Blaming and anger: How do you deal with it?

@cyds
I bet you don't have to live in Oregon to take the classes from Oregon Care Partners.
So far no waiting for classes, I get right in so hope you can too.

Mrs. Jekyll was the nicest person ever. I was amazed she had 500 contacts, friends and family, on her iPhone. She fell getting up from the sofa Saturday and said, "Why did you push me?" When she misplaces something in the house, she claims someone stole it. I just ask her some questions or tell her she might be right. Passive control? Five minutes later she'll tell me she loves me.

Hello. I am finding that taking caregiver classes is helping me with tools to manage my husband's target behaviors (the behaviors that cause me the most frustration).
The Alzheimers Association offers free classes for Alz. and dementia.
In my state (Oregon) we have the Oregon Care Partners group that also offer free classes.
All the best. 🪻

I don’t think he’s doing anything on purpose. It’s just the disease progressing but, make no mistake even knowing this, it still triggers my anger and my poor-little-me attitude.
I’m hoping my time in this wheelchair is temporary. I’m going to physical therapy so with the Lord’s help, I’ll be able to regain my balance and walk again.
Prayers appreciated.

My husband is undiagnosed because he is in denial and his medical team is of no help, as they say that he has to agree to testing, allowing me to attend medical appointments, etc. I would say that he suffers from Mild Cognitive Impairment because he manages fairly well for the most part. He has undergone a major personality change, but it's a positive change. He only "blows up" very seldom. I get so angry when he leaves stove on, blames me for things that he has done, insists that he has told me certain things, etc. I just need someone to validate what I'm going through. By the way, I am on medication for Severe Major Depression and sometimes deal with suicidal ideation.

My husband is undiagnosed because he is in denial and his medical team is of no help, as they say that he has to agree to testing, allowing me to attend medical appointments, etc. I would say that he suffers from Mild Cognitive Impairment because he manages fairly well for the most part. He has undergone a major personality change, but it's a positive change. He only "blows up" very seldom. I get so angry when he leaves stove on, blames me for things that he has done, insists that he has told me certain things, etc. I just need someone to validate what I'm going through. By the way, I am on medication for Severe Major Depression and sometimes deal with suicidal ideation.

My husband is undiagnosed because he is in denial and his medical team is of no help, as they say that he has to agree to testing, allowing me to attend medical appointments, etc. I would say that he suffers from Mild Cognitive Impairment because he manages fairly well for the most part. He has undergone a major personality change, but it's a positive change. He only "blows up" very seldom. I get so angry when he leaves stove on, blames me for things that he has done, insists that he has told me certain things, etc. I just need someone to validate what I'm going through. By the way, I am on medication for Severe Major Depression and sometimes deal with suicidal ideation.

Mrs. Jekyll was the nicest person ever. I was amazed she had 500 contacts, friends and family, on her iPhone. She fell getting up from the sofa Saturday and said, "Why did you push me?" When she misplaces something in the house, she claims someone stole it. I just ask her some questions or tell her she might be right. Passive control? Five minutes later she'll tell me she loves me.

@lueverson I'm sorry that you're experiencing those behaviors. My husband has MCI as well. It's so difficult to maneuver through this with them when they are in denial and convinced that there is nothing wrong, and sometimes we can even go along with pretending because they do have great time spans that seem normal, until they don't, again. We see these new behaviors that we have never seen from them, then they turn around and ask what do you see that makes you think I have dementia and we can't list them, because it would be for no good reason, it would just upset them, plus they would, again, deny, deny, deny.
So, there is no solid answer, unfortunately, for any of us. But at least we have each other to lean on for solace.
I do hope you seek help for your anxiety and sadness over his changes. You are important.