Blaming and anger: How do you deal with it?

Posted by murkywaters @murkywaters, Dec 3, 2025

He spilled cereal and blamed me.
He suggested I invite my son for Thanksgiving, even though he's been out of my life for ten years. The doctor gave him a referral to a neurologist, which he ignored. These are just a few examples of my current situation. How do you all cope? I'm ill today with Norovirus, and hiding away in my bedroom.

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maryvc | @maryvc | Jan 30 8:50am

In reply to @celia16 "@maryvc , I sure hope a place becomes available soon in Memory Care. You sound like..." + (show)

@celia16 thank you. Silence is golden unless necessary what a good reminder❤️
I just registered for respite care and I need to come up w a plan for more help.

maryvc | @maryvc | Jan 30 8:52am

In reply to @labrown "@maryvc “Bless you all in the same boat. Just keep rowing;” Never heard that before, but..." + (show)

@labrown Thank you. Yes. When I feel bad about all this I think of all of us here and so many are dealing with so much more. It makes me feel guilty for whining. I used to say - the only whine I want is the wine at 5:00. Still holds true

celia16 | @celia16 | Jan 30 5:47pm

In reply to @maryvc "@celia16 thank you. Silence is golden unless necessary what a good reminder❤️ I just registered for..." + (show)

@maryvc , that’s great news! We were told that once someone gets in the door of a facility for respite care, it makes it easier to get long term care.

We found a home healthcare agency that we contacted with for services when we needed them. Minimum of 4 hours. We used them 2-3 times a week, but they were available 24/7. Just call and they’d come within the hour.

maryvc | @maryvc | Jan 31 8:56am

I love the minimum 4 hours - I’m looking for someone for Wednesday afternoons. I may have to hire a nighttime person but I dread having someone in my house all night.

theglobalnomad1 | @theglobalnomad1 | Jan 31 5:37pm

In reply to @celia16 "@msblood , I appreciate the firsthand knowledge about this new treatment . I didn’t realize the..." + (show)

@celia16 I'm sorry you have not had success with lequembi. We started Kisunla 4 months ago, the other infusion (monthly) and it has shown a lot of success. We are staying hopeful and have spoken with others including a woman who has completed the 18 months and is very convinced it HAS helped her. She said it completely wiped out the amyloid in her brain and she will start the maintenance injections now.

celia16 | @celia16 | Jan 31 6:56pm

In reply to @theglobalnomad1 "@celia16 I'm sorry you have not had success with lequembi. We started Kisunla 4 months ago,..." + (show)

@theglobalnomad1 , I’m glad it’s working so well. I haven’t taken that med. Upthread I was responding to @msblood, about his input. He was saying it wasn’t all that helpful. Still, I suppose any improvement is a good thing.