Nervousness and Worry

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Jan 13, 2019

Does anyone have these problems? How do you handle it?

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@merpreb

@brit– Perhaps she's in a lot of pain and does not want to talk? I know that when I'm in pain, depressed or not feeling well I don't want to explain what's going on and I don't even want to talk much to my husband. I want to be mostly left alone. My sister always calls way too much and when this happens I have my husband talk to her. I wont get on the phone. I know that you are a caring person, it's very obvious, but it may be that you are overwhelming her with your love and worry? Can you text her? Perhaps just send a friendly text- miss you, hope that you are feeling better, or send her a joke or a picture that she might like. To tell you the truth I love my sister, and my husband, but I hate to feel smothered. It reminds me that I'm not well and exacerbates my PTSD. Does this make sense?

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@merpreb It makes perfect sense to me, because I am the same way. I hate being smothered or when someone, trying to be nice, does something for me that I could easily do myself.
Also, as you suggested, she may be in pain and simply not feel like talking. If I recall correctly I was somewhat like that when I had my health problems leading up to my liver transplant.
JK

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@karen00

Hello Brit, I understand! I have worried incessantly since I was a little girl. My mother and grandmother were the same way, so it would seem to be genetic. It seems natural to us, right? You have found a good place to share! Sending thoughts and prayers….Karen

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Thank you Karen…….I think somehow I think you understand………God Bless and stay strong

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@karen00

Hello Brit, I understand! I have worried incessantly since I was a little girl. My mother and grandmother were the same way, so it would seem to be genetic. It seems natural to us, right? You have found a good place to share! Sending thoughts and prayers….Karen

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Thanks Karen00 seems like we are in the same "boat" but its nice to know there is someone else out there that understands my worry and constant anxiety. Today I have to go to town and I really dread it. Seems like I want to shut myself out from the wonderful people around me………that is awful but I don't seem to have the strength to stop these feelings. We are going to have to live with it God Bless you Karen00, your certainly in my prayers. Patti

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@brit

Thanks Karen00 seems like we are in the same "boat" but its nice to know there is someone else out there that understands my worry and constant anxiety. Today I have to go to town and I really dread it. Seems like I want to shut myself out from the wonderful people around me………that is awful but I don't seem to have the strength to stop these feelings. We are going to have to live with it God Bless you Karen00, your certainly in my prayers. Patti

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@brit ….Hey Patti, did you go to town today? How did you do? Tell me about it! I didn’t leave the apt today. My pain was through the roof. Blessedly, it has stopped now.
You mentioned the “wonderful people around me”. You must have some awesome friends. That is such an important part of life-people who you’re comfortable with. They might not understand exactly how you feel, but they’re willing to try!
Thinking of you! ……..Karen

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@karen00

@brit ….Hey Patti, did you go to town today? How did you do? Tell me about it! I didn’t leave the apt today. My pain was through the roof. Blessedly, it has stopped now.
You mentioned the “wonderful people around me”. You must have some awesome friends. That is such an important part of life-people who you’re comfortable with. They might not understand exactly how you feel, but they’re willing to try!
Thinking of you! ……..Karen

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Karen thank you so much for your kind thoughts. I did go out yesterday and must say I enjoyed it instead of sitting at home worrrying about this situation I am in, Today I am going out with a friend. She invited me to lunch with her I am so blessed. How are you
doing? I really don't talk to much about myself to anyone accept my husband who is an angel. '
Today waking up the same, just down and worrying. Normal for
me, but in the afternoon I do feel somewhat better so that will
help. My friend and I will take a little drive and go to lunch…..that will be nice.
Hope you are feeling a little better but like me you take each day a it comes and just ask the Lord to help you and guide you int
the right direction.
God Bless you Karen…..hope to hear from you soon
Patti

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@brit

Karen thank you so much for your kind thoughts. I did go out yesterday and must say I enjoyed it instead of sitting at home worrrying about this situation I am in, Today I am going out with a friend. She invited me to lunch with her I am so blessed. How are you
doing? I really don't talk to much about myself to anyone accept my husband who is an angel. '
Today waking up the same, just down and worrying. Normal for
me, but in the afternoon I do feel somewhat better so that will
help. My friend and I will take a little drive and go to lunch…..that will be nice.
Hope you are feeling a little better but like me you take each day a it comes and just ask the Lord to help you and guide you int
the right direction.
God Bless you Karen…..hope to hear from you soon
Patti

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@brit…..Hey Patti, so glad you went out! Sometimes the hardest thing is the best for us! I understand what you mean by not wanting to reveal too much of yourself. I’m unable to drive due to circumstances beyond my control. I miss church and making new friends. My brother and I spent our adult lives here, but we moved away for 7 years, and boy have things changed!
Keep me posted!…………Iren

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@karen00

@brit…..Hey Patti, so glad you went out! Sometimes the hardest thing is the best for us! I understand what you mean by not wanting to reveal too much of yourself. I’m unable to drive due to circumstances beyond my control. I miss church and making new friends. My brother and I spent our adult lives here, but we moved away for 7 years, and boy have things changed!
Keep me posted!…………Iren

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Keep your strength up and praise the Lord we have at least been given the chance to heal. I am a very determined person but this depression has really "beaten" me up. I have a wonderful husband that stands by my side and does all he can, I am blessed that's
for sure. Is your brother still with you? Again……..praise our Father and ask for his help. Don't know about you but sometimes (really) most of the time I don't "listen" but I am trying to do better. Lets keep in touch Patti

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I saw this article today about classroom teachers using mindfulness to help them with the stress in the classroom, but that asking and instructing students on how to be mindful doesn't always work for students who have experienced trauma. These students have trust issues, and asking them to step outside their comfort zone can cause a trauma response. It's very interesting, and I thought it would make a good contribution to this discussion. This explains how to reach some troubled kids and why it matters.
https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/52881/why-mindfulness-and-trauma-informed-teaching-dont-always-go-together?fbclid=IwAR0QDBuFIQoE9FxCgvN6eghZMoQJ9pdnxJFxueXu7OGKKcJnL5s202xbT30

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@brit

Keep your strength up and praise the Lord we have at least been given the chance to heal. I am a very determined person but this depression has really "beaten" me up. I have a wonderful husband that stands by my side and does all he can, I am blessed that's
for sure. Is your brother still with you? Again……..praise our Father and ask for his help. Don't know about you but sometimes (really) most of the time I don't "listen" but I am trying to do better. Lets keep in touch Patti

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@brit We all need something and it is good for you that you do.

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Thank you so much. I am truly blessed and the best thing of it all is…..I know it. Hope your feeling better Patti

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@jenniferhunter

I saw this article today about classroom teachers using mindfulness to help them with the stress in the classroom, but that asking and instructing students on how to be mindful doesn't always work for students who have experienced trauma. These students have trust issues, and asking them to step outside their comfort zone can cause a trauma response. It's very interesting, and I thought it would make a good contribution to this discussion. This explains how to reach some troubled kids and why it matters.
https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/52881/why-mindfulness-and-trauma-informed-teaching-dont-always-go-together?fbclid=IwAR0QDBuFIQoE9FxCgvN6eghZMoQJ9pdnxJFxueXu7OGKKcJnL5s202xbT30

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Boy, hit on a very good subject and possible answer as to why so many of our children are troubled today. I'm 73 and can never remember feeling "troubled" when I was young. Mum and Dad always fixed everything. Cause there came a time when I had to
solve my own problems!
Really enjoyed your thoughts God Bless Patti

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@jenniferhunter

I saw this article today about classroom teachers using mindfulness to help them with the stress in the classroom, but that asking and instructing students on how to be mindful doesn't always work for students who have experienced trauma. These students have trust issues, and asking them to step outside their comfort zone can cause a trauma response. It's very interesting, and I thought it would make a good contribution to this discussion. This explains how to reach some troubled kids and why it matters.
https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/52881/why-mindfulness-and-trauma-informed-teaching-dont-always-go-together?fbclid=IwAR0QDBuFIQoE9FxCgvN6eghZMoQJ9pdnxJFxueXu7OGKKcJnL5s202xbT30

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That was a very thoughtful and helpful article, @jenniferhunter. I appreciate your sharing it.

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