Hostility

I can totally relate. Hostile is a good word; my husband seems to make a point of being oppositional defiant about anything I say, always in a ‘put down’ sort of way. He has lost most of the spontaneous joy and happiness he used to have. Any outings usually are filled with unpleasantries; I don’t much enjoy being around him. Lots of attention seeking behaviors, too. (He always liked being the center of attention, gregarious, but now he’s very negative about almost everything. )

@ams MCI does not always mean Alzheimer's Disease. I only go to certain doctor appointments with him. My husband does not have Alzheimer's. To better understand MCI I can send you a link to an article that may help you understand what MCI is. I find that many participants here do not understand it in the same way I do. That means their loved one may be much farther along in their process. My husband has remained very stable and I can confer with his physician when needed. Always ready to go for an appointment when needed.
Yes, we have all our papers done and have long before this reared its head. I don't have all the answers-not at all! I'm just making my way with Mr. Cranky as best I can.How about you? Does your husband have Alzheimer's Disease? If so, what stage?

OMG! so familiar...your stories about your husband's MCI are my stories too. Being deaf,dumb,and blind to it all actually helps. Then, take care of YOU! Hugs to you...

@kmliste Which can indicate MCI?

I am experiencing the same thing but with too much alcohol also thrown in the mix.

@sjde It did not boil down to one test. He had a very difficult psych test and flew thru it which I had predicted and I told his physician ( the psychiatrist who deals with dementias in older people) that I predicted he would so please don't do the "what is the month....who is the president thing...." When he finished that exam, I was called in for an interview with husband. My husband showed his change of personality and the psychologist told him he needed to learn to treat people better......I'm sure my husband felt like a cornered dog baring his teeth and growling....embarrassed too......On the way out I notice the psychologist was watching us....and my husband started with the "I'm not doing any of that stuff. only peppered with expletives :).." I just kept walking with him. He calmed down. Prior to that I had written his pcp a letter stating my concerns and hand delivered it. My husband did not want me to go to next visit with him. I said, "if your dr does not want me to be there I will wait in waiting room." He calmed down. And dr. welcomed me.
It is too much to explain here but I went through many steps. At one point I had to call the psychiatrist because he was "ridiculous" again and he had me see if I could convince him to take an increase in meds with the understanding that if he would not would /could he give him something else (prescribe) to calm him. Looking back I do believe he was still fighting the Dx of MCI. He has calmed down and remained stable. Will he get worse? I do not know. I keep a log (diary) of stuff he does (unusual for him) and present the facts to the doctor as appropriate. So far so good. I think he has begun to see that he isn't like he once was but he would never admit that to me. I don't have all the answers.....I only hope that by telling my story it may help or help guide you.

@sjde I think there is an "alcohol" type of dementia. I would definitely pay attention to that.
We saw that with an acquaintance.

Do any of you think this could be depression? When you think about all the losses they’re experiencing , some independence , other functions.

@kmliste Sounds exactly like my life except no Sertraline to help. Our neighbors hear him screaming all the time. Cannot talk in a normal tone, Agitated all the time.

@sjde
Absolutely. I hear depression is very common with dementia. You can administer the PHQ-9 yourself and can find it online (Patient Health Questionnaire- 9 questions).