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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”

Posted by tryingtimes10 @tryingtimes10, Dec 31, 2024

My husband was diagnosed with MCI in 2019. He is pretty independent, just forgetful of time, dates, location of places, anything electronic & events from our life together (we’ve been married 52 years). It’s all just getting to me. I find myself wanting to be alone so I’m not continuously reminded of these changes. Because my friends/family are out of state, working, or involved with their own families, I really have no one to talk to so I’m seeing a therapist twice a week to deal with the sadness, anger, grief I have over his condition. I just wonder if other women find themselves in this position & how they are dealing with it.

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bjs080208 | @bjs080208 | 1 day ago

Unfortunately I’m in the same situation as you. My husband was diagnosed earlier this year, but the memory issues have been gone on for a few years. I have support from my family and I go to a Va caregiver dementia support group 2x a month. I walk a lot and that helps me. There are local caregiver support groups via in person or online. I do both. Hope this helps.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | 20 hours ago
In reply to @ladybug31 "Yes. I have the same feelings. My husband is 60 and was diagnosed with mci at..." + (show)
@ladybug31

Yes. I have the same feelings. My husband is 60 and was diagnosed with mci at 59. It breaks my heart. We had plans for retirement but some of that is on hold.

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@ladybug31, that is such a hard blow that I know many members have experienced. Life interupted! MCI is not according to plan.

Are there some retirement plans that are still possible? Are you both retired already or are you still working?

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maryvc | @maryvc | 4 hours ago

I am with you as are many on this forum. I am married 52 years also. My husband was diagnosed in 2023 but there were signs before that. Whether it’s still MCI - I’d like to think so but if I were not able to be his partner and guide 24/7, he might already need memory care or 24/7 caregivers. I will do this as long as I can with hired help, but at some point I won’t have the bandwidth anymore. Every day is a new ending and a new beginning.
I live in the moment with him.
We are on Day 21 of a road trip. I do all the arranging and driving but it’s been nice for both of us.

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