Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”

@rolett1 thanks I will look them up

My pleasure!!

I have found some peace, most days, with prayer, meditation, walking and time in nature. A long slow process of watching the man I love slowly fade away is definitley the most challenging time of my life. May we all find some moments of peace for ourselves and our loved ones.

@rolett1 I sure get what you’re going through, as I am, too.

@kjc48 I have told my husband to not answer any phone, as he can’t hear, and would say “yes”to anything. I sure don’t want us to get scammed ! He is good about this, as he knows he can’t hear on the phone, well enough. He still understands about scams, and being proactive.
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@dederickve I know, every day, I just breathe we got through another day. When we were hacked into, I couldn't believe scammers got access to his PC and took over. It was really scary and it took me months and months to resolve. I'm glad your husband knows not to answer the phone. Mine, still wants to answer his, and OMG up on the PC, he's like "Edward Scissorhands."
We need to be hawks 24 x 7 to keep our eyes on them, and the scammers too.
Best, Karla

@dederickve it seems like all of us are dealing with this to some degree or another. The thing is is that we have to find coping mechanisms, because it’s all how we cope. In addition, I am looking at two different new medication’s, and oral one and an intravenous one. The intravenous one the client has to be approved for after they do a blood test and the oral one we can just order, but I’m still doing more research on it. I’ll let everybody know when I get more info.

It is helpful to know and do as many things that we can to halt this progression. I don’t believe in leaving things alone. And I’m very happy to pass the information out that I find out as I do my research.

About smart phones and laptop access - you might be able to prevent some issues by setting up controls to limit access to websites, maybe purchases, and downloading. Usually these are set up as “parental control”.

One way is to limit internet access using your router. Most routers have an option to set up “guest wifi” that is separate from your wifi logon. If you change the wifi setting on the spouse's devices to “guest” you can put some controls on there.
Many routers have “parental control” options. You can block certain websites, maybe your bank or a site that is used that has caused problems in the past. You can set time limits on the wifi access. If you need to provide oversight but the person likes to surf the web at night clicking on potentially problematic sites, you can set the guest wifi to shut off at 7? 9? pm so you can relax. Setting controls on the guest wifi will not affect your access on your regular wifi setting.
I’m not sure of all the options found under parental controls, other ones might be helpful as well.

@kjc48
Unfortunately, my husband DID get scammed via text. He even came to me and asked. I told him not to do it. I told him to call the person who asked him to give money by buying gift cards. We both knew the name and knew him well. I asked husband if he called the person and he replied, “We’ve been in touch.” I asked, “Did you call him?’
It turns out he had texted back the scammer! This was the first thing that happened that led me to get him an appointment with a dr. who deals with dementias. There were also other things after that he did which also contributed to getting the appointment.
I was quite surprised because my husband is usually suspect of this stuff. He would not listen to me.