No motivation

Posted by twobluelady @twobluelady, Aug 23, 2017

Currently not on any medication though I have been in the past on Celexa. Thought most of my problem was a painful divorce and went off medication. Since then I have lost my job, living with family, gained almost 100 pounds. I just can’t seem to find the motivation to change anything and feeling helpless. I know I need to find a doctor and get back on medication, but what can I do in the meantime? I feel I’m going down a black hole.

@stressedmesseddepressed

Those are my goals, too – walk around the block every day, watch comedy on youtube and meditate 10 minutes or more. Feel free to send me a private message on Connect if you want to get in touch with me. Or here!

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Feel free to private message me on Connect if you'd like to get in touch with me.

Let's try and do this.

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@lisalucier

@twobluelady, @magspierce and @amberpep — you all had talked before about isolating yourselves sometimes and not going out. I'm wondering if now that it's turned to spring and the days are getting nicer, if you've been getting out a bit?

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Join.

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@stressedmesseddepressed

Those are my goals, too – walk around the block every day, watch comedy on youtube and meditate 10 minutes or more. Feel free to send me a private message on Connect if you want to get in touch with me. Or here!

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Hi @stressedmesseddepressed — Please note that I removed your personal email address from your message above. We recommend using the private message function to share personal contact information. We don’t want you to get unwanted spam from posting your email on a public forum like Connect.

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@stressedmesseddepressed

Those are my goals, too – walk around the block every day, watch comedy on youtube and meditate 10 minutes or more. Feel free to send me a private message on Connect if you want to get in touch with me. Or here!

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@callalily74 — As I mentioned to @stressedmesseddepressed, I removed your personal email address from your message just to protect you from unwanted spam from posting it here. We'd recommend using the private messaging (PM) function here on Connect.

To use the PM function on Connect, click on your profile picture (the one you chose when you set up your profile and appears in a circle beside your posts), you will be taken to a screen with your name, username and profile picture. Right under your name and username, you will see "send private message." Click on that, and it will open a private message screen for you. You can have a conversation with a whole group of people via private messaging, and it works very well — I use it frequently.

The idea for the motivation group is fabulous.Go for it!

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Thank you very much! I didn't know about the IM here and thank you for the directions!

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Ok, Bright Wings here. I so identify with no movation and depression. First of all, non of us are lazy. We are depressed. Huge difference.
I learned what I had to do was put one foot in front of the other and keep going. I wanted to end my depression. I was not going to take no for an answer.
Now having said that, there was no way I could do exercise. I never had in the past after all, so why would I think I would start in the midst of a depression.
I had to do other things first, such as going out and buying watercolor cards and copy them with watercolor paint.
Then I got motivational tapes, yes I know they don't make tapes any more. Give me a break, I'm 67. I also signed up for book tapes at the big library in Springfield, Mo. That way I could still "read" and get away from the tv. As I had to GO TO THE LIBRARY, it got me out of the house and usually a good lunch too.
I am a do what it takes kind of girl. Are you?

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@hopeful33250

@twobluelady Welcome to Mayo Connect,

I’m so glad that you posted about your lack of motivation and your need to make some changes. You know, admitting you have a problem is the first step in getting better. Divorce is a difficult thing to recover from. Many of us have walked that road and understand how it feels.

Several months ago, we had a discussion called “Happiness: A One Week Journey,” here is the link to that discussion, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/happiness-a-one-week-journey/

Perhaps you will find some encouragement by looking at Dr. Amit Sood’s program. In the meantime, stay connected with us. Find things to do that you enjoy, like walking, talking, listening to music, etc.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Teresa

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Hi, @ricktrout — just saw your username on this discussion and wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. You sure went through a lot of losses, and I'm so sorry about that. Wondering how you are feeling these days?

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I’ve come to realize a big part of my problem is staying home and not going out. When I do get out, run errands, etc, I feel better. However, hard to go out when you have to watch your money and self-esteem issues so bad. Feel like everyone is looking at the “fat” lady. In my group of friends, I am by far the biggest. In reality i know everyone is not looking at me, but emotionally it’s hard. Plus there ARE some people who definitely discriminate against you. It has happened to me before. Even in my looking for work, I’m paranoid about it.

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@gentleness

Sometimes you really have to push yourself. Take a walk. I’m not the best at following this advice though. It’s hard. Do good things for yourself. A massage perhaps. Best of luck to you.

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I have learned that walking does help and it is a free activity-a definite plus when on a fixed income. hoping to get back to doing so once the weather warms enough.

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@hopeful33250

@twobluelady Welcome to Mayo Connect,

I’m so glad that you posted about your lack of motivation and your need to make some changes. You know, admitting you have a problem is the first step in getting better. Divorce is a difficult thing to recover from. Many of us have walked that road and understand how it feels.

Several months ago, we had a discussion called “Happiness: A One Week Journey,” here is the link to that discussion, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/happiness-a-one-week-journey/

Perhaps you will find some encouragement by looking at Dr. Amit Sood’s program. In the meantime, stay connected with us. Find things to do that you enjoy, like walking, talking, listening to music, etc.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Teresa

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@ricktrout How are things going for you?

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@gentleness

Sometimes you really have to push yourself. Take a walk. I’m not the best at following this advice though. It’s hard. Do good things for yourself. A massage perhaps. Best of luck to you.

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Hi @parus

I agree. When winter ends we can all enjoy the benefits of the "free" out of doors again!

Teresa

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It seems motivation does not grow on trees nor within my psyche. I ask myself regularly why even bother. If I do not care then things seem easier. Just zone. Make sure the bills are paid and nothing else really matters. Retirement is spectacular-and the cow jumped over the moon. I am a winner in the isolation world.

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@parus

It seems motivation does not grow on trees nor within my psyche. I ask myself regularly why even bother. If I do not care then things seem easier. Just zone. Make sure the bills are paid and nothing else really matters. Retirement is spectacular-and the cow jumped over the moon. I am a winner in the isolation world.

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Glad to hear you're doing well.I'm beginning to share those same ideas. Not much else really matters, and most people are too busy caring about themselves, rather than ogling you.

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@freesociety

I’ve come to realize a big part of my problem is staying home and not going out. When I do get out, run errands, etc, I feel better. However, hard to go out when you have to watch your money and self-esteem issues so bad. Feel like everyone is looking at the “fat” lady. In my group of friends, I am by far the biggest. In reality i know everyone is not looking at me, but emotionally it’s hard. Plus there ARE some people who definitely discriminate against you. It has happened to me before. Even in my looking for work, I’m paranoid about it.

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Hi, @freesociety — wanted to check back with you and see how you've been feeling motivation-wise the last couple days. Have you been able to get out of the house at all?

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@parus

It seems motivation does not grow on trees nor within my psyche. I ask myself regularly why even bother. If I do not care then things seem easier. Just zone. Make sure the bills are paid and nothing else really matters. Retirement is spectacular-and the cow jumped over the moon. I am a winner in the isolation world.

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Noooo, I am happy to ogle her.

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