Leakage around the sides of incontinence pads? What's better?

@anonmike I agree. Based on the brand reputation, I bought the new pads, and they are way less effective. I used to buy Meijier's brand men's pads, but the Meijer's near me stopped carrying them for the new Depends, which suck. If I can find the Meijer's online I will order a bunch more of those.

So often “improved” products are cheaper to make and of a lesser quality. The world we live in.

Okay here goes….. take a look at female urinary pads. Much larger and hold much more. And for some reason have a lot more “sticky tape” for staying in position. I’ve been using pads since 2008 when recovering from bladder cancer and have some experience. But everyone is unique. I also use and believe it’s necessary to wear undersized brief underwear. Tight underwear will help keep the pad in place. If you use a lot of pads it can get expensive so I’ve found that placing 2 or 3 Kleenex on the pad where you would most likely “drip” allows me to use a pad for an extended period. Obviously if the pad get even damp I say change it. Don’t want Mr. Happy sitting in a damp dark environment, subject to a rash or worse an infection. That’s my story🥵. Wishing you all the very best.

@kenporter
appreciate your take on this issue.

I saw on the internet there were briefs for men that would absorb light to moderate leakage. There may be in there product line a brief that you can use a pad. That way if you do leak on the sides, the briefs can prevent your problem from wetting your clothing.

Sorry I wanted to add this it may help. I purchased a watch that had alarm and a timer. I noticed about every 3hrs I have to change a pad. So I set the timer feature to go off 3 hrs so I don’t forget. The alarm feature on the watch I set every 2 hours to use the restroom, if I need to or not. So far it has kept me dry most of the time. Give it a try. If you get any new please share.

I found Tena #3, which you can only purchase from their website, were way better than the product on shelves of local retail stores. In fact, you can subscribe via the Tena website and take the worry out of running out by keeping a good supply at hand with regular shipments (I did mine every 6-weeks).
Be sure to keep several months supply on hand as over the years there were at least 2 periods of time Tena was "out of stock" for prolonged period of weeks (yikes!). I also had periods of time when I had to set my phone alarm to be sure I checked myself against possible leakage.
My continence worsened as I aged so in July 2025 I had a AUS device implanted. It has significantly reduced, but not eliminated, my incontinence. But since that reduction is significant I feel much more confident against any embarrassing leakage.

I thought a AUS was a guarantee no leakage as it has like a shutoff valve. But I am still learning-lots.

@paulmetzler2010
So glad that you are finding
Some relief.

@jrs619 aene
Though there is the issue that it is better to train your
bladder by letting if fill and try holding your urine, on days when i am active and will be out and around with others, I now just try to pee much more frequently so that the pad is much less full