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@lanulare I am 70 years old, and caregiving for my beloved wife of 47 years is the most emotionally difficult thing I have ever done in my life. I practice deep breathing and meditation daily. I read books and articles to her on subjects in which we have a mutual interest, and we try to find programs on TV that will make us laugh. We exercise together daily. We get out of the house as often as we can. But I get frustrated and impatient with her at times. On those occasions, I'm not as comforting as I should be, but I always feel bad afterwards and I feel particularly bad when I consider what happened from her point of view.

Give yourself some grace. Practice forgiveness: forgive him, and forgive yourself. Caregiving is incredibly hard, but remind yourself that what you're doing is incredibly noble and remember to give yourself a pat on the back from time to time. Also, see if there's a service, a friend, or a relative that can give you some time off. Just a free afternoon can make a world of difference. You're no good to anyone else unless you're good to yourself. God bless you and hang in there.

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@gablou17 Thank you. I actually got him involved in pickleball. Going to learn majong. Relearning cribbage. Yes I need to cut me some slack. My mental health was not on the priority list and it now should be. I felt so badly after my meltdown. I know he don't mean it. I love him and it's just gets overwhelming. Biggest thing I am working on is when he demands my attention. Now I am loosing track of what I am doing. Maybe some me time will help. Thank you.