Help - I am burned out and dealing with someone who is stubborn

I'm sure your husband knows you are just trying to help and deep down he appreciates it. But I think it's hard for them to accept that things are going to be different and there will come a time when they cannot do for themselves and will have to depend on someone else. I do what I can for my husband but when he gets that way I just remind myself that this whole thing is hard for him too.

I do go to the grocery store and walk around. Otherwise just stay with him and help him get around the house

Any one on here who has to deal with a stubborn, hardheaded partner? My husband has late stage iv lung cancer and advanced COPD. He has had two chemoimmunotherapy treatments so far. His symptoms after wards have not been good. He vomits daily and can't eat anything without throwing up afterwards. He has been given compazine which did not seem to work for him. Now he has zprexa and zofran. Just got those ones yesterday. Hopefully he will start to feel better. But what makes me angry is that he won't try anything I suggest. Was going to make him peppermint tea with honey. He told me he does not like tea. There is boost in the frig which he won't drink. We have gingerale. He did try once, but threw up shortly after drinking it. I suggested crackers and he said he did not like crackers because they are dry. I said I can add oyster crackers to you soup. They will get soggy. He said NO. He never drinks water. Only coffee and milk. Bought him gatorade and he said I don't like it. He won't drink milkshakes. Did make him two weeks ago and he said he did not want to drink them anymore. I am at my wit's end. He weighs 92 pounds and is 5'10. It does not matter what I suggest, he doesn't like it or he makes some other excuse. I know that he is dehydrated but he won't even think about drinking water. We all do things that we don't like, but if it is going to help,, most of us will try it. Not him. And sorry to say, but I am TIRED of it. Last Sunday, I ordered ginger and peppermint tea from amazon. Guess I will be drinking it. Guess I will just have to watch him disintergrate into nothing but bones. Sorry for the rant.

My husbands chemo started in august 2022. The chemo pills(lonsurf) are stopping the small tumors from growing but one large tumor keeps growing. He needs a biopsy to see if it is a different cancer. Take care of yourself It can be a Long ride

Any one on here who has to deal with a stubborn, hardheaded partner? My husband has late stage iv lung cancer and advanced COPD. He has had two chemoimmunotherapy treatments so far. His symptoms after wards have not been good. He vomits daily and can't eat anything without throwing up afterwards. He has been given compazine which did not seem to work for him. Now he has zprexa and zofran. Just got those ones yesterday. Hopefully he will start to feel better. But what makes me angry is that he won't try anything I suggest. Was going to make him peppermint tea with honey. He told me he does not like tea. There is boost in the frig which he won't drink. We have gingerale. He did try once, but threw up shortly after drinking it. I suggested crackers and he said he did not like crackers because they are dry. I said I can add oyster crackers to you soup. They will get soggy. He said NO. He never drinks water. Only coffee and milk. Bought him gatorade and he said I don't like it. He won't drink milkshakes. Did make him two weeks ago and he said he did not want to drink them anymore. I am at my wit's end. He weighs 92 pounds and is 5'10. It does not matter what I suggest, he doesn't like it or he makes some other excuse. I know that he is dehydrated but he won't even think about drinking water. We all do things that we don't like, but if it is going to help,, most of us will try it. Not him. And sorry to say, but I am TIRED of it. Last Sunday, I ordered ginger and peppermint tea from amazon. Guess I will be drinking it. Guess I will just have to watch him disintergrate into nothing but bones. Sorry for the rant.

@denise96 and the group -- Just wanted to chime in and say "stubborn" patients come in both genders... got one over here.

It's a MAJOR challenge to get her to increase fluids... partake in physical exercise... do recommended brain "exercises," or follow through on other medical suggestions (related to diet, lifestyle, etc).

FRUSTRATING.

/LarryG

It is reassuring to hear others feel the level of frustration that I do and that this is a normal feeling as a caregiver. My husband does not have cancer, but has a myriad of health issues (diabetes, heart condition, neuropathy, mild cognitive issues). He is battling depression, which is being treated by our primary physician, but he refuses to go to therapy. He is very rude at times and his level of frustration is hard to deal with at times. I try to remember that he has lost his driving privileges and no longer can perform some of the basic everyday tasks.

I am my brothers caretaker. dealing with an angry & depressed brother who is about to have BMT. He cusses a lot, blames everyone from government to family for life issues. He complained a lot before he got sick and now 10 times worse.
My heart goes out to anyone who is in similar circumstances. Hugs❤️

I am my brothers caretaker. dealing with an angry & depressed brother who is about to have BMT. He cusses a lot, blames everyone from government to family for life issues. He complained a lot before he got sick and now 10 times worse.
My heart goes out to anyone who is in similar circumstances. Hugs❤️

What does bmt mean? It must be very frustrating for you to deal with this. today, I am beginning to feel like a servant. all i heard was "get me this, get me that. dont forget an ice cube in my milk. the soup is not warm enough there is too much broth." and on and on. well tomorrow I am going shopping with my mom and I can't wait. I asked him if he would be OK and he said yes. I did msg my son and asked him to check in on him either in person or by phone. In the 27 years since my husband moved from pittsburgh to where I live, he has not made any friends. He is not a social person and never tried to be a friend to anyone. NOw when he could use someone to sit with him for awhile, there is no one he can call. Sad but true. Hang in there. Have you tried duck tape? lol