Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

@hodagwi These little things make up the universe. Playing with my pencil and paper in a effort to turn a blank sheet of paper into a little pleasure.

@hopeful33250@Parus I will let you know when I try was shopping so resting now but I,ll let you know

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I understand what you’re feeling as I’ve gone thru the same thing with my sons. I suffer from anxiety and depression from chronic pain, heart disease and lung disease. I finally came out and told my youngest son that it hurts me that he never asks how I’m doing. He’s gotten a little better but I think it’s the generation. My son is 34 my oldest son is 46. He’s only slightly better at asking. I’m lucky to have a daughter that talks to me almost every day and visits weekly. Start by telling your kids how you feel. Also try to find something to do that makes you happy. And you don’t always have to jump to help. I know that’s hard but they learn better sometimes by having to do things themselves. Hang in there!

@kdo0827 Hi haven't talked lately with you How,s it going with your sons , I honestly believe its the generation Ive talked with alot of people my age and they say the same thing the son,s don't call daughters are different .I know with my Mother I called her daily but my son nor his wife call either Wish it was different but it is what it is.I decided not to call them at all they will text or email back but the phone I guess is a unfamiliar thing to them It does hurt but what can we do .Hug our pillow.

Thanks for checking on me. Things are pretty much the same with my daughters but I did explain to one how I felt about them not calling to see how my procedure went. There’s a possibility I may have colon or stomach cancer. I’m having a colonoscopy on Wednesday. I’m praying it’s nothing serious going on. I’m not one to call attention to myself so I haven’t shared this. My depression is out of control. I’m very fatigued, absolutely no desire to leave the house, I feel very empty inside. I’m taking Cymbalta but I’m wondering if it’s the problem. Hope you’re doing well, love the hug your pillow idea!!

@kdo0827 , I can certainly understand why you’re so depressed. Waiting for answers you may or may not want is so hard. And then your brain goes in all directions of the “what if’s....” You say you spoke to your daughters about their not calling you after your procedure. Did they have good reasons? Did you feel better just saying something? Think anything might change? It’s so upsetting when a child seems not to care, but maybe they’re as scared as you.
I hope things will get better for you, I really do. Take care of yourself.

@hopeful33250@Parus I,ve done them all by Don Fiore like them It relaxes my nerves they just make you feel better Im going to use this after my exercise class or before what do you think?

@kdoO827 Maybe you should ask your daughter to go with you to the Dr,s on Wednesday ?Or next Dr visit .Yes I keep pillows handy. Did you ever try Tal Chi?I did just today funny how it relaxed me ,?

I may ask one of them if I find out it’s not good news. I weigh 215 pounds so I doubt I could do the exercise. I’ve also had both knees replaced. I cannot kneel on the floor at all.