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@brit- Perhaps she's in a lot of pain and does not want to talk? I know that when I'm in pain, depressed or not feeling well I don't want to explain what's going on and I don't even want to talk much to my husband. I want to be mostly left alone. My sister always calls way too much and when this happens I have my husband talk to her. I wont get on the phone. I know that you are a caring person, it's very obvious, but it may be that you are overwhelming her with your love and worry? Can you text her? Perhaps just send a friendly text- miss you, hope that you are feeling better, or send her a joke or a picture that she might like. To tell you the truth I love my sister, and my husband, but I hate to feel smothered. It reminds me that I'm not well and exacerbates my PTSD. Does this make sense?
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A good point, @merpreb. I am not comfortable when I feel smothered with attention, even when it is well intentioned. It makes me feel like I'm incapable of handling things on my own, and that is just not acceptable to me.
@merpreb It makes perfect sense to me, because I am the same way. I hate being smothered or when someone, trying to be nice, does something for me that I could easily do myself.
Also, as you suggested, she may be in pain and simply not feel like talking. If I recall correctly I was somewhat like that when I had my health problems leading up to my liver transplant.
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I don't think I am really bothering her that much. She never gets on the phone and never emails. I have sent her a "get well" card but that's about it. All she has to do is let me know that she doesn't need to hear from me and I most certainly will go with her wish. But please say something.....................God Bless Patti