My dad has a mass on bladder and kidney not functioning

Posted by formydad @formydad, Apr 24, 2019

He is getting surgery tomorrow to remove mass have no idea if cancerous- assuming they will send off – doc said removal may”jump start his kidney which he was unaware is not functioning.. he had prostate cancer and has brach treatment i believe – that cancers gone but i have been reading that having had radiation for it may lead to bladder cancer – anyone experience this?

@formydad

Lol – i’ll clean her house for her-
She would never be able to let someone else do it too picky about that for sure 🙂 shes trained me well!
Im gonna head there for that the end of the week 🙂 she is sore and currently sitting in another er with dad tonight- in pain with no meds and her phones dying- 🥺 mom said stay put ill call u with more tomorrow.. mom says shes not letting them send him home in pain like he is in -they did an mri saw where his bladder was theres fluid filling it tht where the pain is-waiting in urologist to decide what next- she said he’ll either be here or shipped to barnes… so guess ill find out more in the am.. my aunt n uncle are also on call with mom- and they can get there faster than me im about an hour from them.. ill keep ya updated. Poor mom no meds and shes hurting 🙁 dads hurting too -pray

Jump to this post

@formydad I hope when you read this, that both your mom and dad have been offered some relief from their issues! It's such a difficult place to be, as a child you look to them to caretake you and now the role is reversed! What type fluid was determined to be in your dad's abdomen? Holding you all close in prayer.
Ginger

REPLY
@formydad

Lol – i’ll clean her house for her-
She would never be able to let someone else do it too picky about that for sure 🙂 shes trained me well!
Im gonna head there for that the end of the week 🙂 she is sore and currently sitting in another er with dad tonight- in pain with no meds and her phones dying- 🥺 mom said stay put ill call u with more tomorrow.. mom says shes not letting them send him home in pain like he is in -they did an mri saw where his bladder was theres fluid filling it tht where the pain is-waiting in urologist to decide what next- she said he’ll either be here or shipped to barnes… so guess ill find out more in the am.. my aunt n uncle are also on call with mom- and they can get there faster than me im about an hour from them.. ill keep ya updated. Poor mom no meds and shes hurting 🙁 dads hurting too -pray

Jump to this post

I am so sorry to hear this @formydad. Was your mom ever given anything for pain? You might call her doctor to ask for something. As for your dad, I’m just feeling helpless and sad. I’m so glad your mother got him to the ER where he/they can get help. And you’re going to be there! Your presence will make such a difference. It’s very difficult, though, to see frail, elderly parents who were once such strong, energetic persons, isn’t it?
But, how about you? You’ve taken on such a huge, but important, task. How are you taking care of yourself?

REPLY
@becsbuddy

I am so sorry to hear this @formydad. Was your mom ever given anything for pain? You might call her doctor to ask for something. As for your dad, I’m just feeling helpless and sad. I’m so glad your mother got him to the ER where he/they can get help. And you’re going to be there! Your presence will make such a difference. It’s very difficult, though, to see frail, elderly parents who were once such strong, energetic persons, isn’t it?
But, how about you? You’ve taken on such a huge, but important, task. How are you taking care of yourself?

Jump to this post

Its not easy seeing your parents age or yourself i think. Its hard but its life.
My husbands mom n dad have been having issues too lately- his dad passed out at a poker game and his heart thing was set too high so it didnt shock him- so Ended up at hospital for observation-hes following up with cardiologist- and his mom is in a home- started in independent living- had a small stroke and uti moved to assisted in same complex was doing therapy- but never was able to get back to walking or doing enough anymore to be in assisted shes in memory care part now and its worse! She was found on floor yesterday am from bed! – im daughter in law so gotta stay zipped there are eight kids and the one in charge of medical lives in texas😵 she calls gets ahold of people ect but old fashioned get in peoples faces is the best and most fruitful for movement or attention to an issue i think. Ive been reading on delirium Vs. Dementia and i think she has delirium- maybe another uti
Shes swollen she has heart issues and she said she thinks she has narcolepsy now..idk its hard for me to stand on sidelines but i know i have to although i did tell them id be glad to get in faces up the food chain to get some results.
They are testing the fluid in his abdomen now to see if it is urine or something else.they are putting a drain in bigger than what he had right after operation so idk how long he’ll be in here…
– i was perusing online reading and thought it might be ascites but the nurse said no she thinks it may be a fissure or something related to post op not ongoing which hopefully is a better senario.

REPLY

Mom did get meds they gave her naproxin and a muscle relaxer at hosp to fill then she followed up with her doc cause she was still hurting bad he gave her prednosone so now shes only taking that and asprin using heating pad

REPLY

They are testing the liquid in his abdomen they ended up getting out 1100ccs! 😵poor dad. Nurse says looks like urine to her they are keeping him for cultures to make sure no infection – mom reating at my aunts tonight. Will go back up tomorrow..

REPLY
@formydad

They are testing the liquid in his abdomen they ended up getting out 1100ccs! 😵poor dad. Nurse says looks like urine to her they are keeping him for cultures to make sure no infection – mom reating at my aunts tonight. Will go back up tomorrow..

Jump to this post

@formydad You all certainly have had your share, haven't you? How is everyone doing this morning?
Ginger

REPLY
@formydad

Its not easy seeing your parents age or yourself i think. Its hard but its life.
My husbands mom n dad have been having issues too lately- his dad passed out at a poker game and his heart thing was set too high so it didnt shock him- so Ended up at hospital for observation-hes following up with cardiologist- and his mom is in a home- started in independent living- had a small stroke and uti moved to assisted in same complex was doing therapy- but never was able to get back to walking or doing enough anymore to be in assisted shes in memory care part now and its worse! She was found on floor yesterday am from bed! – im daughter in law so gotta stay zipped there are eight kids and the one in charge of medical lives in texas😵 she calls gets ahold of people ect but old fashioned get in peoples faces is the best and most fruitful for movement or attention to an issue i think. Ive been reading on delirium Vs. Dementia and i think she has delirium- maybe another uti
Shes swollen she has heart issues and she said she thinks she has narcolepsy now..idk its hard for me to stand on sidelines but i know i have to although i did tell them id be glad to get in faces up the food chain to get some results.
They are testing the fluid in his abdomen now to see if it is urine or something else.they are putting a drain in bigger than what he had right after operation so idk how long he’ll be in here…
– i was perusing online reading and thought it might be ascites but the nurse said no she thinks it may be a fissure or something related to post op not ongoing which hopefully is a better senario.

Jump to this post

@formydad Wow, I had no idea that you were dealing with your husbands family also! You might just have to let that go and concentrate on only your parents. And yourself and your husband. Think you could do that? Maybe he could suggest MayoClinicConnect to his sister—it might give her some ideas and an outlet for stress. Please take care of yourself. Becky

REPLY
@gingerw

@formydad You all certainly have had your share, haven't you? How is everyone doing this morning?
Ginger

Jump to this post

I will take care thanks🥰. I didnt go up today but dad gets to go hone tomorrow ill grab mom n go up n wait till they release him n ill take them home- they’ve Found there seems to be no infection thats good it was just body made fluid in his body cavity not urine… he’ll have to go home with the other bag and depending on how much contents will determine how long he’ll have.. going home with two bags oh yay..🙄 but he is feeling tons better can go to bathroom and hes not in pain. Thats all good. Then he’ll have to return so surgeon can remove at some point. Thanks for just being an ear 🙂 and hangin in on this rollercoaster of events. I will suggest this site to his family😊

REPLY
@formydad

I will take care thanks🥰. I didnt go up today but dad gets to go hone tomorrow ill grab mom n go up n wait till they release him n ill take them home- they’ve Found there seems to be no infection thats good it was just body made fluid in his body cavity not urine… he’ll have to go home with the other bag and depending on how much contents will determine how long he’ll have.. going home with two bags oh yay..🙄 but he is feeling tons better can go to bathroom and hes not in pain. Thats all good. Then he’ll have to return so surgeon can remove at some point. Thanks for just being an ear 🙂 and hangin in on this rollercoaster of events. I will suggest this site to his family😊

Jump to this post

@formydad It’s really good to hear that your dad is going home! Does he have Home Care or Visiting Nurses to help manage the drains, etc? Give your mom a cyber hug from me!

REPLY
@formydad

I will take care thanks🥰. I didnt go up today but dad gets to go hone tomorrow ill grab mom n go up n wait till they release him n ill take them home- they’ve Found there seems to be no infection thats good it was just body made fluid in his body cavity not urine… he’ll have to go home with the other bag and depending on how much contents will determine how long he’ll have.. going home with two bags oh yay..🙄 but he is feeling tons better can go to bathroom and hes not in pain. Thats all good. Then he’ll have to return so surgeon can remove at some point. Thanks for just being an ear 🙂 and hangin in on this rollercoaster of events. I will suggest this site to his family😊

Jump to this post

@formydad This well may be such a memorable holiday season for all your family, this year, right?! Glad your dad is going home. How is your mom doing with her aches. And how are you holding up? We're glad you have included us in your day.
Ginger

REPLY
@formydad

Its not easy seeing your parents age or yourself i think. Its hard but its life.
My husbands mom n dad have been having issues too lately- his dad passed out at a poker game and his heart thing was set too high so it didnt shock him- so Ended up at hospital for observation-hes following up with cardiologist- and his mom is in a home- started in independent living- had a small stroke and uti moved to assisted in same complex was doing therapy- but never was able to get back to walking or doing enough anymore to be in assisted shes in memory care part now and its worse! She was found on floor yesterday am from bed! – im daughter in law so gotta stay zipped there are eight kids and the one in charge of medical lives in texas😵 she calls gets ahold of people ect but old fashioned get in peoples faces is the best and most fruitful for movement or attention to an issue i think. Ive been reading on delirium Vs. Dementia and i think she has delirium- maybe another uti
Shes swollen she has heart issues and she said she thinks she has narcolepsy now..idk its hard for me to stand on sidelines but i know i have to although i did tell them id be glad to get in faces up the food chain to get some results.
They are testing the fluid in his abdomen now to see if it is urine or something else.they are putting a drain in bigger than what he had right after operation so idk how long he’ll be in here…
– i was perusing online reading and thought it might be ascites but the nurse said no she thinks it may be a fissure or something related to post op not ongoing which hopefully is a better senario.

Jump to this post

@formydad You sure have your hands full with both sets of parents having aging problems. I agree with @becsbuddy, you may just need to let your in-law's problems to be handled by some of their 8 offspring. You can't do everything. Hopefully some of them live closer than the one in Texas.
JK

REPLY

Yeah- im letting his family handle his parents just giving suggestions from the sidelines😉 one more of the 8 lives in seattle but the rest are nearby. which is good.
Dads settled at home with his drain and new Urostomy bag.still has dull healing pain. He also has been getting a benign-cyst .- (at least it was last scan)on his brain watched- however this past Friday he had another check up scan done and they want him to make apt to come in- he wasn't at home to set it up but geeze it better not be anything! Moms taking it easy. “For her”- gonna help her get some christmas shopping done next week. Yes dad has home nurse care that come help. And he was finally able to get some good phone #rs for who to call if he has issues next time. yes it aure is a memorable year!

REPLY
Please sign in or register to post a reply.