Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....
I know I am very guilty of classifying people in general, and regarding weight in particular. Living in the bible/heart attack/ diabetes belt, it simply blows my mind how many obese people I see every single day when out and about. Granted, fewer of those at Dillard’s than Walmart. Still, in addition to being concerned, I am also judging those people. I know I should not, but how in the world can someone get that fat? It would take years of dedicated overeating to reach that. No, I really don’t think that all of them have a medical issue, seeing what’s in their grocery carts. Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude when I’ve been semi-denying myself all those chips and cookies and fries for decades?? I live and eat well, but treats should be treats, not daily food.
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I think your sharing these thoughts you have about what you see as a judgemental attitude is brave. It really is refreshing to hear someone expressing a perceived prejudice. I use the word perceived only because I am not judging you in what you're saying. I have always thought of myself as non judgmental and not prejudiced in any way toward anyone or anything. However, I find myself thinking things that are definitely prejudiced. I notice it when it happens and just say to myself that I should and do know better, but since I'm still only a human being on a very complicated path through life, I'm gonna keep slipping. When I stop messing up, then I will be an angel or a saint! But I definitely will no longer be earth bound!
Hello @ellerbracke and @georgette12
You have brought up a very interesting topic, that of body image, especially regarding women. Some time ago when I was being weighed at the doctor's office prior to an appointment this note was posted above the scale:
"The numbers on a scale merely represent your body's relationship with gravity. They do not determine worth, talent, beauty, or the ability to have a wonderful heart."
Many women have problems with body image and become pre-occupied with being thin. They generally have more health problems than do heavier folks.
@hopeful33250 What a great and reassuring sign. I think doctors have to walk a fine line between not saying something and trying to let their patients know the health risks they are causing by being overweight. I’ve thought about that a lot, having been very overweight. I am sure my health problems were a result of my being overweight, although most people who are heavy don’t develop cirrhosis, and some who are not heavy do – I guess it’s all in how our body processes the food. No doctor ever said anything about losing weight until I BROUGHT IT UP with my current PCP. He told me I should try to cut down on portions when I asked, a very gentle suggestion. Now he is constantly amazed at how much I lost and maintained that loss! I guess they’re afraid that if they come on too strong the patient may not want to see a doctor anymore or change to a different doctor.
In my last job my boss and I coincidentally both ended up going to the same doctor, one who was new in town. He said if she made him get weighed he was walking out! You actually do not have to get weighed unless they are prescribing something where the dosage can vary depending on weight.
On a related note, since fracturing my femur I have lost weight without trying! I thought for sure that I would gain since I am not going to my health club for exercise. I can only presume that our bodies burn calories trying to heal. The same thing happened after my last TKR, so much so that I was getting worried. I lost 10 pounds that time.
Interesting thoughts, JK. Thanks for sharing!
Just wondering if anyone else has any thoughts about body image and/or eating disorders. Have you known of anyone who has had an eating disorder? As younger women are most affected by the race-to-thinness, what can be done?
Yes, your absolutely right, you/we shouldn’t judge. It’s hard not to sometimes. I don’t understand family members giving morbidly obese people who can’t get out of bed whatever and how ever much food they want when they already weigh 4, 5, 600 pounds
I became overweight when my dad was in the hospital for 7 months. Maybe it was a coping mechanism. Sounds better than I was a pig. I went up to 225 pounds but I quickly lost that weight when I started swimming 5 miles a day. That lasted until my shoulder surgeries made it to difficult. I kept eating my candy bars and root beer float at bedtime so it was just poor eating habits, wrong food and to much of it and lack of enough exercise.
I went to the doctor and she said “Don’t lose any more weight (I weighed 142) so being obedient as I am I obeyed, well sort of. I ended up gaining 85 pounds. I was happily sitting at home munching on a candy bar, my food of choice, when the phone rang, it was my doctor and she never hesitates to say what’s on her mind. She said “Your fat and your going to do something about it.” She sent me to a Nutritionist and the gym and she called the gym weekly to verify I was showing up every day. I’ve lost 67 pounds so far with at least 22 more to go. I’d lost 70 pounds but a lady here forced me to order a bunch of Purdue’s candy from Canada and I gained a few back. Bad Connect member, shame on you!!!
@jakedduck1 Good for you to lose this much keep it up see how much powerful women are lol
Too tired to compute your stated numbers over the years ….. Right now, may I ask? How tall, how old, ok weight, mostly upbeat in outlook (yup, I get you don’t like to cook but that should not depress you).
I think there was a reference to swimming 5 miles a day? I worked myself up to swimming 1/2 mile at an indoor pool, very short track, limited to backstroke bc of knee, in roughly 50 minutes. Slowpoke, but good aerobics Where did you accomplish yours?
I’m 5’91/2” tall, 160lbs, to damn old 66yrs 6mo 8 days about 13 1/2 hrs give or take an hr or so, weight now 160, goal 140-145, your right I loath to cook, Just looking in the kitchen is a stressor especially if the floor needs mopped or there are dishes to be done. Not cooking makes it easier to lose weight though. Not depressed at all. My doc said I was once but I question that diagnosis. Might have been but if so the UPS driver fixed that.