COVID-19: What does it mean for people in ICU and for families?

@mutwo. I'm sorry about issues you are having. I hope your husband gets better soon so he can come home with you. Have you consider legal help to get you through with his ex wife and daughters? This is a difficult time for you, take care of yourself.

@mutwo, Just want you to know that I am joining Becky and others here in sending you and your family my thoughts and cyber hugs as well during this most heart wrenching time. I am glad you shared your experience even though I understand how difficult that was to do.

This group understands better than many casual acquaintances, friends or neighbors how critical health situations can bring out both the worst and best in those closest to us.

My best friend is home with Hospice care. Her daughter came to stay and take over her mom's medical and quality of care needs. Sadly, her mom gave her both legal and medical powers of attorney long before my friend's loving guy of 20+ years came into her life. Now the daughter is creating havoc in the home, attempting to take over financial matters and threatening that either "he or I need to move out of the house". I advised immediate counsel with an attorney and although they made an appointment, they cancelled it when the Hospice team scheduled a home conference because of the daughter's behavior. My friend owns the home where they reside and only she can order her daughter to leave. While she has told the daughter that her guy "stays", she is unwilling to order her to leave.

It is more than enough pain to bear witnessing what you and they are experiencing. I am so thankful that your deep religious faith is bolstering your ability to continue to manage and remain strong in the knowledge that your husband knows of your enduring love.

Support is the name of the game in this Connect group. We are here for you.

Thank you for your kindness. I hired someone but I feel like we are alone. I’m preparing to write the judge. The next hearing is in June. I’m trying to make progress. I pray that all is well with you. It’s a struggle to even move...but I’m holding it together because my kids have lost their father during this crisis....thank you sincerely

Hi Linda...I pray that all is well for you and your family and thank you and everyone here for your prayers. My husbands ex wife has constantly caused problems for the seven years that we’ve been together, but after we were married last year things got worse and he stopped communicating with her and her daughters...he changed his telephone number and did what he felt was necessary to avoid them. They were fighting to keep him at the facility tht he was being abused in and won because I was focused on getting him out of there and not on the petition they filed for guardianship...they listed all of his assets. His assets were and are my least concern. I just wanted him to be okay...it has been a nightmare that we couldn’t get out of. I’ve been trying to pray for them but honestly it’s hard. They told so many lies on me along with his two sisters that dnt even know me...I couldn’t even read the petition because it was so upsetting. I’m so disappointed that I was so weak at the time when he needed me most.... nikki

@mutwo I hope the Judge rules in your favor for you and your kids sake this has to be so hard not only you but your kids also. WIshing you the best for you and your husband keep us posted we are here to encourage you if we can Blessing to you

@mutwo I know how difficult things are for you now and it will be even more difficult to write a good letter. What I have been told is that letter writing should be done in stages. Write a letter and put it aside. Maybe look at it 23hours later and you’ll see many things you want to remove. Continue revising it so just the facts remain. You don’t want it to sound whiney, poor me. Explain that you were doing the best you could.
I have faith in you @mutwo and I know you’ll do your best. Becky

Fiesty i pray you are well

@mutwo I know how difficult things are for you now and it will be even more difficult to write a good letter. What I have been told is that letter writing should be done in stages. Write a letter and put it aside. Maybe look at it 23hours later and you’ll see many things you want to remove. Continue revising it so just the facts remain. You don’t want it to sound whiney, poor me. Explain that you were doing the best you could.
I have faith in you @mutwo and I know you’ll do your best. Becky

@mutwo, Thank you for your prayers.

@mutwo and @becsbuddy, Becky’s suggestion that “letter writing should be done in stages” is absolutely sterling advice.
After serving for decades as guardian for my disabled sister and with the continuing support and approval of my still living mom and other relatives of my handling affairs as guardian, an aunt filed to have herself named as guardian. She had recently divorced and wanted access to my sister’s trust fund. I learned of her action when given notice of a hearing before a judge. I was advised to write a letter to the judge.
That was an incredibly difficult task for me to attempt. Stunned and overwhelmed by her action, my first drafts included more of the emotions I was feeling and fewer of the facts that needed to be included.
It took a few starts, set asides and new starts before I felt confident that the content was solely factual data and not emotional reaction. As Becky wrote: “by continuing to revise so that just the facts remained”, the judge dismissed the case in my favor.
The first step is always the hardest and it took me numerous drafts but Nikki you can do this, even if a few sentences at a time. We are rooting for you.

@starchy, Thank you for your follow-up about your move. When I learned at a seminar of a local company, certified nationally, who provides the services you mentioned and used, I was delighted. This company can be hired for everything from start to finish or one can select which of the services desired. Just keeping my fingers crossed that they will be available when the time comes for me.