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Has anyone had a respite happen in their Alzheimer’s spouse delusions when everything settled into a more normal life for a week and then, it all reverts back to the craziness of Alzheimer’s?
For over a week my wife acted almost normal at night no major blowups or delusions. Then the ugly I stole her tweezers came out of the dark and reared its ugly head again. Why tweezers I have no idea, really not a clue. She refuses to leave them in the same place, in the same container or in the same room. Last week it was a search for 3 days all the time accusing me of taking them until she found them in a coat pocket. Tonight I got no respite as she was positive I took them until I found them in a dresser drawer in a little cloth bag. Of course I put them there! Now as much as I try to control my temper I blew my top there’s just so much a person can take!!
We suspect she is in stage 4 . Does anyone with someone in later stages have a similar experience? Is this on and off a sign of further decline.
I am so confused. Dealing with this starting with the warning signs 6 years ago has worn me out.
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So agree that being warn out contributes to caregivers losing their patience. No rhyme or reason with this crazy disease and they can be like a dog with a bone when fixating on a certain object. Hoping you get another break of near normalcy. Hang in there and forgive yourself for losing patience. We all do on occasion. Such a huge load to carry.
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11 Reactions@jenniferkr
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2 ReactionsIf the tweezers are the one and only problem all the time....buy an exact pair, or two, and keep them handy, where you can easily grab them when the situation arises, and just hand them to her. Find the "lost" tweezers for your stock.
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11 Reactions@fred1 An economical place to stock up on things for this purpose: Dollar Tree. So sorry you are dealing with this.
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4 ReactionsThank you for the suggestion, however, I'm not the one with this particular problem - I was just replying to another member.
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1 Reaction@jenniferkr YES. I’ve been thinking how fragmented every day is and, consequently how much I never get around to, and with this kind of situation how unclear my own thinking is when I finally do have time to tackle some tasks that have been on hold. Spinning my own wheels so much of the time.
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11 Reactions@ktcosmos Sometimes I feel my brain is starting to go “all octopus-like” after a day (and especially evening!) of caregiving. In fact, I didn’t even realize I AM caregiving, till my psychiatrist pointed it out. There are times everything is “normal” till it isn’t. Plus, all the new household things I’m having to learn…and finances…and the interruptions (that could wait, but seem urgent to him) while I’m trying to figure out something complicated. I know there will be a time when I’ll miss all this…so I’m working very hard at patience and tone of voice when I respond. Brain fog is real in caregivers.
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12 Reactions@2me I agree; it's brain fog and disorientation in caregivers. It's hard every day to continually be hit with so many interruptions, that yes, are urgent to them, along with just daily living, and now you mix in the full-time caregiving where you're trying to be one step ahead of them, while running the household, paying the bills, and trying to make sure that what he's doing on his PC and phone, doesn't create another hack in. That's alot. With no break. And no clear line of sight of any break. Add that to living in a rental and out of boxes/storage for the last year. Wow, yesterday was a tough day for me. Why I'm back on this site this morning, to get some relief and start all over again.
Best, Karla
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6 Reactions@kjc48 Hoping today is better for you, Karla.
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3 Reactions@ktcosmos The list of things to do that never get accomplished is long. Mentally I think I will complete later in the day but then by "later in the day" I am exhausted and put it off to another day.
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