When you truly, honestly hate yourself

Here is the link for Simon Mundie’s webinar, Happier Life Lessons:

Mundie’s Book
https://www.simonmundie.com/book

Mundie’s Podcast
https://www.simonmundie.com/podcast

Mundie’s Website
https://www.simonmundie.com/

@aczatx47131 - Wow! Thanks for ALL of the above!

I recommend the (free, 10-day) Daily Check-in...I'm a "creative" and highly visual type, and the simple, graphic animation used for the reminders is very welcoming to me,

Also, I'd signed up for yesterday's Zoom webinar, but it coincided with some other things I have going on, so I'm especially glad to hear it will be or is available to view after the fact.

It not only helps to be referred to these resources, but the interaction with you here on MCC, and your insights on what you recommend, and your experience with them, especially your practical approach to handling pain recently is really useful. I have pain from a second procedure right now, and while it isn't nearly as excruciating as the intermittent pain I had from the more extensive first procedure of 2 months ago, it has surprised me with its intensity - to the point where I'm yelling/swearing at it when it surprises me and compromises my ability to walk, until it passes.

I know that is not an effective way to handle it - especially after reading about your successful approach! 😜 - but it was my instinctive reaction (and surprise) that governed at the time🤬 . I will see if I can acknowledge the pain the way you described it, and maybe I can manage better😖 . I know we're all different in how we handle things, but I supposed it's also a reflection of some of the other struggles I'm having (like a suddenly rapidly aging, challenging 94-year old mother who needs more care than either my sibling or I can healthfully physically or mentally manage). We're trying to handle things the right way, but no way is going to make her happy. I'll leave it at that.

Thank you, thank you, again! Will keep checking in on ActionForHappiness.com, and to see what else we might share on that & other experiences!

I will check out the Daily Check In.

My physical pain is not intense. My chemo therapy weakens my stamina. My muscles ache as a result. I hope Mundie’s techniques will help your pain. The speaker made it clear that the pain is not alleviated, only our resistance to it.

Your mother is fortunate to have you for a daughter. My “mother” was so gracious to the nurses in the hospital when she broke her hip. When she got home, she was so demeaning to me when I tried to care for her. When I confronted her, she called her sister to come care for her.

Caregiving is tough. Do you know about the articles that suggest tips for caregivers to prevent stress and burnout? If not, I can easily find some.

Your enthusiasm and willingness to explore new materials are refreshing. It is fun to share new ideas and experiences as we all find new ways to solve these perplexing problems.

Thanks so much @aczatx47131 - In general, love learning, always curious, and can't seem to ever get too much info!

As for family & caregiving, would welcome any material / links you'd care to share. Esp. when there are lifetime issues with parent/s that were never addressed by the parents, but which we siblings (in our very different ways) have struggled with - and not very successfully managed, to our detriment.

Very sad situation, but true. But when those involved won't deal with their own issues, and refuse help (which they don't view as helpful), it is hopeless...though for some reason, I keep thinking it is possible....probably also to my own detriment, because I'm not letting go.

ANYWAY - I feel for what you've described as your background, and wish you well with that - it is (or can be, for many of us) insidious.

Best.

My “parents” stonewalled all my attempts to improve communication by dealing with issues from the past. By my thirties with the help of therapists, I divorced my parents and sisters. It was very painful for me but the family system was so hurtful to me. My sisters cared for my parents in their declining health. I was pretty much cut out of their will which was fine with me.

I have had no personal experience caring for aging parents.

I found two articles that might be helpful to you. There are lots of articles online written by agencies that give care to aging folks.

This one is from the American Heart Association:

This one gives suggestions for difficult parents:

Best,
Claire