Nervousness and Worry

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Jan 13, 2019

Does anyone have these problems? How do you handle it?

@ethanmcconkey

Hi @pjss48 you may have noticed I added this discussion to the Depression & Anxiety group, as well as the Mental Health group, so that more Connect members would be see your post and join in on this discussion.

I wanted to tag fellow Connect members @mamacita @annedodrill44 and @johnhans as they have discussed these things in the past and may be able to offer support for you.

@pjss48 at this point, what are some ways you have tried to handle your nervousness and worry? Have you found anything that is successful? Or is this a recent development?

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Just saw your post and it made me stop and think that "hey" I feel that way too. Can I join you in your discussions? Would love to have a chat with people have the sames feelings and what could they do to help themselves. Thanks Patti

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@humpty

I'm 30 yes.post tbi. My dr.has to change my meds at least once a month.for anxiety. Wish I could have a normal life.

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@humpty– Welcome to Mayo Connect. I'm glad that you joined us today. Does your TBI cause the anxiety or is it new? How long ago was your damage?
I'd also like to invite @brit because both of you recently talked about a "normal life". I think that early shrinks did an injustice when they labeled what is "normal and abnormal". Each generation's "normal" is different than the one before. Normality is conforming to what is expected behavior. So, if you look back at "what's expected" each generation will have different standards. Today women are a huge part of our political system and are expected to vote. About the 1920's women were just beginning to make headway, but before that they weren't "expected" to vote. It wasn't normal.
The world has changed in just a few years and there is a lot of anger and pressure that we feel. Everything is expected to be done yesterday, pressure is put on us to accept certain things that have been imposed on us with new social restrictions. Killings are up and even our climate has changed- all in a short time frame- at least what we can witness, and prices are up.
And by looking at the huge amount of people who are experiencing tension, depression, anger, confusion on Connect indicates that al lot of people are trying to deal with some kind of upsetting challenge.
We are also grouped into generational groups- I believe that a good portion of us on here are about middle-age and older. But what is "normally" expected of people in there 40's isn't the same for people in their 70's.
What is normal for someone who is in a wheel chair is not the same standard as Tom Brady types.
It's a "normal" tendency to allow our minds to dwell on troublesome situation, to worry because we want to make them better. So instead of allowing ourselves to get into a dither we should come up we solutions for the troublesome situation- make lists of pros and cons, do everything you can, within your control to change it, if you can. If you can''t then you have to let got. But ask- what can be done? Can I do it?

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@merpreb

@humpty– Welcome to Mayo Connect. I'm glad that you joined us today. Does your TBI cause the anxiety or is it new? How long ago was your damage?
I'd also like to invite @brit because both of you recently talked about a "normal life". I think that early shrinks did an injustice when they labeled what is "normal and abnormal". Each generation's "normal" is different than the one before. Normality is conforming to what is expected behavior. So, if you look back at "what's expected" each generation will have different standards. Today women are a huge part of our political system and are expected to vote. About the 1920's women were just beginning to make headway, but before that they weren't "expected" to vote. It wasn't normal.
The world has changed in just a few years and there is a lot of anger and pressure that we feel. Everything is expected to be done yesterday, pressure is put on us to accept certain things that have been imposed on us with new social restrictions. Killings are up and even our climate has changed- all in a short time frame- at least what we can witness, and prices are up.
And by looking at the huge amount of people who are experiencing tension, depression, anger, confusion on Connect indicates that al lot of people are trying to deal with some kind of upsetting challenge.
We are also grouped into generational groups- I believe that a good portion of us on here are about middle-age and older. But what is "normally" expected of people in there 40's isn't the same for people in their 70's.
What is normal for someone who is in a wheel chair is not the same standard as Tom Brady types.
It's a "normal" tendency to allow our minds to dwell on troublesome situation, to worry because we want to make them better. So instead of allowing ourselves to get into a dither we should come up we solutions for the troublesome situation- make lists of pros and cons, do everything you can, within your control to change it, if you can. If you can''t then you have to let got. But ask- what can be done? Can I do it?

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I agree but back in the "old" days people never talked about depression or anxiety they kept it to themselves. Now we are a
different world…………lets never stop talking about our inner feelings. It is an outlet for a lot of us and also it is helpful for the
younger people to understand. Some people have it some don't…………but its so nice to know you have someone to confide
in and to come up with different idea's. Any help anyone can give to another is a beautiful thing. So far it hasn't
happend to me. My husband and I decided today we would both walk on the tread mill for at least 5 mins. and try
to do it 3 times aday. We are also talking about growning our own veggies. Will keep you posted.
Patti

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@brit

I agree but back in the "old" days people never talked about depression or anxiety they kept it to themselves. Now we are a
different world…………lets never stop talking about our inner feelings. It is an outlet for a lot of us and also it is helpful for the
younger people to understand. Some people have it some don't…………but its so nice to know you have someone to confide
in and to come up with different idea's. Any help anyone can give to another is a beautiful thing. So far it hasn't
happend to me. My husband and I decided today we would both walk on the tread mill for at least 5 mins. and try
to do it 3 times aday. We are also talking about growning our own veggies. Will keep you posted.
Patti

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"We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone." Ronald Reagon

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@merpreb

"We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone." Ronald Reagon

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Thank you so much…..gave me a lift!! Going for my walk with God's help I will beat this, cause you are doing a lot to help too. Patti

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@brit

Thank you so much…..gave me a lift!! Going for my walk with God's help I will beat this, cause you are doing a lot to help too. Patti

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Good quote

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@humpty

I'm 30 yes.post tbi. My dr.has to change my meds at least once a month.for anxiety. Wish I could have a normal life.

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Hi, @humpty – I'd like to add my welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. I'd like to suggest you also check out this thread on TBI https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/adult-life-after-a-tbi.

What medication are you taking currently for anxiety?

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@ethanmcconkey

Hi @pjss48 you may have noticed I added this discussion to the Depression & Anxiety group, as well as the Mental Health group, so that more Connect members would be see your post and join in on this discussion.

I wanted to tag fellow Connect members @mamacita @annedodrill44 and @johnhans as they have discussed these things in the past and may be able to offer support for you.

@pjss48 at this point, what are some ways you have tried to handle your nervousness and worry? Have you found anything that is successful? Or is this a recent development?

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I worry constantly, every day. It has gotten a lot worse since my husband had a widowmakers heart attack. I was told that few survive and when he was put into a coma I think I was in shock. Ever since that episode I watch him to make sure he’s breathing, jump when there’s a loud noise in our house, or worry when he looks tired. The thought of losing him causes me incredible anxiety.

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Hello. I've been having alot of trouble with my and and panic attacks. As strange as this sounds I have trouble with just letting my thoughts flow. It's like I'm scared of my own thoughts after having anxiety and panic attacks. It's like I'm constantly scared of my thoughts. I just can't calm down and just think freely. Does anyone relate to what I'm going through?

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@farmboy

Hello. I've been having alot of trouble with my and and panic attacks. As strange as this sounds I have trouble with just letting my thoughts flow. It's like I'm scared of my own thoughts after having anxiety and panic attacks. It's like I'm constantly scared of my thoughts. I just can't calm down and just think freely. Does anyone relate to what I'm going through?

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Hi Farmboy, I can totally relate…. I have finally been able to get my anxiety under semi-control. I had my first panic Attabk about 6 weeks ago and it was the worst experience of my life! Get a therapist… get on some medication and face this head on…. seems almost impossible but has worked(so far) for me. Take good care my friend !
Much love!

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@rgarcia77

Hi Farmboy, I can totally relate…. I have finally been able to get my anxiety under semi-control. I had my first panic Attabk about 6 weeks ago and it was the worst experience of my life! Get a therapist… get on some medication and face this head on…. seems almost impossible but has worked(so far) for me. Take good care my friend !
Much love!

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They have me on effexor, Wellbutrin and Seroquel. But my anxiety and panic attacks are so strong that they won't hardly go away. It's crazy what anxiety and panic attacks can do to you. I feel like I'm going crazy. Very scary.

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@farmboy

They have me on effexor, Wellbutrin and Seroquel. But my anxiety and panic attacks are so strong that they won't hardly go away. It's crazy what anxiety and panic attacks can do to you. I feel like I'm going crazy. Very scary.

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Hi @farmboy – how are you doing today? If you are still having the strong symptoms you described yesterday, I'd strongly encourage you to call your primary care doctor or go back to the ER doctor who was so helpful. Sounded like input from a doctor is warranted.

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@lisalucier

Hi @farmboy – how are you doing today? If you are still having the strong symptoms you described yesterday, I'd strongly encourage you to call your primary care doctor or go back to the ER doctor who was so helpful. Sounded like input from a doctor is warranted.

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Hello, they got my meds adjusted so my anxiety and panic attacks are not to bad. It's the after math now. I over analyze my thoughts always questioning my thinking. I'll get something in my head, like I'm forgetting things and it will stay in mind like a broken record. Or I feel like I'm in a fog and it bothers the hell out of me. I will play that thought like a broken record in my mind. That's how may thinking is constantly. What is wrong with me??? I've been like this since I had my anxiety and panic attacks. Has anyone else had these types of problems??

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@farmboy

Hello, they got my meds adjusted so my anxiety and panic attacks are not to bad. It's the after math now. I over analyze my thoughts always questioning my thinking. I'll get something in my head, like I'm forgetting things and it will stay in mind like a broken record. Or I feel like I'm in a fog and it bothers the hell out of me. I will play that thought like a broken record in my mind. That's how may thinking is constantly. What is wrong with me??? I've been like this since I had my anxiety and panic attacks. Has anyone else had these types of problems??

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@farmboy It's good that you have addressed your medications with your doctors. Forgetting something is something that everyone does to a degree and as we get older, it's quite common. If you have important appointments then use whatever works to record and remember them like a pocket calendar, or notes on the bathroom mirror. I do that. None of us are perfect, and it's best not to put that expectation on yourself. Do your best, but give yourself a break when you make a mistake. Did you accept someone else's opinion and beliefs that making mistakes is bad? I used to try to be perfect too, and it can be good to challenge yourself, but we can learn much more from our mistakes than from success. The important thing is to believe in yourself. I lived through a few months of panic attacks over my fear of surgery, and I figured out how to deprogram that fear. I had a choice to make because without the spine surgery that I needed, I would become disabled. It didn't make sense to me to let my fears make that choice, and I used everything I had within my personal experience to overcome the anxiety. I did go to a counselor to make sure I was on the right track, but I had already done the hard work myself, and figured out where in my past this unreasonable fear had come from. We are born without fears, and somewhere in our lives, fears are learned behaviors. Understanding that opens the door to figure out how to "unlearn" the behavior and find a new way to think about something. This is possible and you can do it if you really want to overcome it. Here is my story…
https://sharing.mayoclinic.org/2019/01/09/using-the-art-of-medicine-to-overcome-fear-of-surgery/

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@farmboy

Hello, they got my meds adjusted so my anxiety and panic attacks are not to bad. It's the after math now. I over analyze my thoughts always questioning my thinking. I'll get something in my head, like I'm forgetting things and it will stay in mind like a broken record. Or I feel like I'm in a fog and it bothers the hell out of me. I will play that thought like a broken record in my mind. That's how may thinking is constantly. What is wrong with me??? I've been like this since I had my anxiety and panic attacks. Has anyone else had these types of problems??

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I'm like that. Plus havr IBS D and arthritis problems and foot problems

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