@lanulare he is not the person that you married and living with that is very hard. I had frontal brain damage from a TBI 33 years ago (fine now) and it changes you. Lack of initiation (not engaging), mood swings, and being stuck in your brain are difficult, especially if you become invisible to him. When people would joke about me being brain damaged I felt like someone was punching me in the gut because I had no buffer for the "jokes". It would be good for your to talk with the doctor/neurologist for a support group or counselor. Good also to find ways to escape before you vent, even if that involves staying with friends/family, because he likely won't be able to process your frustrations. I hope also that he is getting brain PT to relearn and rewire his brain. There are also councelors for brain traumas.