My 54 yo son is in a skilled nursing facility as of 3 days ago.. he had been hospitalized for unable to keep food down the past almost 2 weeks. When he went to clinic for dialysis he had a bad seizure, first one for him.. that’s when they took him to hospital.. While there he began hallucinating too.. He is still being taken for dialysis as of yesterday, but he cannot even hold his head up or lift his arms.. his hands are clinched tight, so he has to be fed.. At this new “home” he is suppose to make progress to be able to take care of himself.. that’s impossible for him… I’m sure they will want to move him to a different “home” very soon.. He always told me that when he couldn’t take care of his bathroom needs that he wanted to just let life go.. I know that he doesn’t want to continue living with all of these things gone so bad… If he stops dialysis he will die… The decision to stop is about to fall on me, his mom.. I hope that it doesn’t come to that, but know very well that it is… To complicate things even more, his daughter my granddaughter, also has serious kidney issues now.. She was in hospital with sepsis 3 months ago, then out and working for 2 weeks, then back with another serious infection.. Doctors found that she has 2 small shriveled kidneys on one side and 1 kidney working at 80% on the other.. She gets reflux that keeps reinfecting her, thus has to go on periodic antibiotics for that.. She is also bipolar… Besides my husband, these are my only close relatives.. We are in our mid 70’s and I am also diabetic and have serious neuropathy in my feet and legs.. Husband is emtionally fragile, so I always try to protect him from any stress.. I guess, after writing all of this down in what seems to me as a logical order, I can see the handwriting on the wall.. and know a bit better how to handle our situation..
I appreciate any responses to my situation… and thank anyone for listening to me..