@parus. A book that helped me was "Good And Angry" with the workbook. Especially as women, we have been told good girls don't get angry. So we stuff it down inside of us. That just makes us depressed and physically ill. There are no bad feelings - just wrong ways of expressing them. You should be angry, you have every right to be angry! Learn good ways to express it. Even just saying it out loud when I am mad is helpful for me. Hugs. You are in my prayers.
@parus. I have fibro. I was diagnoised with PTSD and depression in my 20's. In my 30's, I was diagnoised with Fibro. Then the RA. Then the Sjogren's. Then the spinal stenosis and bulging dics and osteo. Finally, Lupus. I read an article once where it said a great number of fibro patients also suffer from childhood abuse. Your brain chemistry is permanently changed from all the flooding of stress hormones in a young brain. Some think there is a connection between changes in brain chemistry from childhood abuse and brain chemical changes of fibro (which signals your brain that you are in excruciating pain when there isn't a physical cause.) Sucks.
I was never allowed to express anger growing up. I was probably 30 before I understood that it's part of our emotional nature, and it's ok to express it in appropriate ways. I feel like I'm back there again, as I hold it all in. I do talk with the therapist about the things that make me angry, but that's not dealing with it in the setting that angers me. But, talking about it does help.
I don't remember a time when I was angry enough to cause damage or harm. I get irritated by stupid drivers and by clueless people who say dumb, hurtful things. I guess I'm by nature a calm, quiet person.
My parents didn't permit disagreement with them, and didn't discuss things with us. Children are to be seen and not heard type of thinking. So, I have trouble with confrontation and debate, and basically just trouble with interacting with people. Not healthy.
Yes, I understand as well! Not being able to express emotions leaves you handicapped as much as not being able to use your limbs would leave you handicapped - just in a different way.
Seems there truly is no help for PTSD other than staying home...the outside world is just too much for now. Even home does not seem safe. I abhor what my early years have done. There is no cure and no help. the training I have received has driven me far from others. no one can be trusted.
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@parus. A book that helped me was "Good And Angry" with the workbook. Especially as women, we have been told good girls don't get angry. So we stuff it down inside of us. That just makes us depressed and physically ill. There are no bad feelings - just wrong ways of expressing them. You should be angry, you have every right to be angry! Learn good ways to express it. Even just saying it out loud when I am mad is helpful for me. Hugs. You are in my prayers.
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I agree - great book.
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@parus. I have fibro. I was diagnoised with PTSD and depression in my 20's. In my 30's, I was diagnoised with Fibro. Then the RA. Then the Sjogren's. Then the spinal stenosis and bulging dics and osteo. Finally, Lupus. I read an article once where it said a great number of fibro patients also suffer from childhood abuse. Your brain chemistry is permanently changed from all the flooding of stress hormones in a young brain. Some think there is a connection between changes in brain chemistry from childhood abuse and brain chemical changes of fibro (which signals your brain that you are in excruciating pain when there isn't a physical cause.) Sucks.
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I was never allowed to express anger growing up. I was probably 30 before I understood that it's part of our emotional nature, and it's ok to express it in appropriate ways. I feel like I'm back there again, as I hold it all in. I do talk with the therapist about the things that make me angry, but that's not dealing with it in the setting that angers me. But, talking about it does help.
I don't remember a time when I was angry enough to cause damage or harm. I get irritated by stupid drivers and by clueless people who say dumb, hurtful things. I guess I'm by nature a calm, quiet person.
My parents didn't permit disagreement with them, and didn't discuss things with us. Children are to be seen and not heard type of thinking. So, I have trouble with confrontation and debate, and basically just trouble with interacting with people. Not healthy.
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3 ReactionsI know exactly what you mean Jim...I was raised the same way.
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Yes, I understand as well! Not being able to express emotions leaves you handicapped as much as not being able to use your limbs would leave you handicapped - just in a different way.
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2 ReactionsI shy a way from everything when in PTSD.
Seems there truly is no help for PTSD other than staying home...the outside world is just too much for now. Even home does not seem safe. I abhor what my early years have done. There is no cure and no help. the training I have received has driven me far from others. no one can be trusted.
Self help books are not good for everyone...
I have come to the conclusion that therapists are perverts...very negative experience and still under that pervert's attacks. She wants me dead.