@bluegill It sounds like a rough time for both of you. Have you asked her how she's feeling? You might have to listen to a lot of harsh (and sometimes unfair) stuff at first without defending yourself, but it can be a good starting point for rebuilding a relationship inside your new cancer reality.

I found the book "Feeling Good Together" helpful for mending a relationship with a family member (not my spouse) some years ago. It's by a top clinical psychologist: short, practical, and very readable:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/5680626-feeling-good-together

@bluegill
I've never been too educated on meditation, but is that done at home? If so, she isn't wanting you to do it?
Also, what is a sound bath? I'm totally clueless on what that is. Is that done at home or out someplace?
Sorry for my cluelessness.

@bluegill I do not know the dynamics of your spousal relationship but ‘take away’ sounds like Mommy-ing to me; has it always been this way? Do you always defer to her demands?
This doesn’t sound cancer specific the more you explain it…
Phil