Patience

Posted by wctdoc1943 @wctdoc1943, 2 days ago

My wife is somewhere on the (advanced???) MCI spectrum (not advanced dementia) and spends a lot of time scrolling through her phone and iPad emails, texts and phone calls. Today she was trying to delete a long list of "recent" (and not so recent) phone calls on her iPad, which can be done either in bulk (she is clueless how to do this) or by swiping individual ones. In trying to swipe she was "tapping" the call and it initiate a "call back" each time. So she came to me and I tried to explain how to swipe without initiating a call, and/or offered to bulk delete them for her. She then got agitated that I might delete something she wanted to keep (why, why, why???). It frustrates me to no end and I end up making her more agitated, and then I'm mad at myself for having no patience. It is so difficult to realize that she is not capable of understanding what I'm showing her, yet she still wants to do it herself. So we both end up upset. I understand this is all on me because she can't help herself, but damn it's hard. Thanks for listening.

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