My dad has a mass on bladder and kidney not functioning

Posted by formydad @formydad, Apr 24, 2019

He is getting surgery tomorrow to remove mass have no idea if cancerous- assuming they will send off – doc said removal may”jump start his kidney which he was unaware is not functioning.. he had prostate cancer and has brach treatment i believe – that cancers gone but i have been reading that having had radiation for it may lead to bladder cancer – anyone experience this?

What a wonderful roller coaster ride this Day has been!
TODAY- Thanks The dept of public safety investigators at the hospital whom investigated the situation we were able to solve and resolve the jewelry issue! They Looked at video of my moms visit and saw her removing her jewelry and handing it to my aunt and she put it in her purse where they were able to see it must not have been lost there- and they checked the lost and found- thoroughly- we thanks them for all the time they took looking into the situation and as we headed back to my dads hospital room- we received a call from my aunt and although my aunt had emptied her purse twice at home and found nothing she handed it to her husband who did the same then turned it upside down and shook it and the bag of moms jewelry fell out!!!! Praise God! – so mom and i turned around went back to the er an profusely thanked the gentlemen for all their help and to let them know we just recovered it! We are very grateful for the time they took and impressed- monday morning im bringing a cookie cake by the er to offer thanks! So that was Great News! my dad has a tube still in his nose to his stomach and his throat hurts they give him pain meds through tube and unplug him till it kicks in for throat pain and no food for two days now now but getting water via iv -we walked the floor 6 times today – my tech daughter suggested he lie on his left side and massage his belly some to help bowels wake up. hes chewing gum – He has had some gas so some signs of waking i suppose-will definitely be in hosp. till monday for sure – They may take tube out tomorrow he's hoping so the noise it makes drives him crazy lol ! I told him it sounds like a balloon slowly being deflated – and we should record it and make ring tones! (he laughed) 😉 he thought the pump noise was actually some construction workers working on building outside lol a till i pointed out it was his pump 🙂 he also got more instructon on his ostomybag use and he emptied it himself several times today:) i got to see the stealth belt i saw on this site and sent him the info on- im so getting him some when he figures out what size works best for him -so overall it was a good day for dad! -I brought the nurses stations cookie cakes one for nightshift one for dayshift and thanked them for all their help with my dad! They really do a lot 🙂 thanks to you all for riding this roller coaster with me 🙂 stay tuned! Who knows what tomorrow will bring!

Anna🌻

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@formydad

What a wonderful roller coaster ride this Day has been!
TODAY- Thanks The dept of public safety investigators at the hospital whom investigated the situation we were able to solve and resolve the jewelry issue! They Looked at video of my moms visit and saw her removing her jewelry and handing it to my aunt and she put it in her purse where they were able to see it must not have been lost there- and they checked the lost and found- thoroughly- we thanks them for all the time they took looking into the situation and as we headed back to my dads hospital room- we received a call from my aunt and although my aunt had emptied her purse twice at home and found nothing she handed it to her husband who did the same then turned it upside down and shook it and the bag of moms jewelry fell out!!!! Praise God! – so mom and i turned around went back to the er an profusely thanked the gentlemen for all their help and to let them know we just recovered it! We are very grateful for the time they took and impressed- monday morning im bringing a cookie cake by the er to offer thanks! So that was Great News! my dad has a tube still in his nose to his stomach and his throat hurts they give him pain meds through tube and unplug him till it kicks in for throat pain and no food for two days now now but getting water via iv -we walked the floor 6 times today – my tech daughter suggested he lie on his left side and massage his belly some to help bowels wake up. hes chewing gum – He has had some gas so some signs of waking i suppose-will definitely be in hosp. till monday for sure – They may take tube out tomorrow he's hoping so the noise it makes drives him crazy lol ! I told him it sounds like a balloon slowly being deflated – and we should record it and make ring tones! (he laughed) 😉 he thought the pump noise was actually some construction workers working on building outside lol a till i pointed out it was his pump 🙂 he also got more instructon on his ostomybag use and he emptied it himself several times today:) i got to see the stealth belt i saw on this site and sent him the info on- im so getting him some when he figures out what size works best for him -so overall it was a good day for dad! -I brought the nurses stations cookie cakes one for nightshift one for dayshift and thanked them for all their help with my dad! They really do a lot 🙂 thanks to you all for riding this roller coaster with me 🙂 stay tuned! Who knows what tomorrow will bring!

Anna🌻

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@formydad What an upbeat post to read early this morning! Yeah for finding the jewelry. Good job by everyone looking for it, and not giving up. Your dad has quite the journey to take now, and he surely is appreciating all you and the family are doing for him. Getting the body in motion again is so important in his recovery, as he is finding out. On behalf of medical people, thank you for acknowledging their jobs well done! I would always do the same thing, bringing them some treats. It means a lot to them. Wheee! roller coasters!
Ginger

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@formydad

What a wonderful roller coaster ride this Day has been!
TODAY- Thanks The dept of public safety investigators at the hospital whom investigated the situation we were able to solve and resolve the jewelry issue! They Looked at video of my moms visit and saw her removing her jewelry and handing it to my aunt and she put it in her purse where they were able to see it must not have been lost there- and they checked the lost and found- thoroughly- we thanks them for all the time they took looking into the situation and as we headed back to my dads hospital room- we received a call from my aunt and although my aunt had emptied her purse twice at home and found nothing she handed it to her husband who did the same then turned it upside down and shook it and the bag of moms jewelry fell out!!!! Praise God! – so mom and i turned around went back to the er an profusely thanked the gentlemen for all their help and to let them know we just recovered it! We are very grateful for the time they took and impressed- monday morning im bringing a cookie cake by the er to offer thanks! So that was Great News! my dad has a tube still in his nose to his stomach and his throat hurts they give him pain meds through tube and unplug him till it kicks in for throat pain and no food for two days now now but getting water via iv -we walked the floor 6 times today – my tech daughter suggested he lie on his left side and massage his belly some to help bowels wake up. hes chewing gum – He has had some gas so some signs of waking i suppose-will definitely be in hosp. till monday for sure – They may take tube out tomorrow he's hoping so the noise it makes drives him crazy lol ! I told him it sounds like a balloon slowly being deflated – and we should record it and make ring tones! (he laughed) 😉 he thought the pump noise was actually some construction workers working on building outside lol a till i pointed out it was his pump 🙂 he also got more instructon on his ostomybag use and he emptied it himself several times today:) i got to see the stealth belt i saw on this site and sent him the info on- im so getting him some when he figures out what size works best for him -so overall it was a good day for dad! -I brought the nurses stations cookie cakes one for nightshift one for dayshift and thanked them for all their help with my dad! They really do a lot 🙂 thanks to you all for riding this roller coaster with me 🙂 stay tuned! Who knows what tomorrow will bring!

Anna🌻

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@formydad Anna, I so glad that things are looking up, both for your dad and that your mother’s jewelry turned up. Hallelujah!
JK

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@formydad

What a wonderful roller coaster ride this Day has been!
TODAY- Thanks The dept of public safety investigators at the hospital whom investigated the situation we were able to solve and resolve the jewelry issue! They Looked at video of my moms visit and saw her removing her jewelry and handing it to my aunt and she put it in her purse where they were able to see it must not have been lost there- and they checked the lost and found- thoroughly- we thanks them for all the time they took looking into the situation and as we headed back to my dads hospital room- we received a call from my aunt and although my aunt had emptied her purse twice at home and found nothing she handed it to her husband who did the same then turned it upside down and shook it and the bag of moms jewelry fell out!!!! Praise God! – so mom and i turned around went back to the er an profusely thanked the gentlemen for all their help and to let them know we just recovered it! We are very grateful for the time they took and impressed- monday morning im bringing a cookie cake by the er to offer thanks! So that was Great News! my dad has a tube still in his nose to his stomach and his throat hurts they give him pain meds through tube and unplug him till it kicks in for throat pain and no food for two days now now but getting water via iv -we walked the floor 6 times today – my tech daughter suggested he lie on his left side and massage his belly some to help bowels wake up. hes chewing gum – He has had some gas so some signs of waking i suppose-will definitely be in hosp. till monday for sure – They may take tube out tomorrow he's hoping so the noise it makes drives him crazy lol ! I told him it sounds like a balloon slowly being deflated – and we should record it and make ring tones! (he laughed) 😉 he thought the pump noise was actually some construction workers working on building outside lol a till i pointed out it was his pump 🙂 he also got more instructon on his ostomybag use and he emptied it himself several times today:) i got to see the stealth belt i saw on this site and sent him the info on- im so getting him some when he figures out what size works best for him -so overall it was a good day for dad! -I brought the nurses stations cookie cakes one for nightshift one for dayshift and thanked them for all their help with my dad! They really do a lot 🙂 thanks to you all for riding this roller coaster with me 🙂 stay tuned! Who knows what tomorrow will bring!

Anna🌻

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@formydad 😁‼️‼️

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Progression he’s lapping the floor! “ things” are back up and moving again. He got tube pulled out of nose! No food for two days been tubed today after 1/2 day with 1/2 day without hes able to sip water- was hoping for at least broth but nothing

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Oops sorry wasnt done- nothing today- hes hoping for breakfast tomorrow! 😬

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So dad had a followup on his bladder removal surgery with doc today- not good news- he had a hernia surgery many yrs ago i think before the prostate cancer but the mesh showed signs of cancer the doc said everything was so plastered together i. There he took anything and everything that didn't look right out but cant be sure till testing the tissue – so he’s been given a name to see about radiation when he heals from this surgery- which is still painful to point of needing pain pills- 🙁
Im so scared for him and my mom – i Trust the Lord nothing is a surprise to Him- thats comforting To me -but im still sad and it hurts bad
im hoping He doesnt just quit. On everything -But i dont know how long he’ll fight this…im positive all he wants is to get back to work but he cant hurtingso much..:( bills are prob on his mind my mom, and a million thoughts im sure 🙁
Going to their house tommorrow to help mom put up the christmas tree- hoping if she wont let us kids move christmas to our house this yr that she’ll at least let me n my sisters do the food. Not aure if dad would feel comfortable leaving home yet… they are gonna talk it over and get back with me. I wish i could do more. Im here and i let them know but im sad today.😭

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@formydad

So dad had a followup on his bladder removal surgery with doc today- not good news- he had a hernia surgery many yrs ago i think before the prostate cancer but the mesh showed signs of cancer the doc said everything was so plastered together i. There he took anything and everything that didn't look right out but cant be sure till testing the tissue – so he’s been given a name to see about radiation when he heals from this surgery- which is still painful to point of needing pain pills- 🙁
Im so scared for him and my mom – i Trust the Lord nothing is a surprise to Him- thats comforting To me -but im still sad and it hurts bad
im hoping He doesnt just quit. On everything -But i dont know how long he’ll fight this…im positive all he wants is to get back to work but he cant hurtingso much..:( bills are prob on his mind my mom, and a million thoughts im sure 🙁
Going to their house tommorrow to help mom put up the christmas tree- hoping if she wont let us kids move christmas to our house this yr that she’ll at least let me n my sisters do the food. Not aure if dad would feel comfortable leaving home yet… they are gonna talk it over and get back with me. I wish i could do more. Im here and i let them know but im sad today.😭

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Let me begin by saying that your parents are fortunate to have you looking after them. In spite of their own worry, I believe that your love, concern, and prayers are a source of strength for them. I experienced a difficult health crisis before my transplant, and knowing that my sons were 'there' for both me and my husband, their dad, was a blessing and a source of peace and comfort for us each day of our ordeal.
I am sorry to learn about this new complication for your dad. It is difficult to face uncertainty, and we learned that it helped us to deal with one day at a time as we prayed and hoped for whatever was our future.

Christmas was a tough time here. We cut back of the festivities and decorations. Our boys took care of dinner and it was a wonderful family time for us. Don't be surprised if your dad wants to stay home and have a relaxed Christmas this year.
Peace and Strength

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@formydad

So dad had a followup on his bladder removal surgery with doc today- not good news- he had a hernia surgery many yrs ago i think before the prostate cancer but the mesh showed signs of cancer the doc said everything was so plastered together i. There he took anything and everything that didn't look right out but cant be sure till testing the tissue – so he’s been given a name to see about radiation when he heals from this surgery- which is still painful to point of needing pain pills- 🙁
Im so scared for him and my mom – i Trust the Lord nothing is a surprise to Him- thats comforting To me -but im still sad and it hurts bad
im hoping He doesnt just quit. On everything -But i dont know how long he’ll fight this…im positive all he wants is to get back to work but he cant hurtingso much..:( bills are prob on his mind my mom, and a million thoughts im sure 🙁
Going to their house tommorrow to help mom put up the christmas tree- hoping if she wont let us kids move christmas to our house this yr that she’ll at least let me n my sisters do the food. Not aure if dad would feel comfortable leaving home yet… they are gonna talk it over and get back with me. I wish i could do more. Im here and i let them know but im sad today.😭

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@formydad I will be hoping and praying for the best for your father. First, I hope his pain will improve, that can cloud everything I think. Then I hope the prognosis will improve also. You sound like such a loving son, your parents are very fortunate to have you there for them. I know my son and daughter would be the same if they lived closer but they live states away.
As @rosemarya said, they may want to stay put this year, it might be easier for them, but with you and your sisters able to help out and do most of the work then it will hopefully be a happy holiday, merry Christmas, for all. When my son and daughter come home for Christmas they pretty much do everything, even now. That started when I was pre-transplant (liver).
Unfortunately, there is nothing that can be done for your sad feelings, they are just natural for a caring person. I am sure as your father improves, your sadness will too. I hope each day improves for your dad.
JK

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@formydad

So dad had a followup on his bladder removal surgery with doc today- not good news- he had a hernia surgery many yrs ago i think before the prostate cancer but the mesh showed signs of cancer the doc said everything was so plastered together i. There he took anything and everything that didn't look right out but cant be sure till testing the tissue – so he’s been given a name to see about radiation when he heals from this surgery- which is still painful to point of needing pain pills- 🙁
Im so scared for him and my mom – i Trust the Lord nothing is a surprise to Him- thats comforting To me -but im still sad and it hurts bad
im hoping He doesnt just quit. On everything -But i dont know how long he’ll fight this…im positive all he wants is to get back to work but he cant hurtingso much..:( bills are prob on his mind my mom, and a million thoughts im sure 🙁
Going to their house tommorrow to help mom put up the christmas tree- hoping if she wont let us kids move christmas to our house this yr that she’ll at least let me n my sisters do the food. Not aure if dad would feel comfortable leaving home yet… they are gonna talk it over and get back with me. I wish i could do more. Im here and i let them know but im sad today.😭

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@formydad I’m very sorry to hear about the ‘not good news’ for your dad. But, having you near is so comforting to him and your mother. Take each day as it comes. Be upbeat and positive when you can. You’ve been so strong and caring for them all this time. Maybe the American Cancer Society has a support group that you could go to. Would that help you to deal with stress?

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@formydad

So dad had a followup on his bladder removal surgery with doc today- not good news- he had a hernia surgery many yrs ago i think before the prostate cancer but the mesh showed signs of cancer the doc said everything was so plastered together i. There he took anything and everything that didn't look right out but cant be sure till testing the tissue – so he’s been given a name to see about radiation when he heals from this surgery- which is still painful to point of needing pain pills- 🙁
Im so scared for him and my mom – i Trust the Lord nothing is a surprise to Him- thats comforting To me -but im still sad and it hurts bad
im hoping He doesnt just quit. On everything -But i dont know how long he’ll fight this…im positive all he wants is to get back to work but he cant hurtingso much..:( bills are prob on his mind my mom, and a million thoughts im sure 🙁
Going to their house tommorrow to help mom put up the christmas tree- hoping if she wont let us kids move christmas to our house this yr that she’ll at least let me n my sisters do the food. Not aure if dad would feel comfortable leaving home yet… they are gonna talk it over and get back with me. I wish i could do more. Im here and i let them know but im sad today.😭

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@formydad You are such a strong person, and I for one am so glad you found us, to share your concerns with and let us offer support even if it is just electronically. If I was there with you, I would first give you a long hug, then sit down with a cup of coffee or tea, and let you share as you do here so wonderfully. It has to be somewhat disheartening, as you've watched your dad take steps backwards then forward again. As @becsbuddy suggested, contact the American Cancer Society, or a Wellness Community, to get some in-person support if you feel called to do so. Quiet holidays can be so much more meaningful, and recalled clearer, at least for me. It's okay to be sad, you are having normal emotions. How are you doing this morning? We are all here for you….
Ginger

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@becsbuddy

@formydad I’m very sorry to hear about the ‘not good news’ for your dad. But, having you near is so comforting to him and your mother. Take each day as it comes. Be upbeat and positive when you can. You’ve been so strong and caring for them all this time. Maybe the American Cancer Society has a support group that you could go to. Would that help you to deal with stress?

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Thank you two!!!!
After a good cry… im good- pressing on! Ill be by their my parents side through this till whatever the outcome. It just gets, hard at times. The ups n downs But crying helps a lot. I cant “fix” this. And mom gets so sad about dad- 1st but also naturally thinks about possibly being alone- i told her as long as God keeps me here -you wont be.
but i can only do what im doing and thats just what im going to continue to do! This is my outlet- mayo connect- ill never get to personal but i am SO thankful as ill never stop saying – for this small place online filled with so much cyber love, support, straight talk and invaluable info. Thanks for being here:) their home is all decorated and trees up:)

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