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@mikaylar

Oh my goodness you must be the same generation as I am. I am 84 and was 5 when I had this routine ( at that time) procedure done along with the adenoids. They thought that having tonsils would lead to more infections throughout the body. I was also in a crib because I remember the railings on both sides. I also remember lying on my back with my head turned to one side and being so afraid to move or turn my head around to see where all the crying was coming from. The nurses said I was so quiet and so good . I was probably terrified. And yes…unlimited ice cream and gradual soft food when I was released home later that day. I don’t remember if my older brother ( by 11 months) had his removed but he was diagnosed with encephalitis and passed away before his 7th birthday.

Speaking of death in the family at a young age..when he passed away that night…we were in separate rooms..family kept coming over and no one told me anything. I remember being told to go back to sleep. I also remember being at the funeral parlor sitting on my dad’s lap and walking up to the casket and asking why Frankie was so cold. My dad tried to pull my hand away before I touched him.

I realize death to a 5 year old would be so difficult to comprehend but I honestly don’t think anyone tried to explain to me. My mom said I use to ask when he was coming home from school. He would have been in first grade. My dad sent me and my mom to England where we had family…for 6 months..so we could see my grandmother and kind of recover, I guess.

Such bewildering times back then when my family never spoke of anything.
I made sure when I had children that things would be so different. I also remember my mother in law commenting on my wearing maternity clothes so early when I was carrying my first child. In “her day” she wore larger clothes to hide the pregnancy.

Thank goodness I overcame all this reticence during college but had to learn to open up more over the years. I think that’s why all my bosses always liked me. I was mature, didn’t gossip and could keep a confidence.

Boy you should see me now! I am so pleased that my children have such an open and non judgmental relationship with my wonderful grandchildren.

I am wondering if my upbringing was the norm in the mid 1940s and 1950s. I went to an all girls catholic college in the 1960s and we actually had a sex education class in Junior year…really! Even I was stunned at what other young women didn’t know,

I will say though that, in high school, my father sat me down with Grays Anatomy and explained the entire female reproductive system to me when he found out I had my first period. He also said I could read any book in our library…which I did. That got me into some hot water at our catholic high school when the nuns saw what I was reading.

I think I got off the original topic but, I often wonder what life would have been like if my brother was alive today, I have a beautiful picture of us probably not long before he passed…so handsome.

Happy daylight savings from FL Mary.

Well, Mary, we had a similar life. I am almost 79. My Dad died when I was 11 so I understand death at a young age. No one would speak to me about death, no counselling, nothing. As a result, I am still in a denial about my brother's suicide 4 years ago. Life is hard. God bless you!

ANYBODY OVER EIGHTY THAT HAS ANGER ISSUES OVER MEDICAL ISSUES> I HAVE AND WANT FRIENDS ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS AM 81 and just got two stents and a whole lot of hospital visits for heart issues. Margaret O

How'd we get to 2025?!
Glad to be here.
Eventhough it took me...
Five Long Years!?

I don't see a section for someone who has issues after half of thyroid out due to a large nodule. Before it was discovered I was having many neurology issues with tingling, could not swallow properly, spider crawling on face, extreme fatigue, could not smell or taste. Than removed half of thyroid and a couple weeks later got back taste, smell, and swallow much better. Except now I have much higher TSH and t4 levels and excessive painful pins and needles and muscles and joints pains all over body, mainly hands and feet and legs. But whole body. I have went my primary and three endocrinologist and all they say is that My Labs are normal. It's very exhausting mind and body and emotional. My wife is heartbroken and is very concerned and I wearing down. If there is anyone out there that has any advice please help. Thanks there is more to My story before with many MRI cat scans spinal tap and multiple blood tests.

Hello @weekend1, I can't begin to imagine how difficult it is for both you and your wife dealing with all of the side effects and complications of having a thyroidectomy to remove half of your thyroid. There are many different discussions on thyroid surgery that you may find helpful. Here is a search of Connect that lists the different discussions - https://connect.mayoclinic.org/search/discussions/.

@koh mentioned having a partial thyroidectomy in another discussion and may have some information or suggestions to share with you. Are you on any medications to help with the pain and other symptoms following your surgery?

@margaretob
We live in a relatively small town & a good/sensible/smart/experienced doctor is hard to find so I sympathize. One was ready to do surgery on my knee when
all I had was Bursitis= boooooo. I had to go to a big city to get the right diagnosis but it was worth it. Don't give up. good luck finding a smart one you can talk to.

@weekend1

I take Gabapentin for the Tingling in my feet. What we have does not show up on tests.

@johnbishop thanks for the information. I did look and found it was mainly thyroid cancer. I keep researching myself and see if my Dr will order parathyroid test but it that can be another hassle because they don't believe your own body feelings

@quilterfingers Hi thanks for writing My issue is all body. And I believe it may be parathyroid issues. If I can ever get a doctor to help.