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~ Depressed and scared, not making it financially ~

Posted by Barb @amberpep, Feb 26, 2019

I'm 74 years old and moved 3 years ago from MD to VA. My girls had hounded me to come down for several years so I finally did it. I sold my condo (at a loss), and a job with a dentist. Well, here I am, and financially I'm just not making it. That amount I earned from the dentist covered me with just a little left over. Now, more than often, I don't have enough. I eeked out just enough for my rent this month, and now there's not even enough for a quart of milk. I get S.S. and what I get goes right out for my rent (usually there's enough), and my son sends me money each month. I'm sickened, depressed, and scared. I live in low income housing, and have a budget that practically squeaks. I'm thinking of starting to sell some of my furniture.
I so wish I'd have stayed in MD, for so many reasons, this being one of them. I have applied for oodles of jobs (they're all on line now), and legally they're not supposed to ask you how old you are (although many do), but they all ask when you graduated from either high school or college .... well, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out how old a person is. I'm so depressed about this, and .so upset that my stomach.constantly churns.
Thanks for letting me vent.
abby

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kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Sep 29, 2019

Be strong, your wellbeing is number ONE. I stay away from Toxic people they only bring me down and hurt me.

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smilie | @smilie | Sep 29, 2019
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@kimspr3

Be strong, your wellbeing is number ONE. I stay away from Toxic people they only bring me down and hurt me.

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Don’t they do a really great job?

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kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Sep 29, 2019
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@smilie

I was talking to the mental health nurse and we sat down making a list of things that I would like to try and she was very impressed because she doesn’t know anyone, herself included, that has so many interests.

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I have a lot of interests also. Some I can't do anymore but still have enough to keep my mind active. From what I read smile you have a lot going for you. I hope sometime time soon the memories of "those People you lived with" will be nothing but an annoying memory.

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smilie | @smilie | Sep 29, 2019
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@kimspr3

I have a lot of interests also. Some I can't do anymore but still have enough to keep my mind active. From what I read smile you have a lot going for you. I hope sometime time soon the memories of "those People you lived with" will be nothing but an annoying memory.

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Thank you! One of them is one of my sisters. She is not well now but she chose him many years ago. My parents told her not to have anything to do with him. How very sad!!!!

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Sep 29, 2019
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@smilie

I moved last Saturday so I’m in my new place for one week!

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I'm so glad that you posted about your move, @smilie! Give yourself lots of time to settle in and feel at-home!

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kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Sep 29, 2019
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@cctoo

I know how you feel...I am83 and moved 4 yrs.ago, forced by divorce, to a house in foreclosure and love on SS...no savings, etc. Call your Area Agency on aging....you can get food stamp card, and other help. Or call your local senior center for help, also any Catholic church will give you gift card for food, groceries and pay bills you have no money for......St Vincent DePaul society . I may have to move to low income place too and guess what!! I was married to a dentist!! And my teeth need so much help but cannot afford. I love day to day with illness. And pray!!! God Bless you.

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@cctoo, was it possible to take him to court? I feel so bad, your not alone here.

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kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Sep 29, 2019
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@smilie

Don’t they do a really great job?

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Not if we let them.

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kimspr3 | @kimspr3 | Sep 29, 2019
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@smilie

Thank you! One of them is one of my sisters. She is not well now but she chose him many years ago. My parents told her not to have anything to do with him. How very sad!!!!

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It is sad. As the saying goes, "WE CAN CHOOSE OUR FRIENDS"

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Barb | @amberpep | Sep 29, 2019

Smilie ...... GOOD FOR YOU! for making the decision to not see these people. In the beginning, I really tried to go to all our family functions and continue to be "nice" ..... no more. I wised up, after a few very unpleasant encounters with him, I thought "no more." Today "the King" had our family to his house to celebrate our oldest daughter's birthday, and I chose not to go. My daughter knew why. My son, who came down about 2 hours for the dinner was going to call me between 3 and 6 before he headed back to his place. Well, he didn't call, so I gave him a ring about 5:30 and there was no answer. I imagine his Dad found something to do and of course, "what Mr. N. wants, Mr. N. gets" one way or another.
abby
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