My husband has frontal brain damage from surgery.

How can we help?

I have done tracking devices but forgot wallet. I need better coping mechanisms. Mine are failing as it worsens. It been 5 years that since he had 7 brain surgeries for tension pneumacephalus. He survived but has frontal brain damage. Some days better than others. I just need a support group fir people like me that get it.

I have friends that try to solve when I just need to vent. They don't understand the challenges. I have found that they just sugar coat and think I am wrong. He looks the same but his thinking is different. My patience is wearing thin. Unfortunately to him I am the bad guy. I try to be patient but day after day i reach a point that I end up blowing up and breaking down in tears. This is my new norm and I am just worn down.

@lanulare he is not the person that you married and living with that is very hard. I had frontal brain damage from a TBI 33 years ago (fine now) and it changes you. Lack of initiation (not engaging), mood swings, and being stuck in your brain are difficult, especially if you become invisible to him. When people would joke about me being brain damaged I felt like someone was punching me in the gut because I had no buffer for the "jokes". It would be good for your to talk with the doctor/neurologist for a support group or counselor. Good also to find ways to escape before you vent, even if that involves staying with friends/family, because he likely won't be able to process your frustrations. I hope also that he is getting brain PT to relearn and rewire his brain. There are also councelors for brain traumas.