Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....

Posted by ellerbracke @ellerbracke, Aug 31, 2019

I know I am very guilty of classifying people in general, and regarding weight in particular. Living in the bible/heart attack/ diabetes belt, it simply blows my mind how many obese people I see every single day when out and about. Granted, fewer of those at Dillard’s than Walmart. Still, in addition to being concerned, I am also judging those people. I know I should not, but how in the world can someone get that fat? It would take years of dedicated overeating to reach that. No, I really don’t think that all of them have a medical issue, seeing what’s in their grocery carts. Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude when I’ve been semi-denying myself all those chips and cookies and fries for decades?? I live and eat well, but treats should be treats, not daily food.

@lioness

@contentandwell I'm a binge eater too. I just had 4 brownies . I'm bad

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@lioness. For some reason it’s been easier recently, I have no idea why, plus I don’t keep many sweets in the house except for dark chocolate — usually around 85% cocoa. My husband has to have some dessert every night but he has no problem limiting it to a small amount. His father was a pastry chef! Maybe that’s why, there must have always been yummy treats available.

Oooh, that cake at the rehearsal dinner and the cake at the wedding were soooooo good. 😋. I do actually weigh my food though and am generally pretty good. I do not want to regain the weight I lost.
JK

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@contentandwell I know what you mean and it is so easy to put it on again. I love the dark chocolate have to kisses a day Hershey makes the dark chocolate and I find the kisses to be just enough .

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@imallears

@ellerbracke
Hi,

Oh there are so many judgmental just plain nasty people out there who constantly shame others, especially the overweight. I think judging these people is almost a natural reaction but I can’t tolerate shaming…especially when children do it. I also see too many overweight or obese people daily…too many young ones and too many in the health care industry. I feel sad for them especially the children.

My daughter who is a nurse practitioner and works in the ALFs here treats obese patients daily. She has so many patients with families that bring them in pizzas and junk food and then turn around and ask angrily why their parent is so sick and her lab numbers so bad. 70% of medical problems are food related.

I personally have overweight and obese friends who are just plain lazy and have told me they accept the way they are. They are not inclined to eat healthy and have no interest in nutrition and don’t want to hear about anything relating to good health. It’s frustrating and yes, I do judge them because they are smart people otherwise. I think…then don’t complain to me about any ailments you have or that you may be pre diabetic …you aren’t listening to advice even from your doctors. And the doctors! My friends husband is morbidly obese and she told me he his doctor never told him to lose weight. His doctor should be scaring the crap out of him.Meanwhile she is trying to help him on her own and his doctor just adjustshis insulin intake.

Too many people are unaware of how to choose healthy eating habits…they are living day to day just earning a living and raising families. They don’t read labels or read any literature that is food related because they honestly don’t know what’s available to them. It’s easier to shop for the same unhealthy cheaper foods especially when you encounter fast food eateries everywhere you go even at the supermarket and are bombarded with tv ads for junk. They don’t know that it takes just as much time to cook a healthy meal as it does an unhealthy one.

I blame the FDA and Drug Companies and Tobacco companies with their phony biased research funded by food and drug lobbyists. These people are not out to help you, they are out to make money….period the end. There’s research that says Coke can be beneficial to you and not as bad as it’s made out to be. ……research is funded by the CocoCola Company.

This country is doomed if the obesity rate doesn’t drop and everyone has to fend for themselves. Our children’s lifespans will get shorter. We are the only species that overeats and does not regulate their food intake (us and the poor animals we feed). We’re the most evolved species? We have a friend who reversed her early diagnosed MS because my daughter told her what to eat and gave her a cookbook. She listened big time and is as healthy as she was when younger.

I could go on but will spare you…it makes me so angry when I see and hear what I do. I don’t want to push advice on anyone but I’m only too happy to nudge you along the path.

Regards from FL Mary

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@imallears : you echoed a lot of the feelings I have about people who simply don’t care about their weight. My parents and most of my aunts and uncles were moderately overweight – as in size 14, generally. One uncle skinny as a rail, one aunt slender, and one morbidly obese. She died dismally of congestive heart failure, not a pleasant way to go. So there is some family history that made me very aware of watching your weight. Another family example: have one grandson who was perhaps 15 to 20 lbs. overweight by the time he was 14. It just crept up on him. Any gentle nudge to put the brakes on his eating did not work. Until: during some school-sponsored summer lecture he attended a presentation by a physician detailing the effects of juvenile diabetes. Guess what? From that day on he simply stopped eating any kind of sweets, cold turkey. He’s now a very healthy looking 16 yr. old.

Regarding food choices: a lot has to do with the triggers – salt, sugar, fat. I read a book some time ago explaining how the fast food and packaged goods industry sneaks in extra hidden amounts of these ingredients to hook people. Not easy to escape the lure! Other than commercially baked bread (the artisanal kind, from Lidl, mostly), cheeses, and – yep, we partake – cold cuts, I hardly buy any prepared food or meals. I make my own marinara sauce, own enchilada sauce, own taco seasoning, etc…May cave to “light” canned soups once in a while, or vegetable spring rolls, but mostly I cook from scratch, with fresh ingredients. I’l lucky to have the time and interest to do so. Regarding cost: smart shopping and planning ahead can make home cooking ridiculously cheap. For example, recently an up-scale grocery chain has offered roasted chickens for $ 5.00 on Thursdays. Enough for one meal (with a nice big salad, and some garlic bread), then I remove and dice all the remaining meat and make a white chicken chili (onion, garlic, canned diced chilies, spices, rinsed cannelini beans, low salt chicken broth, a hint of sharp cheddar at the end). So 2 meals, for 2 people, for under $10.00 = $2.50 per person, per meal.
Just saying…..

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@ellerbracke

@imallears : you echoed a lot of the feelings I have about people who simply don’t care about their weight. My parents and most of my aunts and uncles were moderately overweight – as in size 14, generally. One uncle skinny as a rail, one aunt slender, and one morbidly obese. She died dismally of congestive heart failure, not a pleasant way to go. So there is some family history that made me very aware of watching your weight. Another family example: have one grandson who was perhaps 15 to 20 lbs. overweight by the time he was 14. It just crept up on him. Any gentle nudge to put the brakes on his eating did not work. Until: during some school-sponsored summer lecture he attended a presentation by a physician detailing the effects of juvenile diabetes. Guess what? From that day on he simply stopped eating any kind of sweets, cold turkey. He’s now a very healthy looking 16 yr. old.

Regarding food choices: a lot has to do with the triggers – salt, sugar, fat. I read a book some time ago explaining how the fast food and packaged goods industry sneaks in extra hidden amounts of these ingredients to hook people. Not easy to escape the lure! Other than commercially baked bread (the artisanal kind, from Lidl, mostly), cheeses, and – yep, we partake – cold cuts, I hardly buy any prepared food or meals. I make my own marinara sauce, own enchilada sauce, own taco seasoning, etc…May cave to “light” canned soups once in a while, or vegetable spring rolls, but mostly I cook from scratch, with fresh ingredients. I’l lucky to have the time and interest to do so. Regarding cost: smart shopping and planning ahead can make home cooking ridiculously cheap. For example, recently an up-scale grocery chain has offered roasted chickens for $ 5.00 on Thursdays. Enough for one meal (with a nice big salad, and some garlic bread), then I remove and dice all the remaining meat and make a white chicken chili (onion, garlic, canned diced chilies, spices, rinsed cannelini beans, low salt chicken broth, a hint of sharp cheddar at the end). So 2 meals, for 2 people, for under $10.00 = $2.50 per person, per meal.
Just saying…..

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@ellerbracke
Exactly right! Salt and sugar are what are kids are use to and I have even sent some dishes back in restaurants that were so salty they were uneatable. We have a $5 Monday Rotisserie chicken deal too. I generally cook for me only so that’s soup and chicken salad and the white meat just sliced over salad. Four or five meals for me easy and then I’m tired of fricken chicken lol.
An interest in cooking , like you have , is the key too. I make my own salad dressings and some seasonings. They taste better.
I’m making gluten free muffins this morning with no sugar….almond flour, 3 ripe bananas, 3 eggs and I throw in craisens and nuts.
Sweet enough . Can be frozen or I usually refrigerate for breakfast few times a week.

If we eat basically whole unprocessed foods we are just fine and can indulge in a turkey and provolone sub or pizza and ice cream on occasion.
As long as that is the exception and not the rule. Amy’s has a tomato soup that’s just tomatoes and water and onions…it has some sugar though. I keep a can or two just in case but otherwise don’t buy canned soup. I like the bone broths for soup basis.

I don’t buy low salt or low fat because I just don’t like the taste personally. And my blood panels are excellent and I watch salt in other foods. So yeah, cooking and eating is a process that takes thought and planning and reading but requires less effort as time goes on. Getting others to start on that journey is the problem. And it does not have to be expensive even when buying organic.
I buy some organic vegetables and prefer grass fed beef and am picky about chicken and fish. It’s a lot easier when you are cooking mainly for one. I don’t spend a whole lot of time cooking unless I feel a creative urge. Some urges turned out awful and some of the best dishes were a mismosh of things and flinging in spices that I couldn’t duplicate because I eyeballed everything.
But I’ll eat it even if it wasn’t that good …..rarely throw out food.

Muffin making time here in sunny Fl
Mary

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@lioness

@jakedduck1 HI Leonard . I gave up my license 2 years ago yes its hard not to just go when you want but with the financial part of a car I'm glad I did. I have my groceries delivered . Walmart will delivery free if you order at least 35.00 Also Instacart deliveries for 9.99 I love the delivery service . I cant get out and shop so this is ideal for me . Insurances have Express Script at least mine does that will mail your meds for you so they come to your mailbox. Its ideal for us who just cant get out .

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Hi @lioness,
You see the positives of not driving (as well as the limitations). That is just great! It helps keep you from being depressed over that which you can't control. Congratulations on making such a good adjustment to a difficult situation. I hope I do as well as you when I reach that point in my life.

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@lioness

@contentandwell I know what you mean and it is so easy to put it on again. I love the dark chocolate have to kisses a day Hershey makes the dark chocolate and I find the kisses to be just enough .

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Jeez Linda, did I read that right only two kisses in a day? As in one two, less than three or was that a typo? How do you get through the other 23hrs 55 seconds? I don’t care for dark chocolate myself but if there nothing else I’d try and choke some down. I like the milk chocolate with caramel ones but a handful or two, I have small hands, lol
My friend left some dark chocolate here and I got desperate so I gagged some down. IT WAS HORRIBLE, worse than some of the junk Hurricane Mary devours. Come to find out it contained mint. What an awful combination. One is bad enough but together super mega yuck!!! 🤮🤢
Jake

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@hopeful33250

Hi @lioness,
You see the positives of not driving (as well as the limitations). That is just great! It helps keep you from being depressed over that which you can't control. Congratulations on making such a good adjustment to a difficult situation. I hope I do as well as you when I reach that point in my life.

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@hopeful33250 Thanks Teresa You will as you are a positive person and will find the way too

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@jakedduck1

Jeez Linda, did I read that right only two kisses in a day? As in one two, less than three or was that a typo? How do you get through the other 23hrs 55 seconds? I don’t care for dark chocolate myself but if there nothing else I’d try and choke some down. I like the milk chocolate with caramel ones but a handful or two, I have small hands, lol
My friend left some dark chocolate here and I got desperate so I gagged some down. IT WAS HORRIBLE, worse than some of the junk Hurricane Mary devours. Come to find out it contained mint. What an awful combination. One is bad enough but together super mega yuck!!! 🤮🤢
Jake

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@jakedduck1 As soon as I read it I knew you would come back at me . Yes it was a typo should be two kisses a day of dark chocolate candy maybe I should of rephrased it . lol

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@lioness

@jakedduck1 As soon as I read it I knew you would come back at me . Yes it was a typo should be two kisses a day of dark chocolate candy maybe I should of rephrased it . lol

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@lioness
I can’t believe you can only eat two of those infinitesimally small little kisses.
Jake

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@jakedduck1

Jeez Linda, did I read that right only two kisses in a day? As in one two, less than three or was that a typo? How do you get through the other 23hrs 55 seconds? I don’t care for dark chocolate myself but if there nothing else I’d try and choke some down. I like the milk chocolate with caramel ones but a handful or two, I have small hands, lol
My friend left some dark chocolate here and I got desperate so I gagged some down. IT WAS HORRIBLE, worse than some of the junk Hurricane Mary devours. Come to find out it contained mint. What an awful combination. One is bad enough but together super mega yuck!!! 🤮🤢
Jake

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@jakeduck
Hurricane Mary never eats junk😡I’m wondering what percentage of dark chocolate you had…..the higher the number the more bitter it may taste to your peculiar taste buds…..mmmm dark chocolate, a good Pinot and some mussels in white wine sauce with crispy bread. Get up off the floor…you can have the rest of my bread.

Healthy Hurricane Mary

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@jakedduck1

@lioness
I can’t believe you can only eat two of those infinitesimally small little kisses.
Jake

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@jakedduck1 I just let it melt in my mouth and savor the flavor

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@imallears

@jakeduck
Hurricane Mary never eats junk😡I’m wondering what percentage of dark chocolate you had…..the higher the number the more bitter it may taste to your peculiar taste buds…..mmmm dark chocolate, a good Pinot and some mussels in white wine sauce with crispy bread. Get up off the floor…you can have the rest of my bread.

Healthy Hurricane Mary

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@imallears
I like grape juice too but the alcohol ruins it. Did you ever stop and think the only reason you can choke down some of stuff you eat is because your a bid snockered? Your probably going to tell me the grape enhances the food?
Jake

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@lioness

@jakedduck1 I just let it melt in my mouth and savor the flavor

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@ lioness
Well that ought to kill 5 seconds of your day.
I wish I had your willpower and determination.
Jake

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@jakedduck1

@imallears
I like grape juice too but the alcohol ruins it. Did you ever stop and think the only reason you can choke down some of stuff you eat is because your a bid snockered? Your probably going to tell me the grape enhances the food?
Jake

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@jakeduck
I don’t know anyone who can get snockered on one glass of wine lol. Ah, it makes the whole food experience so much better…the atmosphere, the ambience ……viva la reservetol….so much better than a sugar high from candy…..and when you have dinner and drink wine with friends….omg…..unbelievable …..and the wine has to be in the proper glass just like food has to be properly presented and pleasing to the eye.

BTW you inspired me to defrost a thick bone in pork chop so I seared and seasoned it and it is now simmering in a bone broth.
Let me see…..that will be good with a Cabernet or Merlot or Meritage….doesn’t matter.

Healthy happy hurricane Mary 45 minutes away from wine time🍷

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@imallears

@jakeduck
I don’t know anyone who can get snockered on one glass of wine lol. Ah, it makes the whole food experience so much better…the atmosphere, the ambience ……viva la reservetol….so much better than a sugar high from candy…..and when you have dinner and drink wine with friends….omg…..unbelievable …..and the wine has to be in the proper glass just like food has to be properly presented and pleasing to the eye.

BTW you inspired me to defrost a thick bone in pork chop so I seared and seasoned it and it is now simmering in a bone broth.
Let me see…..that will be good with a Cabernet or Merlot or Meritage….doesn’t matter.

Healthy happy hurricane Mary 45 minutes away from wine time🍷

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@imallears
Hey there Hurricane,
If you cook your chop for 5 1/2 hours it will be super tender.
Well they say wine is good for you, it should be it tastes just like medicine, IMO.
When I visited friends in Canada they sent us $2 grand for 4 bottles of wine. Talk about having more money than sense. It was red wine and I tasted it, now I understand how you can eat some of the vile things you eat. If you like wine you’ll like anything, which you’ve proven many times.
Yes, your right about candy. It’s horrible for a person but I could easily live on candy and Dr. Pepper, my food and drink of choice. But I don’t drink soda except when my friend brought me lunch one day. And not much candy, unfortunately.
Jake

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