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Spouse becoming less supportive?
Has this happened to others? I'm entering my 6th year of survival (Gleason 10, radiation twice, 5th year of Lupron), and I've recently retired. I seek "alternative" methods of relief, but nothing too extreme: sound baths, meditation, plant-based diet, making music with new friends. She doesn't like some of my new friends and activities, and she is prohibiting me from some of these activities, especially singing with women. My testosterone was 12 the last time it was checked, and I haven't had an erection in 6 years. I feel no attraction to either sex and/or gender.
I just want some peace.
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I guess she's afraid of "losing" me to another woman, so it's a matter of overkill: she is prohibiting me from attending events where this female musician might be in the same building.
It's ironic and frustrating to be accused of infidelity at this stage in my life, when I am totally unarmed.
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You see - I knew immediately that it is just this one specific activity and not all that you listed in your first post ; ).
She just hates that one lady with whom you spend time away from home. Infidelity comes in many forms, sex is just one of them. I am NOT insinuating by any means that you have romantic infatuation with another lady, I am just saying that your wife is suspecting it and it should be acknowledged and remedied.
Just find another "singing partner", and all will be well. 😎
It might look crazy to you but for your wife it is very real and obviously very upsetting, so is that "song bird" worth all of this anguish ? If your wife was controlling and jealous and not sportive her whole life than we would have different problem here, but she was not ! This is the first time she has an objection and this problem can so easily be fixed 😉.
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Also it is very possible your Libido or not, the threat/jealousy comes from knowing you are getting a supportive/attention group of sorts and she is not part of it.....they can be pretty or handsome with no sexual encounter activity but she wasn't born yesterday and realizes how lucky she is to have you.
Try as others mentioned, dates, dinners of things you both can enjoy and let you not be the focus point make it the two of you the focus point.
Take care,
Ray
Sounds like she may benefit from joining a spousal (caregiver) support group. Are there any in your area you might lead her to? I know it helped me when my wife was battling cancer. The feelings I was having at that time were new and the group was pivotal in my being able to identify and healthily process those feelings. Best wishes!