Selfharm

Posted by Ryman @ryman, Jun 30, 2017

I assume this is the right group. I have never discussed this with anyone but my grandson yells at me about it. When I get very stressed, I sometimes scratch my arms or face. I haven’t done any real harm. It is a way to relieve stress when it gets to be too much. I cannot tolerate anxiety or depression medicines which I assume would be a doctor’s answer. Does anyone else deal with this?

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@karen00– I get the pain. It's very debilitating. What are you taking fr pain? Do you think that you need more?

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@karen00 Good news!! Thank you for the update.

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@merpreb

@karen00– I get the pain. It's very debilitating. What are you taking fr pain? Do you think that you need more?

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@merpreb Hey Merry- I take a narcotic for pain. I think I’ve taken them for so long now that they’re not helping anymore.

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@karen00– Morning Karen. Maybe it's time to speak with your doctor to change something. I don't believe that it's necessary to deal with pain. I also don't believe that it indicates how strong a person is. We all have a different nervous system, one that we are born with.
What do you think?

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@karen00

@merpreb Hi Merry, thank you so much for checking on me!!! It means the world to me. Yes, pain keeps me from being active, both mental & physical. You are already helping by keeping up with me!!! Thanks for the link. My doctor has added an anti anxiety pill – small dosage to my regimen. My sleep has greatly improved and the attacks have gone away! I feel lots better! I wanted to wait until I saw how I did before answering you. So far, so good!! Again, thank you my friend!…..Karen

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@merpreb Hi Merry-I’m trying to send s private message but the directions aren’t correct. How do you do it?

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@karen00– Click on the person's name and it will take you to their page. Then on the top click on send PM. Let me know if you can't get ti

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@karen00

@merpreb Hi Merry-I’m trying to send s private message but the directions aren’t correct. How do you do it?

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Hi, @karen00 – here are some instructions on how to send a private message (PM) on Connect, any time you wish to do so:

At the bottom of any Connect page, go to Get Started on Connect on the left side of the gray box, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/get-started-on-connect/, then scroll down to How to Send a Private Message and click on the plus (+) sign beside it to the right. You'll note the following directions:

You can send a private message to another Connect member or group of members.
1. Click the member's username. This will bring you to the member’s profile page.
2. Click Send Private Message.
3. Write a subject and your message.
o You can add other members to the private message by typing their usernames in Add Recipients (Do not include @).
4. Click Send Message.

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@lisalucier– Your response is so much more precise than mine was. lol Thank you

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@merpreb

@karen00– Good morning. I'm so glad that you are reaching out to members again even though you seem to be in horrible pain. AM I wrong in thinking that it is pain that is keeping you from being active?
Panic Attacks are the worst! I recently wrote about ways to stay grounded to help get through these horrible times. IF you haven't read it here is another link to help: https://drsarahallen.com/7-ways-to-calm/
If you google grounding techniques there are more sites with many more suggestions.
Can I help in any other way? What does your doctor say about your present state?

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@merpreb Hi Merry, I need help. Nights are the worse. We got down to 1 tomato, 1 potato, and 3 cans of soup. I crave meat! Every time I get into bed, I wonder if I’m going to be able to get into a bed at the shelter (still have swelling from edema). And I’m still on oxygen. Will my oxygen keep others up? What about Kelly (my dog)? My friends have really let me down. Maybe I was being unrealistic, but I thought someone would offer to let us stay with them until things settle down. My faith is waning. Can you please just correspond with me? It helps to share ! Thanks

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@karen00

@merpreb Hi Merry, I need help. Nights are the worse. We got down to 1 tomato, 1 potato, and 3 cans of soup. I crave meat! Every time I get into bed, I wonder if I’m going to be able to get into a bed at the shelter (still have swelling from edema). And I’m still on oxygen. Will my oxygen keep others up? What about Kelly (my dog)? My friends have really let me down. Maybe I was being unrealistic, but I thought someone would offer to let us stay with them until things settle down. My faith is waning. Can you please just correspond with me? It helps to share ! Thanks

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@karen00– I'm so sorry that your situation has deteriorated so badly. This must be very very frightening. Where is your brother? Is he with you? What and how are you feeding your pet? Will your friends at least take care of your pet? You need to go to a soup kitchen, is there one that you can get too? We can chat all you want and I'm sure others will want to help too. Where are you staying right now?

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@merpreb

@karen00– I'm so sorry that your situation has deteriorated so badly. This must be very very frightening. Where is your brother? Is he with you? What and how are you feeding your pet? Will your friends at least take care of your pet? You need to go to a soup kitchen, is there one that you can get too? We can chat all you want and I'm sure others will want to help too. Where are you staying right now?

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@merpreb Hi Merry. My brother lives with me and supports me financially as I’m only on disability. My daughter with fur (Kelly) has enough dog food for now. None of my friends have offered to take care of her – it makes me very upset! I REFUSE to put her in the pound and have her staying in a cage, watching for us to come get her! We’re still at the apt. I found some errors on my bank statement (thank God) and returned some things so we barely squeaked by this month. It won’t be like that in July. Thank you so much for “connecting” with me. My pain has become intolerable and corresponding with someone takes my mind temporarily off it. It’s like a pain switch has been turned up. I’ve never experienced anything like this. I think I have bitterness towards my friends. Anyway, thank you again. It means a lot! …………Karen

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@karen00

@merpreb Hi Merry. My brother lives with me and supports me financially as I’m only on disability. My daughter with fur (Kelly) has enough dog food for now. None of my friends have offered to take care of her – it makes me very upset! I REFUSE to put her in the pound and have her staying in a cage, watching for us to come get her! We’re still at the apt. I found some errors on my bank statement (thank God) and returned some things so we barely squeaked by this month. It won’t be like that in July. Thank you so much for “connecting” with me. My pain has become intolerable and corresponding with someone takes my mind temporarily off it. It’s like a pain switch has been turned up. I’ve never experienced anything like this. I think I have bitterness towards my friends. Anyway, thank you again. It means a lot! …………Karen

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@karen00– Good afternoon. Is July when you have to vacate your apartment? Will you please remind me again about your pain, why and where you have it?

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@karen00

@merpreb Hi Merry. My brother lives with me and supports me financially as I’m only on disability. My daughter with fur (Kelly) has enough dog food for now. None of my friends have offered to take care of her – it makes me very upset! I REFUSE to put her in the pound and have her staying in a cage, watching for us to come get her! We’re still at the apt. I found some errors on my bank statement (thank God) and returned some things so we barely squeaked by this month. It won’t be like that in July. Thank you so much for “connecting” with me. My pain has become intolerable and corresponding with someone takes my mind temporarily off it. It’s like a pain switch has been turned up. I’ve never experienced anything like this. I think I have bitterness towards my friends. Anyway, thank you again. It means a lot! …………Karen

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Hi, @karen00 – I can imagine it would be very distressing to feel as though you are barely squeaking by, struggling to stay in your apartment and down to some last few foods in the house. I'm glad you've connected with @merpreb.

Since you have so many here on Connect you've corresponded with and whom you've supported, I thought they might like to come support you at this difficult time for you, like @hopeful33250 @parus @greymelody @mia001 @kdo0827 @suscros68 @georgette12 @amberpep @lioness.

Has something changed with your brother's situation or with your disability prompting the financial tightness right now?

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@karen00 Good morning Karen I read your post to Lisa I'm sorry things haven't gotten better. Stress causes alot of pain I know experencied it .One thing I found out as I do alot of research on different subjects is forgiveness to yourself and others affects your pain level This was a hard one for me but when I was finally able to forgive myself and others it lifted this burden just something to think about. I just had a back injection hope it helps

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@karen00 You mentioned disability. Do you receive disability benefits?? I am confused when you say your brother supports you financially if you are receiving disability benefits. If you receive disability surely you are eligible for some food assistance. I know things vary depending on where you are located. Is your brother's income affecting your benefits in some way?
I apologize for the questions. I am endeavoring to make some sense of the predicament you are now in.

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