Is your spouse sleeping too much?

Yes, I remember my brother seemed to sleep 22 hours a day, just woke for bathroom and meal time.....remember to take time for yourself......you need to relax and refresh

I am new to this site. I am a caregiver to a 92 yr old man. When I started with him he went to bed at 7 pm and got up every morning at 6 am. That was 6 yrs ago. Then he started staying up until 9 pm and getting up at 6 am. He recently had a heart rhythm change, was in the hospital for 5 days. Came out, now he is going to bed between 7-8 pm and getting up anywhere fro 5-10 am. Falls asleep in the recliner for most of the day. I make it a point to be up whenever he gets up, but this is a bit much for me. Mainly because they expect me to take his glucose reading first thing in the morning when he gets up. I am up getting my work done until 11 pm on a regular basis. For a few nights there, I went to bed by 8:30 because I had time to take my last breathing treatment of the day as soon as he went to bed, but it doesn't always turn out that way. I must admit, it did feel could to be in bed so early. I am ok when he is regulated but here lately, he is everything but regulated. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

@karmar Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! You certainly have long work hours! What do you have to do until 11pm? You should be able to sleep when he does—at least for your mental health.
Were you hired by the family or an agency? Can you talk with the person who hired you to see if you can get a relief aide to help in the evenings?
I’m sure some members will join soon and give you their experiences and tips.

I work until 11 to complete my own work. It is my home in which he lives. Only I am responsible for up keep in all that deals with home ownership. I take four breathing treatments a day, all 4 of which he is asleep. If I slept when he does, I wouldn't have enough time to get the work done. I volunteered my home and my services to take care of him because I have a high respect for him and his service to this country, which I take seriously as well. None of his family have any use for him, which I find horrible to treat your father that way. I'd give anything to have my dad back. He died in 1988, way to early at age 65. I am also a big believer in you take care of your own. He is not my father, but he is a father, deserving of love and care.

I do grab a power nap on most days, some days it is impossible. Night time is not deep sleep because I always keep ears open for noises from his room. There are a lot of good days too, I guess I am maybe magnifying the times it gets the best of me. Thank you for listening.