Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....
I know I am very guilty of classifying people in general, and regarding weight in particular. Living in the bible/heart attack/ diabetes belt, it simply blows my mind how many obese people I see every single day when out and about. Granted, fewer of those at Dillard’s than Walmart. Still, in addition to being concerned, I am also judging those people. I know I should not, but how in the world can someone get that fat? It would take years of dedicated overeating to reach that. No, I really don’t think that all of them have a medical issue, seeing what’s in their grocery carts. Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude when I’ve been semi-denying myself all those chips and cookies and fries for decades?? I live and eat well, but treats should be treats, not daily food.
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eller, Congratulations, you are awesome.
@contentandwell I'm a binge eater too. I just had 4 brownies . I'm bad
True enough. I just don’t want to be fat so I do try and make a good faith effort at eating icky veggies and healthy junk instead of my favorite, candy….speaking of
@jakedduck1 HI Leonard . I gave up my license 2 years ago yes its hard not to just go when you want but with the financial part of a car I'm glad I did. I have my groceries delivered . Walmart will delivery free if you order at least 35.00 Also Instacart deliveries for 9.99 I love the delivery service . I cant get out and shop so this is ideal for me . Insurances have Express Script at least mine does that will mail your meds for you so they come to your mailbox. Its ideal for us who just cant get out .
@ihtak46 I'm so sorry for your loss . I don't know how you get over this loss . My husband has been gone 19 yrs and I still miss him . To loss a child is so much worse I think . I'm so sorry Blessings to you
@lioness. For some reason it’s been easier recently, I have no idea why, plus I don’t keep many sweets in the house except for dark chocolate — usually around 85% cocoa. My husband has to have some dessert every night but he has no problem limiting it to a small amount. His father was a pastry chef! Maybe that’s why, there must have always been yummy treats available.
Oooh, that cake at the rehearsal dinner and the cake at the wedding were soooooo good. 😋. I do actually weigh my food though and am generally pretty good. I do not want to regain the weight I lost.
@contentandwell I know what you mean and it is so easy to put it on again. I love the dark chocolate have to kisses a day Hershey makes the dark chocolate and I find the kisses to be just enough .
@imallears : you echoed a lot of the feelings I have about people who simply don’t care about their weight. My parents and most of my aunts and uncles were moderately overweight – as in size 14, generally. One uncle skinny as a rail, one aunt slender, and one morbidly obese. She died dismally of congestive heart failure, not a pleasant way to go. So there is some family history that made me very aware of watching your weight. Another family example: have one grandson who was perhaps 15 to 20 lbs. overweight by the time he was 14. It just crept up on him. Any gentle nudge to put the brakes on his eating did not work. Until: during some school-sponsored summer lecture he attended a presentation by a physician detailing the effects of juvenile diabetes. Guess what? From that day on he simply stopped eating any kind of sweets, cold turkey. He’s now a very healthy looking 16 yr. old.
Regarding food choices: a lot has to do with the triggers – salt, sugar, fat. I read a book some time ago explaining how the fast food and packaged goods industry sneaks in extra hidden amounts of these ingredients to hook people. Not easy to escape the lure! Other than commercially baked bread (the artisanal kind, from Lidl, mostly), cheeses, and – yep, we partake – cold cuts, I hardly buy any prepared food or meals. I make my own marinara sauce, own enchilada sauce, own taco seasoning, etc…May cave to “light” canned soups once in a while, or vegetable spring rolls, but mostly I cook from scratch, with fresh ingredients. I’l lucky to have the time and interest to do so. Regarding cost: smart shopping and planning ahead can make home cooking ridiculously cheap. For example, recently an up-scale grocery chain has offered roasted chickens for $ 5.00 on Thursdays. Enough for one meal (with a nice big salad, and some garlic bread), then I remove and dice all the remaining meat and make a white chicken chili (onion, garlic, canned diced chilies, spices, rinsed cannelini beans, low salt chicken broth, a hint of sharp cheddar at the end). So 2 meals, for 2 people, for under $10.00 = $2.50 per person, per meal.
Exactly right! Salt and sugar are what are kids are use to and I have even sent some dishes back in restaurants that were so salty they were uneatable. We have a $5 Monday Rotisserie chicken deal too. I generally cook for me only so that’s soup and chicken salad and the white meat just sliced over salad. Four or five meals for me easy and then I’m tired of fricken chicken lol.
An interest in cooking , like you have , is the key too. I make my own salad dressings and some seasonings. They taste better.
I’m making gluten free muffins this morning with no sugar….almond flour, 3 ripe bananas, 3 eggs and I throw in craisens and nuts.
Sweet enough . Can be frozen or I usually refrigerate for breakfast few times a week.
If we eat basically whole unprocessed foods we are just fine and can indulge in a turkey and provolone sub or pizza and ice cream on occasion.
As long as that is the exception and not the rule. Amy’s has a tomato soup that’s just tomatoes and water and onions…it has some sugar though. I keep a can or two just in case but otherwise don’t buy canned soup. I like the bone broths for soup basis.
I don’t buy low salt or low fat because I just don’t like the taste personally. And my blood panels are excellent and I watch salt in other foods. So yeah, cooking and eating is a process that takes thought and planning and reading but requires less effort as time goes on. Getting others to start on that journey is the problem. And it does not have to be expensive even when buying organic.
I buy some organic vegetables and prefer grass fed beef and am picky about chicken and fish. It’s a lot easier when you are cooking mainly for one. I don’t spend a whole lot of time cooking unless I feel a creative urge. Some urges turned out awful and some of the best dishes were a mismosh of things and flinging in spices that I couldn’t duplicate because I eyeballed everything.
But I’ll eat it even if it wasn’t that good …..rarely throw out food.
Muffin making time here in sunny Fl
You see the positives of not driving (as well as the limitations). That is just great! It helps keep you from being depressed over that which you can't control. Congratulations on making such a good adjustment to a difficult situation. I hope I do as well as you when I reach that point in my life.