I'm thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I'd have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they're all on line now), and legally they're not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college .... well, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I'm so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby
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Is anybody there? I know I haven't been on the site for awhile, but it would be nice to hear from someone.
abby
Hi, Abby @amberpep . I'm still hanging around, though I have to leave and get to church in 5 minutes. Everything ok?
Jim
@amberpep How is your situation today? Have you made any decisions on where you will live, moving to a new location in same town, or relocating? Have you been successful in asking your ex-husband for alimony?
Ginger
Hi, @amberpep - thinking of you. I'd also love to hear an update on how things are going. I'd also like to invite @karen00 @parus @lioness @georgette12 @crissdawn to return to or join this discussion. I'm sure they will also be very interested in how you are doing recently.
How are things going in your relationship with your girls?
I'm reading your venting, and I sympathize. Social Security sure doesn't go very far, I get that too. I had a friend suggest to grow my network, so I volunteer more for things at church. I've joined a bible study weekly , and I gave up my car (I had to). I have double vision, so others are better off without me driving! I use uber alot, and I take the citibus, this forces me to walk! With double vision I qualify for the disabled transporation service, and their bus is $3.50 roundtrip. I found it's cheaper than trying to own a car, I meet all of the nice uber drivers, and paratransit but drivers, I'm making new friends at bible study who are offering rides to me. All in all, I've made lemonaide out of those lemons.
My weight had become a factor too, with all of my walking opportunities, I have dropped 30 lbs!
Hello @amberpep . We are all still here! And very interested in supporting you as you go through this challenging time. I find that the more time I spend out in this tiny community, the more people I meet, which makes me feel better. Volunteering, having coffee somewhere, going to the library, wherever there are people with positive energy is a good place to put yourself, a little bit each day. Blessings.
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Food stamps help....
It's just me (Abby) .... I don't come around much anymore. Seems all I do is say the same thing over and over again. Nothing changes since I moved down here - Staunton, VA from Frederick, MD. They say southerners are "warm and friendly" .... good, but I have not found that to be true. I've given up. I pretty much just stay here in my apartment alone. Now that we're quarantined for another month, it suits me fine.
Also, I found out today that my only close girlfriend (who is in Frederick) may have bladder cancer. I don't quite know what that involves, but it doesn't sound good at all.
I can't wait til this is all over.
abby