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My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

Posted by maone @maone, Jul 30, 2019

He left his wife and family three months ago.

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maone | @maone | Jul 31, 2019
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@hopeful33250

Hello @maone and welcome to Mayo Connect
I am so sorry to hear of this very difficult experience that you and your family are going through. I am sure that you are doing all you can to locate him, but without any results, it must be hard to stay the course. How are his wife and children coping? How are you coping?

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Thanks so much. Yes, all that we could do has been done. We think he has taken on a new identity. He had been looking at a book called Leaving without a trace. I think he has not contacted anyone he ever knew. He was never a person to break the law in any way. We think he felt he didn’t have any other choice but this. He couldn’t have known how much it would hurt us for him to do this. It puts us in a club we never wanted to be in?

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maone | @maone | Jul 31, 2019
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@hopeful33250

Hello @maone and welcome to Mayo Connect
I am so sorry to hear of this very difficult experience that you and your family are going through. I am sure that you are doing all you can to locate him, but without any results, it must be hard to stay the course. How are his wife and children coping? How are you coping?

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You are a mentor! I wonder why the email replies went to my junk mail? I’m not sure I’m using this right ? I was surprised to see the replies I got. I hope I haven’t missed any. Thank you very much

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 31, 2019
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@maone

Thanks so much. Yes, all that we could do has been done. We think he has taken on a new identity. He had been looking at a book called Leaving without a trace. I think he has not contacted anyone he ever knew. He was never a person to break the law in any way. We think he felt he didn’t have any other choice but this. He couldn’t have known how much it would hurt us for him to do this. It puts us in a club we never wanted to be in?

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Hello @maone,

I'm glad that you found our replies. Sometimes notifications do get into my Spam filter as well.
I can't imagine how confused you and his wife must be. I suppose hindsight is always 20/20 and now you can see the warning signs.
Please feel free to share your hurt and confusion as you wish. We are here to read your posts and be a listening ear.
I will certainly pray for you and your son.

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lioness | @lioness | Jul 31, 2019

@maone My thoughts and prayers are with all of you I cant imagine the hurt you all feel. So sorry for your lose the not knowing has to be terrible .

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Jul 31, 2019
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@maone

Thanks so much. Yes, all that we could do has been done. We think he has taken on a new identity. He had been looking at a book called Leaving without a trace. I think he has not contacted anyone he ever knew. He was never a person to break the law in any way. We think he felt he didn’t have any other choice but this. He couldn’t have known how much it would hurt us for him to do this. It puts us in a club we never wanted to be in?

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I am sorry this happened to you and your family. Though people can post on this website, we can't take away your hurt. However, we can listen to your feelings.

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maone | @maone | Jul 31, 2019

Yes, and thank you very much ❤️

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maone | @maone | Jul 31, 2019
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@hopeful33250

Hello @maone,

I'm glad that you found our replies. Sometimes notifications do get into my Spam filter as well.
I can't imagine how confused you and his wife must be. I suppose hindsight is always 20/20 and now you can see the warning signs.
Please feel free to share your hurt and confusion as you wish. We are here to read your posts and be a listening ear.
I will certainly pray for you and your son.

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Thank you so much ! Not knowing is terrible. Nothing looks the same anymore except I have grown closer to Jesus I know He will never leave me. I know that He knows where my son is.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 31, 2019
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@maone

Thank you so much ! Not knowing is terrible. Nothing looks the same anymore except I have grown closer to Jesus I know He will never leave me. I know that He knows where my son is.

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@maone Yes, experiences like this do lead us to an anchor (an anchor that helps keep us safe and steady). I hope to hear from you on a regular basis. We are here to listen and encourage you.

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georgette12 | @georgette12 | Jul 31, 2019

Hi. There is nothing we on this forum can say to take the pain away. But we can listen. This is a safe place. Please let us continue to listen and pray.

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maone | @maone | Jul 31, 2019
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@hopeful33250

@maone Yes, experiences like this do lead us to an anchor (an anchor that helps keep us safe and steady). I hope to hear from you on a regular basis. We are here to listen and encourage you.

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Thank you so much ❤️

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