My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

Posted by maone @maone, Tue, Jul 30 9:45am

He left his wife and family three months ago.

Yes, and thank you very much ❤️

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@hopeful33250

Hello @maone,

I'm glad that you found our replies. Sometimes notifications do get into my Spam filter as well.
I can't imagine how confused you and his wife must be. I suppose hindsight is always 20/20 and now you can see the warning signs.
Please feel free to share your hurt and confusion as you wish. We are here to read your posts and be a listening ear.
I will certainly pray for you and your son.

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Thank you so much ! Not knowing is terrible. Nothing looks the same anymore except I have grown closer to Jesus I know He will never leave me. I know that He knows where my son is.

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@maone

Thank you so much ! Not knowing is terrible. Nothing looks the same anymore except I have grown closer to Jesus I know He will never leave me. I know that He knows where my son is.

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@maone Yes, experiences like this do lead us to an anchor (an anchor that helps keep us safe and steady). I hope to hear from you on a regular basis. We are here to listen and encourage you.

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Hi. There is nothing we on this forum can say to take the pain away. But we can listen. This is a safe place. Please let us continue to listen and pray.

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@hopeful33250

@maone Yes, experiences like this do lead us to an anchor (an anchor that helps keep us safe and steady). I hope to hear from you on a regular basis. We are here to listen and encourage you.

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Thank you so much ❤️

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@georgette12

Hi. There is nothing we on this forum can say to take the pain away. But we can listen. This is a safe place. Please let us continue to listen and pray.

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Yes, please 🙏

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@maone

You are a mentor! I wonder why the email replies went to my junk mail? I’m not sure I’m using this right ? I was surprised to see the replies I got. I hope I haven’t missed any. Thank you very much

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Hi @maone – my heart is aching for you. I am not that great at technology but I'm going to ask @johnbishop for help. He is a mentor and he is a Tech Whiz! John, can you help @maone figure out how to keep our Connect emails from going to her spam/junk folder. She has more than enough to deal with. If I could help her, I would. Thanks in advance!

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Hi @maone — Normally you can view the list of messages in your spam/junk folder and when you see a message that is not junk, click your right mouse button on the message and there should be some options. One of the options should be something like "this is not junk/spam". You click on that option and it will move it to the inbox again.

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@johnbishop

Hi @maone — Normally you can view the list of messages in your spam/junk folder and when you see a message that is not junk, click your right mouse button on the message and there should be some options. One of the options should be something like "this is not junk/spam". You click on that option and it will move it to the inbox again.

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Thanks @johnbishop – you do so much good for all of us.

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@maone and @debbraw — There is a discussion which may interest members on automatically having Connect emails go into a specific email folder you can create by creating a message rule or filter in your email program. This discussion has a lot of good information for different email programs that hopefully will help you do it if you want to try it.

> Groups > Just Want to Talk > [Tip] Filter your Connect emails into a folder
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/tip-filter-your-connect-emails-into-a-folder-1/

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@johnbishop

@maone and @debbraw — There is a discussion which may interest members on automatically having Connect emails go into a specific email folder you can create by creating a message rule or filter in your email program. This discussion has a lot of good information for different email programs that hopefully will help you do it if you want to try it.

> Groups > Just Want to Talk > [Tip] Filter your Connect emails into a folder
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/tip-filter-your-connect-emails-into-a-folder-1/

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@johnbishop@maone and @debbraw – Can I stick my 2 cents in? On my computer, in my spam box there is a place at the top that says "not spam" and if you check the box off in front of the email from Mayo Connect it will send it back to your in box. If it does it again, then do the same thing. Usually I only have to do it once. Does this make sense? It might just be the computer?

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@merpreb

@johnbishop@maone and @debbraw – Can I stick my 2 cents in? On my computer, in my spam box there is a place at the top that says "not spam" and if you check the box off in front of the email from Mayo Connect it will send it back to your in box. If it does it again, then do the same thing. Usually I only have to do it once. Does this make sense? It might just be the computer?

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@merpreb and @maone

I've done that as well, Merry. It does work! Anything you want to get in your inbox (not the spam filter) can be checked or moved. Thanks for explaining that Merry!

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@debbraw

Hi @maone – my heart is aching for you. I am not that great at technology but I'm going to ask @johnbishop for help. He is a mentor and he is a Tech Whiz! John, can you help @maone figure out how to keep our Connect emails from going to her spam/junk folder. She has more than enough to deal with. If I could help her, I would. Thanks in advance!

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Thanks so much. I’m using my iPad and not the computer but this has never happened on my iPad. For now I’m just checking my junk and found the replies today on it also. I’m impressed that I’ve had so many who care. Thanks so much. Never thought I’d have to go through this at 76 years old. But I don’t guess age has anything to do with it. God bless you for caring

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@maone As a mother, I can only imagine what you must be going through. I have read through all of the comments from others and responses from you. My first thought was are you sure he did not meet with foul play but it sounds as if there were signs there that this was planned.
I am so very sorry. I hope and pray that he will return, that somehow he will realize how much his family loves him and this hurts them more than anything else could.
JK

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I don’t think he did. There were signs that he planned this. His visit to us was one. I tried talking to him but he wouldn’t talk about anything private. Never would. This all tends to go back to a first marriage? He was never the same after that. It was still a ongoing problem. I think he was running from that as to not put more hurt on us but didn’t really realize what it might do to us. You can’t run from things. He left the very people who could help him most. Maybe he just didn’t care anymore? It’s so very hard trying to figure it out when one feels like they have lost a part of their body. Thanks for caring ❤️

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