School age kids having behavioral problems in school

Posted by safetyshield @safetyshield, Oct 13, 2016

With the age of communication access. Kids are exposed to all types of information that can be confusing and disturbing. This exposure can cause behavioral changes to children that can effect their grades, physical problems and social behaviors in school and at home. As a child growing up with a disability I was bullied throughout 7 years in school. With the teachers and administration doing nothing. Not having the skills needed to resolve the bullying I was scared with the bullying for years to come. Now I have the knowledge and skills to deal with bullying and would like to share this with you all

@ethanmcconkey

Hi @pamelalacella. You may have noticed that I moved your post to this existing discussion on bullying. Click VIEW& REPLY in the email so you can see the advice given by other users @safetyshield, @mamacita and @rosemarya.

I also wanted to share this resource from Mayo about bullying: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/childrens-health/in-depth/bullying/art-20044918?_ga=2.252386891.393714548.1540341234-907509267.1534990459

It must be so heart breaking for you as a parent to see your child be afraid to go to school. You mentioned that you have made complaints to the principal and have discussed things with the teacher. What have their responses been? Do you feel like they are in your corner in trying to stop this bullying and help your son?

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Thank you, yes it is difficult especially seeing how it's now affecting his everyday life, I don't feel like the principal has done enough, I mean it's been going on for two years, the school is in a small tight knit community, everyone knows everyone so I feel that's one of the issues, the principal doesn't want to be seen as being harsh. So what is did was I went to community police and I spoke with them, so a meeting is scheduled for next Thursday with all interested parties, I'm waiting to see what's coming out of it because I believe the child who's bullying my son as well as his siblings need help, they're behaving the way they're being treated, I'm hoping for a positive outcome.

@pamelacelia

Thank you, yes it is difficult especially seeing how it's now affecting his everyday life, I don't feel like the principal has done enough, I mean it's been going on for two years, the school is in a small tight knit community, everyone knows everyone so I feel that's one of the issues, the principal doesn't want to be seen as being harsh. So what is did was I went to community police and I spoke with them, so a meeting is scheduled for next Thursday with all interested parties, I'm waiting to see what's coming out of it because I believe the child who's bullying my son as well as his siblings need help, they're behaving the way they're being treated, I'm hoping for a positive outcome.

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I am very sad to hear about what your son is experiencing at school. As a mom, I send you my sincere hopes and prayers that this issue will be addressed for the sake of your son, and for all the others who are involved in any way.
All too often these things go unaddressed because no one speaks up. So, good for you for looking out for your child.

When I was employed in a school setting, I was told, too often in bullying situations, to keep notes/documentation. However it did little good because 'we had to wait' until something happened. From what you are telling here, this seems to have gone on too long already.
I suggest that you take all documentation with you (reports to school, reports to teachers, and child self reports, etc.) Also, enter this meeting in a spirit on non confrontation you can get more accomplished. However, "if" the other child's parent or guardian does show up, be prepared for a possible verbal confrontation and denial.
Who has arranged the meeting? Who will be participating? Are any other children being bullied?

@rosemarya

I am very sad to hear about what your son is experiencing at school. As a mom, I send you my sincere hopes and prayers that this issue will be addressed for the sake of your son, and for all the others who are involved in any way.
All too often these things go unaddressed because no one speaks up. So, good for you for looking out for your child.

When I was employed in a school setting, I was told, too often in bullying situations, to keep notes/documentation. However it did little good because 'we had to wait' until something happened. From what you are telling here, this seems to have gone on too long already.
I suggest that you take all documentation with you (reports to school, reports to teachers, and child self reports, etc.) Also, enter this meeting in a spirit on non confrontation you can get more accomplished. However, "if" the other child's parent or guardian does show up, be prepared for a possible verbal confrontation and denial.
Who has arranged the meeting? Who will be participating? Are any other children being bullied?

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Thank you for your kind words, for the meeting, the community police will be present as well as the parents of the child and myself, this child who is bullying my son, it would seem he comes from a troubled home, there are complaints about him and his siblings every day up to this morning I was in the office and parents came in to make a complaint about his brother and the teacher said their mother was there just yesterday, so it's an ongoing issue, if the problem isn't treated at home, the children will continue to bully other kids including my son because it seems it's the only way they know to express themselves, I went to the police not only to help my son but to help them as well, they are young, they can still be saved. The parents know what the children do, they've never shown any aggression towards me or behaved in a confrontational manner. I just want the matter resolved and the children to get the necessary help they need, I'm doing what I need to for my son but these children need someone to stand up for them.

@pamelacelia

Thank you for your kind words, for the meeting, the community police will be present as well as the parents of the child and myself, this child who is bullying my son, it would seem he comes from a troubled home, there are complaints about him and his siblings every day up to this morning I was in the office and parents came in to make a complaint about his brother and the teacher said their mother was there just yesterday, so it's an ongoing issue, if the problem isn't treated at home, the children will continue to bully other kids including my son because it seems it's the only way they know to express themselves, I went to the police not only to help my son but to help them as well, they are young, they can still be saved. The parents know what the children do, they've never shown any aggression towards me or behaved in a confrontational manner. I just want the matter resolved and the children to get the necessary help they need, I'm doing what I need to for my son but these children need someone to stand up for them.

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Who arranged the meeting? Will a school representative be there, for example a guidance counselor, social worker, or principal?
In my experience, this works better if there is full representation from the start.

@rosemarya

Who arranged the meeting? Will a school representative be there, for example a guidance counselor, social worker, or principal?
In my experience, this works better if there is full representation from the start.

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The meeting will be taking place at the school so yes, the principal will be there as well as the class teacher to bear witness to anything she may have observed, the police officer who arranged the meeting will be there as well as myself and the parents of the other child.

I will be thinking about you. I hope that there is some positive action will come out of this – for your family and for the other family.

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@rosemarya

I will be thinking about you. I hope that there is some positive action will come out of this – for your family and for the other family.

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Thank you so much

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